Anonymous wrote:My daughter is angry with me because she had to quit activities she loves because I don’t have the money. I feel like a failure.

Is that the HS senior?

Tell the princess to get a job and contribute toward her upkeep.

What was your job op?

OP here, thank you everyone for your kind words. For those that asked, I have been doing UberEats as a side hustle since covid. It’s not much, but it’s helping with groceries. As for my daughter, she’s able to stay on her sports team and talked to her director at her other activity who’s letting her “work” for her monthly tuition in the mean time. That takes a little stress off. I’m sorry for the suicidal post, I was really having a bad day yesterday. I’m a little better today, but still not in a good place fully and probably won’t be until I have full time employment again.

You are worth so much more than your job and what you earn. I realize you need money to live, but there is help out there and you can get through this season to start a better new one. Please reach out to 988 to talk if you feel like you’re out of options.

OP I know how terrible you may feel. My husband was out of work for two years. The terror is real. Please please get help. It may not feel that way right now but your daughter loves you and needs you. Your family needs you. Your life matters and believe me this too shall pass. You are NOT alone. So many of us are suffering, embarrassed and sad. Please find a life preserver and hang on. People need you. You can do this.

I’m so sorry OP. Your daughter is angry because teens are selfish. But she loves you and needs you.

Anonymous wrote:If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.

Agree, don’t suffer in silence. Speak with friends and neighbors, so many people are happy to help, especially as we feel powerless about what’s happening in our country. Stay strong, you are unique and there’s no one like you, and never will be. How freaking cool is that?

Anonymous wrote:If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.

It’s not that easy for others to help right now. Everyone is struggling.

If I knew a friend was going through something like this, I would help. I have an extra car, extra space in my home, extra cash. You need to swallow your pride and ask for help. You’d be surprised at how much people are willing to help. One friend covering an electric bill for a few months, the other sports costs, pitching in gift cards. It’s doable and people will rally.

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Anonymous wrote:We only got 3 more years....

Down size if needed.

He's not worth it...

+1 hold on, folks. He's definitely not worth it.

Not always the ideal situation, but can you find something in another city/state? You have to go to where the jobs are, and sometimes, this ends up being a blessing in disguise.

It's definitely scary to be jobless (been laid off twice), but hold on. Do what you need to do to survive.

Move in with family (I did that once); downsize; move to a diff city/state. Again, not ideal, but you gotta do what you gotta do to survive.

Hang in there.

I have a high school senior, so I'm trying to stay local so she can graduate here. I can't even afford to downsize because I literally have no money. The only family I have are my parents, but they live in a 55+ community in a one bedroom and aren't allowed, nor have the space to accommodate two more people. Her father is a deadbeat who's been out of our lives since she was a baby so I can't even get any help from him. The timing of this couldn't be any worse.

I hate my ex wife but I love my daughter. Men who don't want to finally support their kids are terrible human beings. I am not very close to my daughter, but as far money she is set now and in the future as well.

Op, please reach out to your school to see if they can cover the costs.
Which school, OP?
Can she do fund raising for the costs?

For OP and others on this thread who are thinking about giving up...please don't!

I totally understand. But you can get through this. Your life has meaning!

Please call 988.

Anonymous wrote:You need to do anything to get money right now. Look into food pantries and other programs to help with food and utilities.

You owe it to your daughter to be mentally healthy right now. She would rather live in a shelter and not have money to do activities than be an orphan with no family at all.

I agree with this. 100%

Although it does beg the question, adults with no family of their own (no spouse or dependents) and now no job, is there anything to motivate us to keep going? I feel like I would better serve the universe as fertilizer for a tree. I would be helping something that way.

I heard being a instacart shopper and door dasher gives you flexible hours. One woman I know babysat and was a shopper with kid in tow.

Babysitting in this area is also like $25-35 an hour and no taxes right?

Hang in there. Also your daughter can get babysitting jobs to pay for activities.

So sorry you are going through this. I wish there was some program for people struggling like this. Hugs and hang in there but your daughter really needs you to be here even if she's not showing you love right now.

Downsize and start building bottom up. Restaurants are hiring. You can make $30 an hour easily.
I live in a $1600 studio after selling my condo.
I invested the condo money and now have a lot of money in the market growing giving me security.

Anonymous wrote:ANd I'm ready to take my own life. I'm on the verge of losing everything all because of the hateful man in office.

What are you skills, background, degree, years of experience ? I can help explain the labor market.