You’re a great mom! She is lucky to have your support. Although I never had an unwanted pregnancy, I had a mom like you. She was a L&D nurse and she spoke to us openly about all related topics. I was never afraid to approach her. I have made it a point to do the same for my daughter and sons.

I hope it all goes smoothly for her.

Good choice, OP. Best wishes to your DD. It will be ok.

You take one pill which begins the process and the second about 12 hours later which finishes it. She will cramp and actively pass tissue for about 24-48 hours . It will feel like a very very heavy period. For me, I continued bleeding for weeks afterward, including VERY large clots. It’s a possibility that will happen for her. I think you fly there now. Don’t wait til thanksgiving, this gives her longer to change her mind and get attached to some idea of being a single mom or building a family with some guy that won’t happen. Get her seen and prescribed. Be with her those first 48 hours. She needs her mom. Thank you for supporting her in this.

Anonymous wrote:Fly to her and do it now.

She is farther along than you think.

You are a great mom OP!

This. Also consider her mental state, knowing she may be pregnant the next few weeks and you are far away. She needs her momma. It’s a huge testament to your relationship and bond that she called you.

Signed, someone who wishes they had their mom present when needed, but was too afraid to call or ask.

Anonymous wrote:You're a great mom, OP.

+1

You're a great mom, OP.

Anonymous wrote:I think a D&C would actually be easier and less days of pain/bleeding. It is easy to do that early in a clinic. I’d fly to her, and get that done.

This is not good advice OP. Fly now, as you already stated you would, and do the mifepristone and misoprostol combo for quickest, safest, simplest route. She will appreciate you being there for her physically and emotionally.

Hugs to you and your daughter, OP.

Anonymous wrote:The sooner the better. In her shoes, I would not wait weeks (during which she will likely be feeling pregnancy-related symptoms while attempting to take exams) to do this. I would do it this weekend.

+1. Waiting a full month would be awful.

I think a D&C would actually be easier and less days of pain/bleeding. It is easy to do that early in a clinic. I’d fly to her, and get that done.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless Thanksgiving break is over a week she would not want to be flying back to college right after. Cramps, bleeding, pads... Do it now or at least this month and she will be ready to fly home easily.

Also, from experience I know any future sex is going to be far from her mind during the pain and aftermath. (Also not medically allowed for a while.) But whatever happened, talk to her about Plan B in case something unexpected ensues like unprotected sex, failure of method, forgotten pill. It's easy to get and can be tucked in a drawer.

Long acting reversible contraception like an implant is a good idea. She's had one BC failure and while it might make her wise up, you need a new plan.

Thank you for this. I had not considered it but it’s a very good idea.

To all who responded, thank you. I am flying to her this weekend.

Anonymous wrote:Unless Thanksgiving break is over a week she would not want to be flying back to college right after. Cramps, bleeding, pads... Do it now or at least this month and she will be ready to fly home easily.

Also, from experience I know any future sex is going to be far from her mind during the pain and aftermath. (Also not medically allowed for a while.) But whatever happened, talk to her about Plan B in case something unexpected ensues like unprotected sex, failure of method, forgotten pill. It's easy to get and can be tucked in a drawer.

Long acting reversible contraception like an implant is a good idea. She's had one BC failure and while it might make her wise up, you need a new plan.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here—yes my daughter and I discussed her options. She wants to terminate the pregnancy.

I have actually used this to terminate a pregnancy. Do it as early as possible. Fly out now and do it asap. The longer you wait the harder it gets--emotionally too. Expediency is key.

PS. They will generally recommend taking it in the evening along with pain meds to sleep through the worst of it. Please do it early because if you wait, not only is the pain worse but based on my experience with a natural miscarriage a bit later, it's much more identifiable and it is more difficult emotionally.

Anonymous wrote:OP here—yes my daughter and I discussed her options. She wants to terminate the pregnancy.

I have actually used this to terminate a pregnancy. Do it as early as possible. Fly out now and do it asap. The longer you wait the harder it gets--emotionally too. Expediency is key.

Do it now. The sooner the better.