Anonymous
10/19/2025 22:45
Subject: Dealing with GF who has avoidant personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.
PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.
+1, this will result in her re-investing in the relationship and feeling betrayed when OP moves on to new GF. And she won't be entirely wrong, even though it will also be do to her own difficulties with boundaries.
Clean break is best. Especially with kids involved.
I would say it would be difficult for OP to keep her as a FWB. It gets very difficult to demote the status when you are so heavily vested and the other partner knows everything about you.
Anonymous
10/18/2025 19:30
Subject: Dealing with GF who has avoidant personality
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.
PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.
+1, this will result in her re-investing in the relationship and feeling betrayed when OP moves on to new GF. And she won't be entirely wrong, even though it will also be do to her own difficulties with boundaries.
Clean break is best. Especially with kids involved.
Anonymous
10/18/2025 15:49
Subject: Re:Dealing with GF who has avoidant personality
Anonymous wrote:This one is actually quite easy to resolve…..
You ➕ your girlfriend are very obviously not a suitable match.
At all.
You both need to call it off today.
I agree with the PP. Your gf has a lot of growing up and maturing to do and if she can't take the accountability then whatever you do is go to be futile. For me, biggest red flag is her interfering in your parenting and kids' lives.