The male sitter with two sleeping girls would bother me. The bedroom thing wouldn't. My guess is that he was just curious and peeking around. I did that a lot when I was babysitting in my teens. If nothing was taken or obviously touched, then I wouldn't give it a second's thought.

I am a sitter & I have gone into parent’s bedrooms on occasion to either grab the baby monitor or a cellphone charger but I ALWAYS get permission first.

Because I know it can look suspicious if I just went in w/o the parents knowing.

I think your sitter likely went in to use the charger.
The fact that nothing appeared to be missing or was moved makes this the likely reason.
If this sitter had gone in for some other reason I highly doubt that they would be standing right in the doorway when they were expecting your return home.

I would just let it go.

Is this a religious camp situation?

Are you at Tyler place? If so tell Chad. He’ll show concern. Probably lean into the kid for ya.

Anonymous wrote:This wouldn't even register with me as something to be concerned about.

Plus 1

Probably was checking out your stuff.

A female sitter could do all those things as well.

You seem like a lot. Yikes.

Op here - sorry about the typos. On my phone and an add popped up making it hard to see parts of the screen for a moment.

Op here. Thanks all. The 9 year old was asleep before we left and I’d just said goodnight to the 11 year old / shut their door and she was exhausted, so I doubt he saw the kids all night. We are actually on a campus / staying in a dorm suite (yes, there is a bathroom in the main space). We were out at an event for the parents that ran 9-11 at a different campus building. I wouldn’t leave the kids alone sleeping because (a) they aren’t comfortable with that and (b) something like an electrical fire can happen so quickly.

It’s not our first time at the “camp” so we’ve probably used a sitter 6 times before. They’ve never given us a male sitter before. I think what I’ll say to the person assigning sitters (since it’s true) is that my girls strongly prefer a female sitter - we were planning to use the wire sitters for adult events tonight and tomorrow so this is relevant. That way, hopefully we don’t get the same person, but I also think it’s a reasonable thing for an 11 year old girl to not want a male sitter in the space.

If in terms of what I worried about, it just felt odd - it was my husband who walked in and saw him and then he told me that it made him uncomfortable and I agree. There aren’t safes - I don’t have cash with me but my wallet is still in the bedroom. While curiosity about the space or - given that he knew we were about to walk in - returning a charger seem the most likely situations to me - the unappealing possibilities include that he lay down on our bed to read, that he looked at my underwear, that he looked in my wallet to see if there was money… all unlikely, but things that crossed my mind.


Because all the counselors are vetted and because we’ve used sitters here about 6 times in the past (

Anonymous wrote:I would not let a male I did not know babysit my kids. Safer to leave the 11 year old in charge

Right? An 11-year-old at "family camp" doesn't even need a sitter. Plus, they were apparently in bed by like 8 pm. This is so weird.

Wait, you were home by 11, but your 11-year-old was asleep when the sitter arrived? Were you out for 20 minutes? Can we just talk about that for a sec?

I don’t think kids today are raised that adult bedrooms are private spaces. Reading about the woman in the 80s who would play in her parents bedroom because they had a waterbed astounded me because I was not allowed in my parents room or my grandparents room unless I was invited. Even today as an adult, I do not go into their bedrooms without an invitation. I always made it clear that my child was not to play in my bedroom or have friends in there, but if I was in my room, they did not need an invitation to come in. It may be a generational thing.

Anonymous wrote:I’d say something, and I’d lock my bedroom when I leave - with any valuables inside.
It’s unprofessional for sitter to be in there, for any reason.

Right because this family camp has locks on the outside of bedroom doors.

Maybe they were looking out the window.