Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:55
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Its in no way OP's responsibility and 7 hr drive isn't that long but if OP isn't short on money then why not?
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:54
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Anonymous wrote:He should pay.
Why? Would she pay if he is visiting her?
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:53
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
OP maybe you pay 1/2 if she pays the other half. Or could you peg this as an early bday or xmas gift?
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:49
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Anonymous wrote:Not worth long discussions. Just pay for the ticket. It's only 400
This^. If it was $1400, could he a discussion but not for $400 when you can easily afford to help.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:49
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Anonymous wrote:He should be driving to see her.
Yes. As my grandmother told all of her granddaughters “He should love you more than you love him.”
I thought terrible advice but now in my 50s- it’s true.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:48
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm usually pro funding adult kids, for family vacations, etc but just to hang out with her bf? Nah. Driving 7h one way is not that crazy. I got married 7-8h away and I had to make this drive many times. Take a break half way for some food and she'll be fine.
+1 agree on paying for kids to visit you, attend family weddings and events, etc. This feels pretty random, OP
I say meeting her potential spouse is more important than attending a cousin's wedding.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:47
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
He should pay.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:46
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Anonymous wrote:My kid is 25, and in grad school. Thanks to having a fully funded position, she is proudly independent…though definitely on a limited budget (think less than $30,000 a year). I am retired, and have more than enough to live on.
Her serious boyfriend recently moved out of town. She is planning to visit him for the first time, which will require a 14 hour drive (round trip). I am very tempted to offer to pay for a plane ticket instead, which would cost me less than $400. What do you think?
My vote is to pay. She worked hard to earn free grad education, is going to meet a serious partner, you can afford to help. Make it easier for her.
Anonymous
09/16/2025 19:38
Subject: Paying kids airfare?
Yes do it. She sounds like a great kid, this isn’t going to make her any less independent and she’ll appreciate that you’re looking out for her.