Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marriage counseling? But honestly, a divorce is healthier for your kids than a mom who is wishing death for herself

+1
Look to divorce if your DH won't step up and block his family. He's not doing his job so you don't need to stay with him and suffer.

Yes if someone doesn’t completely cut off their family because their spouse doesn’t like them there should be a divorce and that person isnt doing their “job”.

What a totally inane position to have

Hey PP, as things have developed, care to step down off your smug stool, witch with a B?
OP take care. Be there for your kids.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just done. My husband is really passive about it all because he never wants to shake the boat,that’s the main issue. Just being married for this long and he can never ever confront or call them out on it. He handed me the money in cash (dumb, it’s our joint account) to pay me back for what they stole. Just will never ever confront them. And having any kind of discussion with them is worthless, because addicts don’t admit fault ever.

He's making it easy, then. Tell him that since he's a pushover, YOU will speak up for the both of you. You send out a general text/email/whatever to the family to announce that such-and-such members are not allowed to come over anymore. If they do, you will call the police and have them thrown out. You ask for reimbursement of what one of them stole - not to actually get it, but to shame them in front of the rest.

If they have keys, get your locks changed. If you don't have outside cameras, get some.

Tell your husband he's allowed to visit his family at their homes, but he is not allowed to invite the problem people to your house, or bring the kids anywhere near them. If that means Grandma can never see your kids again, because the drug addict might be there, too bad.

Anonymous wrote:I’m just done. My husband is really passive about it all because he never wants to shake the boat,that’s the main issue. Just being married for this long and he can never ever confront or call them out on it. He handed me the money in cash (dumb, it’s our joint account) to pay me back for what they stole. Just will never ever confront them. And having any kind of discussion with them is worthless, because addicts don’t admit fault ever.

He sounds spineless. What a turn off. It sounds to me like your husband is the problem. Good luck, I don't think I could deal with a man like that.

I’m just done. My husband is really passive about it all because he never wants to shake the boat,that’s the main issue. Just being married for this long and he can never ever confront or call them out on it. He handed me the money in cash (dumb, it’s our joint account) to pay me back for what they stole. Just will never ever confront them. And having any kind of discussion with them is worthless, because addicts don’t admit fault ever.

This is a troll post. OP is barely responding ´, hasn’t said what her husband is doing and why this making her suicidal. I’d call police for trespassing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

Yes this is OP

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this OP. Drugs, alcoholism, stealing money…these are all serious issues. You must put your foot down and tell your husband that enough is enough. You don’t want these people in your house EVER. I would even consider contacting the police.

The police have better things to do than deal with your family dysfunction. Kick them out and don't invite them back.

Kids should not be around addicts. If someone stole from me I'd file a police report.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

Yes this is OP

I’m so sorry you are dealing with this OP. Drugs, alcoholism, stealing money…these are all serious issues. You must put your foot down and tell your husband that enough is enough. You don’t want these people in your house EVER. I would even consider contacting the police.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

And why are you and husband not banning them from your house? Why are not cutting ties?

+1

(1) they are no longer welcome in our home and (2) they cannot be around the children when they are not sober would be a good start.

If your husband wants to visit them otherwise on his own, that is his own choice. If they get sober for a length of time, reevaluate.

If you husband can’t agree to those things to protect you and the kids, then you have a husband problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Brought drugs into our home after lying about being sober and left them out with our toddlers in the house

Stole money from us

Addicts/alcoholic issues

Is this OP? I doubt it.

Yes this is OP

Get thee to a doctor or a hospital ER immediately. I’m concerned. We’re concerned about you, OP.