Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts on coming over unannounced when dating for a short amount of time? A male friend tried to convince me that the reason I’m having a hard time getting into a committed relationship is because I’m not aggressive enough, and I need to do bold acts like this. I find the idea of showing up unannounced a turn off and violation of boundaries. He says no man will turn down a beautiful woman on his doorstep who shows up with food and a desire for sex. Please chime in.
That’s bad advice, especially if dating only for a short time.
No real man would like it.
If she’s trying to surprise him to check if he’s dating other women, fine and good for her. But if she thinks it’s some kind of move that would make the guy be more attracted to her, she’s totally wrong.