Anonymous
07/08/2025 18:03
Subject: Re:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
I had LTR boyfriends in and after college, but none of them wanted to get married at that age. None of them married till they were in their late 30s/early 40s. Met my husband at 36, got married at 37, and had my first child at 38. He was 6 years older and was looking for a wife and wanted kids.
Anonymous
07/06/2025 10:57
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.
My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.
Height of stupidity
I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.
+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.
I'm from a small town in the South and frankly it was the dumb kids who were never going to have real jobs who got married before their late 20s/early 30s. I moved to dc and where I worked no one married early. I loved dating around, travelling, and hanging with a group of similarly aged people I knew through work. I pity people who marry out of high school or college. They're also usually poor.
I’m from an affluent background where a lot of people marry young. I got married at 28, but certainly don’t pity people who get married out of college. There is something special about young love and they get to grow up together. It’s about when you meet the right person and are mature enough to make that commitment.
Marrying out of high school does seem way too young though.
The affluent generally marry later, with a few exceptions. But even then the affluent marry later than poor people of a similar religion/culture. For example, my mother’s family is educated, fairly affluent, and LDS. They generally wait until right after undergrad to marry. But if you don’t go to college, you might marry even earlier.
Anonymous
07/06/2025 09:28
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.
My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.
Height of stupidity
I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.
NP here.
Come on. It's stupid to wait three extra years to get married-- in your mid to late 30s -- for Great Aunt Whatever to get a visa. That's dumb.
If you need that time for yourself, fine.
Anonymous
07/06/2025 08:03
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:Didn’t meet the right person until then.
This. It’s not a race.
Anonymous
07/06/2025 07:43
Subject: Re:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Married at 34 and I didn’t plan it that way, it’s just how it happened.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 23:30
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Wanted to be finished with my education, be a bit more established in career, wanted to have some more savings, wanted to wait for my SO to be finished with their education, early career placements ...and it took 2-3 years lead time to inform all family members in different countries to get their visas sorted out and arrange for leave/vacation etc so they could attend.
My parents needed at least 2 years time to prepare for my big fat - one week long - wedding + hosting all my relatives (some very old) for a month before the wedding.
Height of stupidity
I'm afraid you are the dumb imbecile here.
+1 people who get married too early (not financially stable, emotionally/mentally mature) have a higher chance of getting divorced.
I'm from a small town in the South and frankly it was the dumb kids who were never going to have real jobs who got married before their late 20s/early 30s. I moved to dc and where I worked no one married early. I loved dating around, travelling, and hanging with a group of similarly aged people I knew through work. I pity people who marry out of high school or college. They're also usually poor.
I’m from an affluent background where a lot of people marry young. I got married at 28, but certainly don’t pity people who get married out of college. There is something special about young love and they get to grow up together. It’s about when you meet the right person and are mature enough to make that commitment.
Marrying out of high school does seem way too young though.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 23:09
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
No one asked me.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 22:44
Subject: Re:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
I was having too much fun.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 22:42
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
I wanted to live the sex and the city lifestyle.
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Anonymous
07/04/2025 19:41
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Didn't meet DH until I was 35 and had given up on getting married. We were married the next year and now have 2 kids.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 18:23
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Because I spent too much time dating a loser.who didn't want to get married in my 20s. Don't do this, if a guy doesn't want to get married within about a year or so post college, dump him and go forward.
Anonymous
07/04/2025 18:17
Subject: Why did you wait until your mid/late 30s to get married?
Anonymous wrote:I had many men interested in me but none I really liked enough to settle down with
Exactly this. I wasn’t too picky either they were not the one. I met him much much later than 30.