Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 15:41     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:You... don't even know what your own child used in your own home???? Did you not even do the shopping, or did you tag along scrolling on your phone while your wife did all the research and selection?

I'm not really inclined to help you.


+1 I thought this was going to be a visiting child, someone helping out another family, or something like a foster kid / relative's kid joining in an emergency.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 15:10     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here not a troll worked like crazy so wife didn't have to . I know mostly what to get for him . Just trying to make sure I don't forget anything.


Looks like you forgot he needed a dad.


OP, you are a terrible father and husband.
op here he has a dad I spent all my free time I had with my wife and son . She liked the finer things in life but she didn't want to work . She liked to travel and live the goodlife . She wanted a new truck we bought her a year old one while I drive a 15 year old one . I love my son and I still care about my wife unfortunately she moved in with a guy who got divorced less than a .month ago . Heard through the grapevine there been cheating together the last two years . So now I need to get checked for stds so I'm a bad father really .


Sperm and money do not a dad make. If you spent all your free time with him, then why would you need to make this information request?

If you get 50/50 custody I guess you will get acquainted with your son.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 14:58     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Op, breathe. The kid doesn't even know that you missed something. He is too busy checking out your new place. Target has most of the stuff he needs. Safety first in your place.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 14:53     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:Went through something similar a few years back . It's gona be he'll for a little while but it will get better. Talk to a lawyer to discuss your options . 50 50 is best for the kid if you can handle it . If you have friends and family close have them help . Don't spend alot of money on stuff cause they grow so fast document everything. Talk to a trusted friend or therapist to help with the onslaught of emotions. Divorce sucks it was the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life . Stay strong for your son .


Sigh. A second poster who just happened to do the exact weird " . " spacing? Sure.

Go write your fiction somewhere else.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 14:51     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Went through something similar a few years back . It's gona be he'll for a little while but it will get better. Talk to a lawyer to discuss your options . 50 50 is best for the kid if you can handle it . If you have friends and family close have them help . Don't spend alot of money on stuff cause they grow so fast document everything. Talk to a trusted friend or therapist to help with the onslaught of emotions. Divorce sucks it was the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life . Stay strong for your son .
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 13:14     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here not a troll worked like crazy so wife didn't have to . I know mostly what to get for him . Just trying to make sure I don't forget anything.


Looks like you forgot he needed a dad.


OP, you are a terrible father and husband.
op here he has a dad I spent all my free time I had with my wife and son . She liked the finer things in life but she didn't want to work . She liked to travel and live the goodlife . She wanted a new truck we bought her a year old one while I drive a 15 year old one . I love my son and I still care about my wife unfortunately she moved in with a guy who got divorced less than a .month ago . Heard through the grapevine there been cheating together the last two years . So now I need to get checked for stds so I'm a bad father really .
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 09:29     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here not a troll worked like crazy so wife didn't have to . I know mostly what to get for him . Just trying to make sure I don't forget anything.


Looks like you forgot he needed a dad.


OP, you are a terrible father and husband.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 09:28     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:You... don't even know what your own child used in your own home???? Did you not even do the shopping, or did you tag along scrolling on your phone while your wife did all the research and selection?

I'm not really inclined to help you.


+1
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 09:27     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
For clothes and pjs, if price is a concern, I’d go with carters, gap kids, or target.

If price insensitive, then try:
For clothes- Mayoral, Vineyard Vines, Maisonette, Bloomingdales

For PJs- Petite Plume, Lake, Pehr (I like buying 100% Pima cotton pjs for my 4 yo).

For toys, my 4yo loves Thomas the train, so we have a full train playtable, tracks, trains, etc. Much of this can be found second hand on eBay or Facebook marketplace. Otherwise, maybe pick up a bunch of books from the library too.
Good luck OP! Hope this helps.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 09:08     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Helmet if you get the child a scooter or bike.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 09:01     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
You got this! The first few months are a bit of a blur, but it gets better.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 08:39     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Op here I wasn't gona post this but she left cause she's been having an affair for a while . She moved in with her ap . She didn't work which was fine cause she took care of our son but I had to work like crazy to keep up her lifestyle. I haven't been thinking the best the last 24 hrs . I was just trying to make sure I didn't miss anything. Thanks everyone for the ideas I know this mostly moms on here but I truly do appreciate you all taking time to give me ideas what to get . Now I guess I start over .
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 08:31     Subject: Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:OP, you seem to think that since your wife isn’t around to do all your unpaid emotional and logistical labor, you’re just going to rely on everyone else’s wife. This is not a workable solution.


This. I hope this guy was dumb enough to text some of her friends so she has the evidence screenshotted for a judge.

My husband and I both work very hard for our kid, I'm an attorney and the idea I wouldn't know is basic needs, favorite toys, clothes sizes, is a joke. My Dad was a busy physician and he wasn't this clueless about any of this.
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 08:23     Subject: Re:Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:car seat
bed
bedding
clothes
dresser/hangers
desk/kid table and kid chair
booster seat
stroller
pull-ups?
books
toys
outdoor toys
plastic dishes
plug protectors, safety gates, childproofing as necessary
baby shampoo, soap, bath toys, etc.
foods he’ll eat


Why do you think he needs a stroller or plastic dishes or safety gates or baby shampoo for a 4 yr old?

You use adult shampoo on a 4 year old?
Anonymous
Post 05/05/2025 08:21     Subject: Re:Need help what to have in my house for a 4 year old ?
If your son takes any medications, make sure you have them on hand and you know how much and how often to administer. You should have a thermometer, ice pack, bandages, and children’s Tylenol on hand. You’ll need to know your son’s weight to figure out the dose of Tylenol.