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Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

Wut do scooters have to do with the price of beans

Anonymous wrote:Boy Scouts tend to be a nice bunch.

not ours! They cuss and swear and make fun.

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Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

You won't even find kids like this in 100-year-old novels. Maybe you should not have had kids.

It's true. I was reading short story today that was not a hundred years old, but close, and it had essentially the same complaints about the results of "the freedom of the modern child," kids climbing on furniture, running and shouting, ignoring grown-ups. It could have been written by a DCUM poster.

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Anonymous wrote:Get them to befriend the ones who are the oldest child in their family.

+1

Not a bad strategy at all.

Often what happens is the younger siblings pick up on “middle school-y” behavior earlier (too early) due to being around older siblings. And age 8-9 would be about the right age for this, given siblings are often a few years older.

My gosh have I noticed this with my DD8 bestie. She is the youngest of three and wow, the middle schoolesque behavior is off the charts. It's so off-putting. And so incredibly rude and uncute. I don't want my kid around her these days sadly. Luckily they're not in the same school.

DoD schools. Honest answer

OP, you are very judgmental. Good luck finding kids whose parents let their kids play with your precious. Not every kid has the same home life, but as long as it’s not violence, let kids express themselves. Instead of judging, you could kindly correct any bad manners while they are in your home. Stop acting superior. Your husband is right about you.

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Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

You won't even find kids like this in 100-year-old novels. Maybe you should not have had kids.

Raise your standards! We can expect more from today's youth.

Anonymous wrote:Get them to befriend the ones who are the oldest child in their family.

+1

Not a bad strategy at all.

Often what happens is the younger siblings pick up on “middle school-y” behavior earlier (too early) due to being around older siblings. And age 8-9 would be about the right age for this, given siblings are often a few years older.

Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

You won't even find kids like this in 100-year-old novels. Maybe you should not have had kids.

Get them to befriend the ones who are the oldest child in their family.

Let the boys be boys. A lot of parents are not great role models for behavior. I don't blame the boys, I blame the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Asian boys

This. Try Montessori school, put him in tennis.

One of the meanest and worst behaved kids I've ever met did tennis and chest club with DS. So....I don't know why you think all tennis kids are going to be what OP wants.

Anonymous wrote:DS8 is no angel, but it would be great to have a peer group that isn’t a “bruh skibiddy” disrespectful jerk pack. DH says I’m being unrealistic (no video games, no phones, no tablets, no motorized bikes or scooters, expecting basic table manners and respectful language, respecting adults) and that I should homeschool.

Does this describe your kid? Or are you trying to find kids that will help him be that kid?

Catholic school. A huge reason we’re there is the kids wear belts and collared shirts every day, adults expect good manners, parents correct each others kids. I couldn’t deal with kids coming over and jumping on furniture. We wait until 8th grade cell phones. Not perfect and kids definitely have screens and misbehave sometimes, but much more in line with the way we grew up in terms of expectations and behavior.

Anonymous wrote:Asian boys

This. Try Montessori school, put him in tennis.