What is up with guys sending women to spa days? I read that often on here. I mean, it’s a wonderful thing, don’t get me wrong. But I dated a lot before marriage, and that was never in the mix. Or was it a birthday present?

Op, I say go with your gut feeling if you know him for a year. There could be some red flags but you need to judge how bad they are. Everyone got red flags and you probably have some too but can you live with it. Stop thinking about other things and looking for faults.

Anonymous wrote:How old are you both? Kids? Are you still together-it sounds so good that I hope you are!

Ha, so random. Op here and I just came to browse dcum and saw this bumped.

A very happy yes- we are still together and I feel more lucky every day.

We are 38/41.

How old are you both? Kids? Are you still together-it sounds so good that I hope you are!

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

He has a bad picker. Like how do men end up with these asexual women when people in our society have sex before marriage? Which may be indicative of something else. But most of the time people are what they appear to be, especially after a year.

Anonymous wrote:If he’s so great, why did his wife throw him back in the sea?

What a stupid comment. Just as many women ruin marriages as men (if not more). And, according to OP, her boyfriend had a perfectly valid reason for ending his marriage.

Anonymous wrote:If he is so great you would not be posting on here? Why not just enjoy what you have. Unless you just came here to brag.

You sound a little green.
Completely normal.

I admit…. I feel a bit envious myself.

You sound like you hit the lottery in dating!
This guy sounds great❣️

Just keep in mind that as you get to know him more there will be certain things about him that you may not like or that may annoy you.

And that is completely normal since none of us are ever truly perfect.

But this guy sounds like a great catch and I hope everything works out between you two.

If he is so great you would not be posting on here? Why not just enjoy what you have. Unless you just came here to brag.

I was the first date my husband went on after his divorce. We’ve been together for 18 years, married for 14.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Are you still married to this person?

Oops - you said ex NVM

Anonymous wrote:Op here..

My ex cheated often on business trips. I did 3 years of weekly therapy processing and grieving the marriage while the separation divorce was ongoing.

His ex came out as asexual homoromantic (?) which my understanding is she has no sexual attraction to anyone but romantic attraction to women. He did 2 years of weekly therapy during the unraveling.

Are you still married to this person?

Women's love language is money. Why is that a shocker lol

Sounds great. The best part of divorce is you know you can leave if you have to. If you dont though dont sweat it. Just take it day by day.

Anonymous wrote:Right now you are the red flag. Take time to work on yourself and heal.

Yes! 😩