Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

The issue is the lack of sex.
It's understandably not working for you.
You don't have to make up scenario of him cheating or find evidence of cheating.
You can divorce him for the no sex.

Yeah…. This.

No sex in a decade. Are you waiting for your kids to grow up? I can't think of any other good reason to put up with that. It kind of tells me you couldn't care less about sex, which makes me wonder why you would be upset if he was cheating.

If you think that your husband would possibly lie to you about ANYthing then you need to take a huge step back ➕ examine your marriage.

Because w/out basic trust - - you really do not even have a foundation on which to base your relationship on.

Living w/someone whose integrity you do not trust never boded well for anyone.

It’s spam. Spam texts I’ve received in the past month:

Hi, how are you?

Hey, let’s catch up.

Up for a round of golf this week?

I’m in town, want to meet to get ribs? (This was my fave)

Fishing tects

Lack of punctuation is spam

They are so much fun to play with. I love stringing them along with their invites to lunch + oooops, wrong number = you seem so nice, maybe we can be friends ?!?

The fact that you’re spying on his texts speaks volumes.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We have not been intimate in a decade (his choice, he's heavily medicated) so I will be pretty mad if he's stepping out. We do have a dog.

The issue is the lack of sex.
It's understandably not working for you.
You don't have to make up scenario of him cheating or find evidence of cheating.
You can divorce him for the no sex.

Oh gosh, totally spam. This week I got

“Hey, are you free for lunch this week?”

And

“What have you been up to lately?”

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+1
Are you coming to dinner?
I am visiting Maryland..
And so on.

I get "how are u" most but a couple of times I got "I'm visiting [insert my city], will you be around?" And "is this [insert mine or someone else's name]"
I'm fairly sure a friend or relative will say who they are

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+ 1 I get 2–5 a week.

It's spam.

Anonymous wrote:I get bs spam texts that sound just like that all the time. I assume it is some scammer, but might just be a wrong number. I usually block and delete in case it is some scammer. All that's to say, go ahead and ask, but an "I don't know" isn't necessarily a lie.

+1
Are you coming to dinner?
I am visiting Maryland..
And so on.

Anonymous wrote:2 texts, 2 different numbers (no names) in DH's phone...
One said: how are you?
The other one: What a cute dog! What's her name?

Is it just spam or should I be concerned? Should i ask DH (even though he could lie)

We all get these random texts, nobody gets suspicious of their spouses, unless they are already suspicious of them. .