Anonymous wrote:Used executive function coaches for two kids with ADHD. What did not work was working in a group where they would eventually get back to the kid who finished all assigned work. Also, not with someone who has poorly controlled adhd and gets upset with kid due to adhd traits. What did work is one on one counseling. First kid did one on one work where school assignment s were worked on together- first semester 2x / week and second semester once/ week. On own after that. Kid 2 worked through a curriculum of executive function skills, adapted the techniques after 8 or so sessions and no more needed. Look online for free webinars to find the strong programs.

I’m not familiar with this model can you just share the names of what you used?

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Anonymous wrote:It was worth it to build skills around planning and assignment chunking and (perhaps more important) take me out of the role of homework nag. It cost $150/hour. They met twice a week by zoom - once for 60 minutes and once for 30 minutes. During exam time, we sometimes added 15 minute check ins. It wasn't a magic cure -- we still had trouble with implementation and work avoidance -- but it was still an improvement.

$150 for a zoom call is outrageous. Sorry

Don't hire them

Used executive function coaches for two kids with ADHD. What did not work was working in a group where they would eventually get back to the kid who finished all assigned work. Also, not with someone who has poorly controlled adhd and gets upset with kid due to adhd traits. What did work is one on one counseling. First kid did one on one work where school assignment s were worked on together- first semester 2x / week and second semester once/ week. On own after that. Kid 2 worked through a curriculum of executive function skills, adapted the techniques after 8 or so sessions and no more needed. Look online for free webinars to find the strong programs.

Anonymous wrote:It was worth it to build skills around planning and assignment chunking and (perhaps more important) take me out of the role of homework nag. It cost $150/hour. They met twice a week by zoom - once for 60 minutes and once for 30 minutes. During exam time, we sometimes added 15 minute check ins. It wasn't a magic cure -- we still had trouble with implementation and work avoidance -- but it was still an improvement.

$150 for a zoom call is outrageous. Sorry

What does it look like when you have a successful fit with the executive function coach? Ours is online and I think it’s pretty good, but I don’t see him really implementing the strategies and I’m trying to figure out if we need to change course.

Where can I find an executive functioning coach fo my almost middle schooler?

I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Anonymous wrote:$125/hour! That’s insane. Why can they command that kind of money?

It’s a full-time job for many. You’re paying for the expertise of a trained educator who has taken thousands of dollars in course work and/or has worked to develop their own coaching system.They can only book in a few clients a day around school hours. (Some coaches do see students during the day, however). They’re earning maybe $375 each afternoon and evening and have administrative tasks, like lesson planning, photocopying, and billing to do during the day. They also have overhead like vehicle mileage and liability insurance.

If music teachers charge $75 for a half hour lesson, I don’t see what’s so crazy about an EF coach commanding north of $100 for an hour. If you don’t agree with it, don’t pay it.

$125/hour! That’s insane. Why can they command that kind of money?

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Anonymous wrote:It didn't help my DS much (high school student). There needs to be some intrisic motivation on the part of the child to change, no matter how challenging it may be. That was lacking from our DS and it felt like another thing to pour hundreds into each month. I snooped through their text exchanges and it felt like I was paying someone to nag my kid about deadlines. I suppose that could be helpful to some, but it didn't do much in our house.

This! you can spend all the money in world but if your child is not motivated then it's like throwing your money in the garbage. I say this as a parent who did hire one for my DS in high school. He was somewhat ready for this but it really wasn't until he got to college that he got it together. Maturity plays a huge role in this.

FWIW - there are many great EF coaches who are not SLPs!

I feel like the people writing these haven’t actually worked with an executive functioning coach. My child is very motivated. My child wants to do well. My child would do well if he could. He needs help – – he has a skills gap and we tried to support him in various ways for years and it was ruining our relationship. We now pay an executive function coach around $125 an hour it’s done all remote and it is worth every penny even though it is a tremendous amount of money.

Is $125/hr typical? Is virtual cheaper than in person? Can others share ballpark rates?

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Anonymous wrote:It didn't help my DS much (high school student). There needs to be some intrisic motivation on the part of the child to change, no matter how challenging it may be. That was lacking from our DS and it felt like another thing to pour hundreds into each month. I snooped through their text exchanges and it felt like I was paying someone to nag my kid about deadlines. I suppose that could be helpful to some, but it didn't do much in our house.

This! you can spend all the money in world but if your child is not motivated then it's like throwing your money in the garbage. I say this as a parent who did hire one for my DS in high school. He was somewhat ready for this but it really wasn't until he got to college that he got it together. Maturity plays a huge role in this.

FWIW - there are many great EF coaches who are not SLPs!

I feel like the people writing these haven’t actually worked with an executive functioning coach. My child is very motivated. My child wants to do well. My child would do well if he could. He needs help – – he has a skills gap and we tried to support him in various ways for years and it was ruining our relationship. We now pay an executive function coach around $125 an hour it’s done all remote and it is worth every penny even though it is a tremendous amount of money.