Anonymous wrote:I would look for a place with memory care in case you need it. They sound like they may need more than assisted living. “Assisted” is not very “assisted” ime.

This and surgery on an 80 year old can quick go way south. Anesthesia with old people is not something to be taken lightly, and they might wake up in full blown dementia. Kensignton has a good reputation. Not sure about the Westbard one, but the original in Old Town Kensington.

I think you hit the important points. You do all the visits and only take your parents to the top two or three so it's not overwhelming. Ask to have a meal during the visit - they all did this for us no problem. Food is so important to a lot of seniors' happiness so don't overlook it. My parents settled on Brightview Alexandria and move in next week. The staff has been wonderful and partner with a moving company to assist in knowing what furniture will fit in the apartment.

Many places we visited have a two-year wait list for two bedroom apartments so just be aware of that in your timeline.

Not OP but following. My in laws live in the Midwest in independent living but we are seeing need for a step up in care and may try to move them here. One has memory issues but is physically reasonably sound. Other has physical issues but is mentally sharp. Looking for a place that will let them be together and has a continuum of care. NoVA.