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Anonymous wrote:Hi,

So we have an international family wedding in a few months. They have Monday and Tuesday off as holidays tgag week so he would need to take wed-Friday off and then we couldn’t fly back until Monday. It’s in Asia so across the world. Which means he would go right back to school on Tuesday after a day and night time difference.

He really doesn’t want to miss 4-5 days of school as he feels he gets behind even with 1-2 days. And he wouldn’t have any real recovery time before going back to school after flying back…

Has anyone done this before? We are thinking that it’s too much for a week anyways, and maybe better for just one parent to go alone instead of with kids.

But is 4-5 days too much in AAP?

Your kid doesn't even want to go. I don't get the question?

Are you asking if you should force your kid to go to a wedding on the other side of the world for people he barely knows?
And have him adjust to a 12 hour time zone difference twice in just over a week?
While missing 3 days of school when they are not really crushing their academic game?

If there is nobody to leave h8im with then one of you has to stay.

OP here. This my son’s cousin’s wedding. He knows him very well. And if it wasn’t school, he really wanted to go. But we have made the decision that only my husband will go. It’s too stressful for my son and also just overall. Too stressful for a week. We have a younger one too and it would totally mess up her schedule as well. Thx for the feedback.

Anonymous wrote:Hi,

So we have an international family wedding in a few months. They have Monday and Tuesday off as holidays tgag week so he would need to take wed-Friday off and then we couldn’t fly back until Monday. It’s in Asia so across the world. Which means he would go right back to school on Tuesday after a day and night time difference.

He really doesn’t want to miss 4-5 days of school as he feels he gets behind even with 1-2 days. And he wouldn’t have any real recovery time before going back to school after flying back…

Has anyone done this before? We are thinking that it’s too much for a week anyways, and maybe better for just one parent to go alone instead of with kids.

But is 4-5 days too much in AAP?

Your kid doesn't even want to go. I don't get the question?

Are you asking if you should force your kid to go to a wedding on the other side of the world for people he barely knows?
And have him adjust to a 12 hour time zone difference twice in just over a week?
While missing 3 days of school when they are not really crushing their academic game?

If there is nobody to leave h8im with then one of you has to stay.

My 10th grader had to miss a week of school for an unavoidable family obligation. He worked with his teachers beforehand, kept up with work while we were away, fortunately, did not miss any major assessments and worked his butt off when he got home to make up for the missed time. Two things worked in his favor – first, it was at the very beginning of a new grading so he had time to catch up and second, it fell during the one month of the year that he has no extracurricular activities, so he had plenty of time after school to make up for what he missed. I won’t say it was ideal, but in the end, he was happier to take the trip and deal with the consequences.

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Anonymous wrote:Other than the high school level classes (usually language and math), the grades in 8th grade don't matter in high school or college.

This is literally the last year where that will be true. Focus on those high school level classes in terms of getting ahead on work and catching up when they get home, but then go. Travel with your kid while you have the chance.

Math higher than Algebra counts toward HS GPA, correct me if I am wrong!

Yes and geography if they take that.

What MS offers HS level geography?

Geometry I mean. Geez

LOL Cool enough. I had a geography class in MS as a kid and I think it is a great idea, I just hadn't heard about it in FCPS. I knew about the math and language classes.

OP: Maybe reach out and see if there is a HS student in your neighborhood who could help your kid with Geometry or look for a tutor. It would be better to get him help now to get on track. Geometry can be hard for kids because it is a different approach to math, I know I hated proofs.

I think that he was applying the same approach that he did in algebra. He has never struggled in math and took it for granted. This year, same method is NOT working… can’t wait till last minute or let things just build up. He does get tutoring. But a good amount is that he needs to sit down and understand and memorize all the theorems!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other than the high school level classes (usually language and math), the grades in 8th grade don't matter in high school or college.

This is literally the last year where that will be true. Focus on those high school level classes in terms of getting ahead on work and catching up when they get home, but then go. Travel with your kid while you have the chance.

Math higher than Algebra counts toward HS GPA, correct me if I am wrong!

Yes and geography if they take that.

What MS offers HS level geography?

Geometry I mean. Geez

LOL Cool enough. I had a geography class in MS as a kid and I think it is a great idea, I just hadn't heard about it in FCPS. I knew about the math and language classes.

OP: Maybe reach out and see if there is a HS student in your neighborhood who could help your kid with Geometry or look for a tutor. It would be better to get him help now to get on track. Geometry can be hard for kids because it is a different approach to math, I know I hated proofs.

Thanks all, for the responses that were actually helpful and not rude. I won’t be taking him. My husband can go on his own. My kid is already majorly stressed with geometry and falling behind generally so likely not a good idea. Thanks

Anonymous wrote:Plan better. You knew when the dates were off for the school year.

I’m pretty sure OP didn’t have a say as to when her family member planned their wedding.l

OP, my 8th grade AAP kid kind of freaks out about having to miss one day of school. She would absolutely hate this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other than the high school level classes (usually language and math), the grades in 8th grade don't matter in high school or college.

This is literally the last year where that will be true. Focus on those high school level classes in terms of getting ahead on work and catching up when they get home, but then go. Travel with your kid while you have the chance.

Math higher than Algebra counts toward HS GPA, correct me if I am wrong!

Yes and geography if they take that.

What MS offers HS level geography?

Geometry I mean. Geez

Anonymous wrote:OP is pathetic. Putting weddings ahead of education and messing up kids who want to just attend school.

So sorry for OP's children.

I’m OP. And there’s a reason I am asking. I’m asking others experiences. I won’t be taking him. Say anything when anonymous, right?

OP is pathetic. Putting weddings ahead of education and messing up kids who want to just attend school.

So sorry for OP's children.

Anonymous wrote:The jet lag will be horrible and your child probably won’t learn much that week they are back. I would not do this.

It sounds like they won't be there long enough to adjust to the new time zone. It sounds like a fast trip with almost as much time spent on a plane as on the ground.

The jet lag will be horrible and your child probably won’t learn much that week they are back. I would not do this.

I took my kids out for 3 days for a family trip. They are the same ages as yours. My 5th grader was unbothered. But my middle schooler was hit harder than I expected. Because it was unexcused the teachers did not have to give her time to make up assignments. Anything she turned in when she returned was marked late. There were some assignments she was never given and marked late when she didn't turn them in because she didn't know. It was stressful. I didn't realize that unexcused was treated differently. I would look at what part of quarter you are going. If it is at the end and they miss a bunch of stuff that will be on the report card I would probably not make my 8th grader go. If it is the beginning of the quarter it would be easier to make the work, but the gradebook will look like all Fs for a minute while he does the missing work.
We will avoid taking the kids out again. We learned out lesson, but it was an amazing trip and I am glad I didn't know how hard it would be to catch back up!

Anonymous wrote:Take the trip. They won’t remember the missed school but they will remember the trip. Have them work with the teachers so they have work and won’t come back super behind.

The OP said her son is struggling with Geometry as it is.

OP, it sunds like your son could benefit from working with a tutor to help with Geometry, regardless of taking the trip or not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Other than the high school level classes (usually language and math), the grades in 8th grade don't matter in high school or college.

This is literally the last year where that will be true. Focus on those high school level classes in terms of getting ahead on work and catching up when they get home, but then go. Travel with your kid while you have the chance.

Math higher than Algebra counts toward HS GPA, correct me if I am wrong!

Yes and geography if they take that.

What MS offers HS level geography?