Anonymous wrote:Be aware that trans identification among teens is often a social contagion and their identity may change with age and maturity. Several of my child’s friends identified as trans or nonbinary or gender fluid in high school but it’s unclear whether they still do.

This.

Everyone will know. I, personally, think having people that know them to support them is better than being the new kid that is "weird" with no support.

Be aware that trans identification among teens is often a social contagion and their identity may change with age and maturity. Several of my child’s friends identified as trans or nonbinary or gender fluid in high school but it’s unclear whether they still do.

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Anonymous wrote:Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

MASSIVE cliche PP. MASSIVE

Not a cliche, a fact.

Anonymous wrote:You can be trans and not pegged as a theater kid, you could be into painting, sewing, weaving, track, physics, engineering.

Do not let yourself be restricted by the cliched definitions of others

Of course you don’t have to be a theater kid. I was just suggesting that the OP’s kid may feel like less of an outlier if they join a club where a) they may be around individuals who are going through the same experience and b) with an accepting group of people. They absolutely should join any sport/club/activity that they want to, theater is just a suggestion if they aren’t sure they’ll be 100% confident about themselves (and hey, who is in high school? But transitioning is a lot of change in many ways)

You can be trans and not pegged as a theater kid, you could be into painting, sewing, weaving, track, physics, engineering.

Do not let yourself be restricted by the cliched definitions of others

Anonymous wrote:Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

100% this

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

MASSIVE cliche PP. MASSIVE

Well my kids are in theater in school and there are at least 3 kids I know are trans and many more that identify as non binary and other colors of the lgbtq+ flag. My teens have done outside theater companies as well and this is a common theme.

What has been your experience, pp? Why do you call this a cliche?

I agree with this. Band and music too if this interests them.

Anonymous wrote:stay away from WJ. My trans kid gets picked on a lot.

I’m sorry to hear that and somewhat surprised since my sense is that my kids there have trans friends and consider it NBD. I do know that my kids have the sense that there are jerks everywhere including WJ. I guess one question might be whether they feel like they have allies who stand up for them, and whether they feel like the bullies rule the school.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

MASSIVE cliche PP. MASSIVE

Well my kids are in theater in school and there are at least 3 kids I know are trans and many more that identify as non binary and other colors of the lgbtq+ flag. My teens have done outside theater companies as well and this is a common theme.

What has been your experience, pp? Why do you call this a cliche?

Anonymous wrote:Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

MASSIVE cliche PP. MASSIVE

Wherever your kid ends up, encourage them to join the theater productions. On stage, tech crew, painting sets, whatever. Theater kids are very accepting and will likely already have trans kids.

B-CC!

My daughter had several transgender friends in her friend group at Whitman. I can’t speak to their experience but they obviously had friends! They were very sweet kids.

Whitman. As others have noted, is a supporting and positive environment, so far, for trans kids.

You can never predict who is going to be a bully, but they have locked down how they handle that as well, so your chances are good there.