Anonymous
12/10/2025 15:54
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We have a teenage trans boy in our family whose gender expression was very stereotypically boy from early toddlerhood, and who began expressing gender dysphoria very young. He fully socially transitioned in middle school.
One of the ways his dysphoria presents is that he is very negative about anything he associates with girls, or women, or femininity, and is very judgmental of other males whose gender expression is less stereotypically male. For example, he balks at any kind of household task, saying that laundry, or cleaning, or cooking are "for women", even though in our family the other male teens and male adults do all of these tasks. He loves to watch sports with his male cousins, but will walk out of the room if they have a women's game on. He will make disparaging comments to male friends who display what he considers "girly" interests, like drawing or cooking.
I am wondering if other people have seen this pattern. If so, did you find solutions?
Considering how freakishly weird this scenario is, I doubt anyone can relate.
This is actually more common than a lot of posters on here seem to realize. There are a lot of FTM incels and it sounds like this kid is well on his way to becoming one. He's clearly uncomfortable with being female so he's overcompensating by putting down anything that he deems feminine, even neutral things like drawing and cooking which is bizarre and ridiculous. This is probably only going to get worse if he's allowed to go through female puberty and not put on blockers or testosterone. Although to be honest, I struggle to even recommend that since there's such a high likelihood that the kid is just a self-hating masculine lesbian.
Anonymous
08/15/2025 19:32
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
Anonymous wrote:I actually know someone like this in real life. He's an adult now and it really bugs me.
A lot of the language we use to talk about gender stuff has deep roots in misogyny. Your stepson is a kid. Don't tolerate his hate of half the population, get him a copy of free to be you and me, and explain to him that you don't do reductive gender bs because gender is a spectrum
Anonymous
06/11/2025 21:06
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
The one I am thinking of was super into women at age 14, obsessed with sex. Then she decided she wanted to be a woman. Now she spends all day posting about her sexual encounters on Facebook.
Anonymous
06/11/2025 21:04
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
I actually know someone like this in real life. He's an adult now and it really bugs me.
Anonymous
06/11/2025 20:54
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
Anonymous wrote:Twenty years ago, it was common to meet lesbians who were very hostile to feminine, straight women and said very mean things about them all the time. Some people with those attitudes become trans men nowadays. If you were born that way in 1960 or 1980, you'd probably grow up to be a masculine looking lesbian. If you were born that way in 2000, you might grow up to be a trans man.
Yeah all due respect, there is this weird anti-woman vibe among some people in the trans man community.
Anonymous
06/04/2025 07:40
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
Twenty years ago, it was common to meet lesbians who were very hostile to feminine, straight women and said very mean things about them all the time. Some people with those attitudes become trans men nowadays. If you were born that way in 1960 or 1980, you'd probably grow up to be a masculine looking lesbian. If you were born that way in 2000, you might grow up to be a trans man.
Anonymous
06/01/2025 16:45
Subject: Misogynistic trans boy
Anonymous wrote: If he truly can’t keep these mean things to himself despite numerous times he’s been told to not say it and consequences (does he get consequences?) then my guess is he’s on the autism spectrum. No I’m not saying all people on the spectrum are jerks, but some of them can come off like jerks because they can lack a filter and an understanding of social norms.
He's a transboy - of course he's most likely on the spectrum.
OP - what type of therapy is he in? Is he in therapy for his autism? You should also look at his problem through the autism lens. Is there a social skills class he can take?