Anonymous wrote:We did a live-in nanny for a while. The convenience is AMAZING. But it does cost $$$.

OP, you mention that you are considering this to lower your out of pocket expenses. Do you want to share the math? Having a live in nanny increased our expenses in a number of ways:

Getting take out. Of course if you are taking orders for take out and she's sitting there, you are going to include her! We were getting take out 1-2x/week so including her entrees added up.

She's at your house, so you're going to include her in things like birthday parties, fancy dinners, social events, etc. On her bday we threw her a party and got her a bunch of gifts. Adds up.

It's her house and she'll rightly expect to use it. We have a pool so our nanny hosted a few pool parties. We let her and her guests eat our food/drinks. Adds up.

Your utility bills will go up a bit. Our nanny liked hot showers and keeping her windows open in the winter. LOL.

I found that another person in the house meant stuff did wear out quicker, etc. She ruined a very nice Le Cruset dutch oven because she didn't understand enamel scratches, and she ruined my Dyson. This stuff happens, you have to accept it and eat the cost.

She wanted to go along with us on certain outings (this could be very nanny dependent) so obviously we would buy her lunch here or there.

The biggest thing I learned is that we don't have a great set up for a live in nanny. Our nanny is VERY social and it wasn't a good fit for me (a total introvert). We didn't have a basement apt or in law suite - she was just in a large bedroom with her own bathroom. Having to share the common areas was very painful for me.

But, again, for the time we did it, the convenience was unparalleled. No cancellations due to bad weather or car trouble. Less sick days off. Working late or last minute switches to the schedule became easy. Just don't think it's going to be easy on your pocketbook!

Anonymous wrote:We did a live-in nanny for a while. The convenience is AMAZING. But it does cost $$$.

OP, you mention that you are considering this to lower your out of pocket expenses. Do you want to share the math? Having a live in nanny increased our expenses in a number of ways:

Getting take out. Of course if you are taking orders for take out and she's sitting there, you are going to include her! We were getting take out 1-2x/week so including her entrees added up.

She's at your house, so you're going to include her in things like birthday parties, fancy dinners, social events, etc. On her bday we threw her a party and got her a bunch of gifts. Adds up.

It's her house and she'll rightly expect to use it. We have a pool so our nanny hosted a few pool parties. We let her and her guests eat our food/drinks. Adds up.

Your utility bills will go up a bit. Our nanny liked hot showers and keeping her windows open in the winter. LOL.

I found that another person in the house meant stuff did wear out quicker, etc. She ruined a very nice Le Cruset dutch oven because she didn't understand enamel scratches, and she ruined my Dyson. This stuff happens, you have to accept it and eat the cost.

She wanted to go along with us on certain outings (this could be very nanny dependent) so obviously we would buy her lunch here or there.

The biggest thing I learned is that we don't have a great set up for a live in nanny. Our nanny is VERY social and it wasn't a good fit for me (a total introvert). We didn't have a basement apt or in law suite - she was just in a large bedroom with her own bathroom. Having to share the common areas was very painful for me.

But, again, for the time we did it, the convenience was unparalleled. No cancellations due to bad weather or car trouble. Less sick days off. Working late or last minute switches to the schedule became easy. Just don't think it's going to be easy on your pocketbook!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And I should clarify that this proposed new arrangement would still have her earning ~80k/yr or $30/hr. We are certainly not trying to take advantage of anyone.

That is one hella deal! Lucky gal who gets that job.

+1 80K a year plus free room and board sounds great.

Anonymous wrote:We did a live-in nanny for a while. The convenience is AMAZING. But it does cost $$$.

OP, you mention that you are considering this to lower your out of pocket expenses. Do you want to share the math? Having a live in nanny increased our expenses in a number of ways:

Getting take out. Of course if you are taking orders for take out and she's sitting there, you are going to include her! We were getting take out 1-2x/week so including her entrees added up.

She's at your house, so you're going to include her in things like birthday parties, fancy dinners, social events, etc. On her bday we threw her a party and got her a bunch of gifts. Adds up.

It's her house and she'll rightly expect to use it. We have a pool so our nanny hosted a few pool parties. We let her and her guests eat our food/drinks. Adds up.

Your utility bills will go up a bit. Our nanny liked hot showers and keeping her windows open in the winter. LOL.

I found that another person in the house meant stuff did wear out quicker, etc. She ruined a very nice Le Cruset dutch oven because she didn't understand enamel scratches, and she ruined my Dyson. This stuff happens, you have to accept it and eat the cost.

She wanted to go along with us on certain outings (this could be very nanny dependent) so obviously we would buy her lunch here or there.

The biggest thing I learned is that we don't have a great set up for a live in nanny. Our nanny is VERY social and it wasn't a good fit for me (a total introvert). We didn't have a basement apt or in law suite - she was just in a large bedroom with her own bathroom. Having to share the common areas was very painful for me.

But, again, for the time we did it, the convenience was unparalleled. No cancellations due to bad weather or car trouble. Less sick days off. Working late or last minute switches to the schedule became easy. Just don't think it's going to be easy on your pocketbook!

Anonymous wrote:OP, you realize room and BOARD means food; right?

If you believe it will be such a burden to grocery shop for her, add that to her responsibilities.

Anonymous wrote:a live in is worth about 5/hour more than live out. ours is 16/hour if we got a live out it would be 20+/hour

Anonymous wrote:OP. She would have a kitchenette and still have full access to our kitchen and anywhere else in the house whenever she wants. She's been with us for 1+ yr already and is very comfortable. She was always a live-in nanny until she began working for us, as we didnt have the space at the time, and she gave the impression that was her preference. We are now willing to convert nearly our entire walk-out basement into a nanny suite. I understand you cant deduct rent from wages, but as the job scope and needs will be entirely different when our youngest goes to school I do feel it's logical to redefine the role and terms. And from what Ive read, the idea of using an estimated value for the room & board as part of the total salary package is fair.

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Anonymous wrote:Live in nannies make the same as live out and in some cases, more. They are living in and a convenience to you.

They better hold on to that job like gold.
Most don't get much at all as their living arrangement = rent and a huge portion of their salary.

Anonymous wrote:We're a family in NWDC with 3 kids (8, 6, 2) exploring childcare options for when our youngest starts full time preschool. One parent has a job that requires frequent travel and has an unpredictable schedule, and the other has a predictable schedule but also travels ~5x/yr for 3-5 days at a time.
In order to guarantee childcare coverage, it seems a full time nanny will still be necessary for our situation despite not actually needing her help full time/year round. We're considering having our current nanny move in in order to bring down the out of pocket spend.
Responsibilities would be: breakfast/packing lunches and dropping off youngest in the mornings, light tidying/dishes/laundry/dinner prep for a few hours of her choice during the day, and childcare roughly 3-6pm.
I'd prefer not to buy groceries on her behalf as that is an additional time burden I cant take on, so meals shouldn't be included in "room and board" value.

Does anyone have a similar arrangement, and if so what is the hourly rate or annual wages?

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Anonymous wrote:And I should clarify that this proposed new arrangement would still have her earning ~80k/yr or $30/hr. We are certainly not trying to take advantage of anyone.

That is one hella deal! Lucky gal who gets that job.