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Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

That will not work for a man. Women will not stand for it.

What wont? A video call prior to meeting?

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Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

You sound fun. And I think I know why you’re not married!

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Anonymous wrote:I am a man in my early 30s and every first date feels like a job interview. I have tried coffee dates, meeting at bars, walking dogs at parks, and lunch dates. The conversations are dry and they always seem to center around college and career. The dates are never fun or engaging. I am aiming for women in the age range of 25 to 29 who have at least a bachelors degree. What can I do to genuinely connect with someone in the first few dates ?

What would you prefer to talk about. Maybe your education requirements are leading the conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a man in my early 30s and every first date feels like a job interview. I have tried coffee dates, meeting at bars, walking dogs at parks, and lunch dates. The conversations are dry and they always seem to center around college and career. The dates are never fun or engaging. I am aiming for women in the age range of 25 to 29 who have at least a bachelors degree. What can I do to genuinely connect with someone in the first few dates ?

It sounds like you are interviewing for the things that are important to you, and they are interviewing for the things that are important to them.

Often times women are more aware of what it costs to have a family and how difficult fertility can be. You may be naive to these issues. Consider that they are right to make this a priority and you are maybe not informed or not taking the long view.

This. Men always have requirements for age and attractiveness, but then bristle when women have requirements for wealth and education.

Pick a woman in your price range.

Its true. I had ridiculous standards in my twenties, but for every guy I turned down, I had 10 in queue. Attractive, intelligent women in their twenties are well aware of their market value.

Attractive women have options at any age. I have a queue of 3-4 men for every one I turn down and I'm late 40s.

Women say this all the time. So why are you not in a serious relationship? Is it because the men you want don’t want you? Any top tier man(married, gay or single) in his late forties has women propositioning him almost every day.

Anonymous wrote:First dates ARE interviews. Are you recently divorced or something? This is how it’s been for a while. First dates are about piecing together compatibility.

You want someone with a bachelors degree, why do you balk when they ask about college??

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Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

I think you are the kind of women OP is trying to avoid. And too old.

I date 40-50s men. Never an issue for an "interview" first date over a video call or simple coffee. I'm not casually dating/having sex with people I don't know

Anonymous wrote:I am a man in my early 30s and every first date feels like a job interview. I have tried coffee dates, meeting at bars, walking dogs at parks, and lunch dates. The conversations are dry and they always seem to center around college and career. The dates are never fun or engaging. I am aiming for women in the age range of 25 to 29 who have at least a bachelors degree. What can I do to genuinely connect with someone in the first few dates ?

Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

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Anonymous wrote:I am a man in my early 30s and every first date feels like a job interview. I have tried coffee dates, meeting at bars, walking dogs at parks, and lunch dates. The conversations are dry and they always seem to center around college and career. The dates are never fun or engaging. I am aiming for women in the age range of 25 to 29 who have at least a bachelors degree. What can I do to genuinely connect with someone in the first few dates ?

It sounds like you are interviewing for the things that are important to you, and they are interviewing for the things that are important to them.

Often times women are more aware of what it costs to have a family and how difficult fertility can be. You may be naive to these issues. Consider that they are right to make this a priority and you are maybe not informed or not taking the long view.

This. Men always have requirements for age and attractiveness, but then bristle when women have requirements for wealth and education.

Pick a woman in your price range.

Its true. I had ridiculous standards in my twenties, but for every guy I turned down, I had 10 in queue. Attractive, intelligent women in their twenties are well aware of their market value.

Attractive women have options at any age. I have a queue of 3-4 men for every one I turn down and I'm late 40s.

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Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

That will not work for a man. Women will not stand for it.

Anonymous wrote:I would never agree to wonder around town with a total stranger that I have zero information about. I'm in my 40s and have a high paying career, my time is very limited and valuable. I pre-screen men over the phone or on a video call before I go out with anyone.

Try to have video intros and phone calls prior to meeting in RL.

What's wrong with them wanting to know your career and degree before they start going out with you? I don't want to waste my time on someone without any aspirations and boring

Anonymous wrote:Why won’t you date women your own age? Maybe they’re icked out at you and pick out your red flags early.