Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:42     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
People joking about having seizures or heart attacks makes me squirm. Can confirm, neither are funny.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:29     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Moms smacking their kids hard (like my mom).

Loud public shaming/berating by parents (like my mom).

Kids allowed to be withdrawn/antisocial in public and at family events, or families eating in total silence at great speed at restaurants. That’s a super personal hangup that’s really specific to how my husband was raised and how it impacts our family life. When I see a little kid sullenly reading a book and slumped in their own corner at a nice restaurant, I don’t think, yay, they’re reading. My brain goes straight to: good luck to the woman who married that kid and into that family.


So do you want the family to berate them for being withdrawn in public, or do you want them to be left alone. Getting annoyed that a shy kid is reading a book is…interesting.


NP - there's no reason for a kid to be shy with their own family. If they can't sit in a restaurant and interact with their family members they should be in intensive therapy because something is seriously wrong. It's not appropriate to check out mentally and read a book during a family meal. And I say that as a voracious reader who is an introvert (but not shy).


Maybe the child is neurodivergent? Some autistic kids tune out like that to cope, and yes, if that is the case, then it is possible they are already in intensive therapy. You just can’t see it from where you are sitting.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:25     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Moms smacking their kids hard (like my mom).

Loud public shaming/berating by parents (like my mom).

Kids allowed to be withdrawn/antisocial in public and at family events, or families eating in total silence at great speed at restaurants. That’s a super personal hangup that’s really specific to how my husband was raised and how it impacts our family life. When I see a little kid sullenly reading a book and slumped in their own corner at a nice restaurant, I don’t think, yay, they’re reading. My brain goes straight to: good luck to the woman who married that kid and into that family.


So do you want the family to berate them for being withdrawn in public, or do you want them to be left alone. Getting annoyed that a shy kid is reading a book is…interesting.


NP - there's no reason for a kid to be shy with their own family. If they can't sit in a restaurant and interact with their family members they should be in intensive therapy because something is seriously wrong. It's not appropriate to check out mentally and read a book during a family meal. And I say that as a voracious reader who is an introvert (but not shy).
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:22     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
I have an autistic child, and I can sometimes see signs of it in very young children when I am out and about, in mannerisms or the way the gross motor movements look. I never mention anything to the parents, it might be too upsetting and they may be already delving into it. I think it is not my business but it always gives me pause.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:20     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Dying soldiers is a tough one, even in movies. Kids suffering in war zones too. There’s few things more upsetting to me than that.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 18:05     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Someone drunk
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:42     Subject: Re:What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I feel really sad when I see a tween girl whose family is all dressed nicely and age appropriately but who’s obviously in the wrong size, style and fit of clothes and/or clothes that are nice but obviously chosen by a parent with a vision that leaves the kid out of step with other kids.

I was the girl dressed in corduroy Bermuda shorts and a blazer when other girls my age were in Limited Too and I can spot my fellow victims of overbearing, strange mothers from a hundred yards away.


Hello friend! My mom always made me get what she would have wanted at my age. Or, wear my brother’s handmedowns. And on top of that had weird rules, like shampoo but no conditioner or hair products.


You get it! Conditioner was “for adults”. I also wasn’t allowed to blow dry my hair or shower in the morning because those were adult things, so I had to fall asleep on damp hair every night and hope it would look ok in the morning.


Interesting concept about "adult" things. My parents simply didn't use conditioner. Or dental floss. We had a very weird home.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:42     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:Service workers or employees being harassed, bullied, or just spoken to rudely for no reason by customers or clients. I have to stop myself from intervening as it would almost never be appropriate. But if I’m the next person in line, I make a point to ask the worker how they’re doing, make eye contact, smile, or leave a good tip. I have been in their shoes and it’s soul crushing.


I cannot stand this, and I’m a fairly confrontational person so I can’t help but call it out when I see it. I assume someday I’ll just get shot or something
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:41     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:Listening to people who haven’t experienced infertility or IVF talk about it, usually in a judgmental way.


+100
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:39     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:Moms smacking their kids hard (like my mom).

Loud public shaming/berating by parents (like my mom).

Kids allowed to be withdrawn/antisocial in public and at family events, or families eating in total silence at great speed at restaurants. That’s a super personal hangup that’s really specific to how my husband was raised and how it impacts our family life. When I see a little kid sullenly reading a book and slumped in their own corner at a nice restaurant, I don’t think, yay, they’re reading. My brain goes straight to: good luck to the woman who married that kid and into that family.


So do you want the family to berate them for being withdrawn in public, or do you want them to be left alone. Getting annoyed that a shy kid is reading a book is…interesting.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:32     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Listening to people who haven’t experienced infertility or IVF talk about it, usually in a judgmental way.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:11     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Broken femurs and collarbones. Any serious injury occurring in the wilderness. Parents giving away or putting down the family dog. Parents hitting their kids or telling them in a threatening way "wait until we get home" or "your father isn't going to like this"
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:10     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Anonymous wrote:Anything but r*pe being called r*pe. Taxes are not r*pe, for example.


Oh this one. That is such an ugly, awful word. It is shocking to me when people use it casually like this.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 17:06     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Interacting with people who have cancer.

My dad died of cancer when I was in elementary school. I remember his decline, his pain, his deterioration, and of course his death.

It is so hard for me to talk to people going through cancer or talking about a loved one with cancer. I just can't. I know they're going through so much, but I'm immediately brought back to being a kid and seeing this trauma up close at home, as a child.

And F cancer. All the kinds. All of it.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2025 16:42     Subject: What things are you sensitive about seeing, because you've personally dealt with them?
Service workers or employees being harassed, bullied, or just spoken to rudely for no reason by customers or clients. I have to stop myself from intervening as it would almost never be appropriate. But if I’m the next person in line, I make a point to ask the worker how they’re doing, make eye contact, smile, or leave a good tip. I have been in their shoes and it’s soul crushing.