College or Grad School

Anonymous wrote:I’ve lived here all of my life other than college and here’s where my 12 closest friends met their spouse:

-Work (law firm) (2)
-Work (journalism)
-Grad School (Med)
-Grad School (Business)
-Undergrad (Williams of course)
-High School! Insane. They’ve been together since junior year.
-Coed adult basketball league
-Random karaoke bar in Alexandria
-Random bar while on work trip in Kansas City
-Online (It was tinder, but they claim otherwise. Ha.)
-Setup by sister with a work friend

Sounds like most of our friends. They mostly met at work, school, sports or bar type setting.

I met my DH at a bar when we were both in grad school, different schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Probably at work. Maybe you have different hobbies than my friends and I, but no one I knew met their significant other during their hobby time. They met in college or at work, or a related internship. I met my husband during an internship in college. We worked in the same research lab.

The workplace is not your personal dating meat market. This is no longer acceptable. #metoo

Sorry, it will always happen. Whether or not you find it acceptable will depend on the era and your particular workplace. But don't be stupid - for a lot of people, work is where they spend most of their waking hours, and where they're most likely to find a mate. It would be utterly idiotic to deny yourself, or others, the opportunity to find a spouse at work.

Open board game night at the friendly local gaming store seems to be at least 75% men. Of course, many of them are married or gay, but you'll run into that issue with any social activity. And it's not a great way to meet men if you don't enjoy board gaming, because the men you meet will assume you're into board gaming. That's the problem with tailoring your activities to where you think the men are—what if you don't actually enjoy the activities that men are into?

So my advice is do whatever social activities you enjoy—not because you think there will be men there, but because you enjoy them. If you connect with someone, hooray. If you don't, you're still doing something you enjoy.

If you heal from your injury, try joining a running group. I am married but got hit on quite a bit in my old group. At 1 point men outnumbered women 2:1. It’s starting to catch on because I see lots more women joining. But the faster you are, the more men in your pace group.

Anonymous wrote:Without using an app? I'm attractive, thin but haven't been active for a few months since getting hurt. I don't like the superficiality of dating apps or the needed first impression I have to make on them and then make the same first impression on the first date. Almost seems like a second job. So what is the best way to meet someone off the apps? Maybe I do need to change the way I dress because I dress for comfort and I don't really wear lash extensions or dye my hair.

Back in the old days, we met through friends. That's how I met my husband (in 2009). Colleagues of friends, friends of friends, etc.

Everyone needs to have more dinner parties.

Beach

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve said this before on here and I will say this again. Go to the Whole Foods hot foods bar on a weekday evening and start chatting up the single men who just got off work or the gym - you will eventually meet someone.

Single men are not at Whole Foods. Only married men whose wives sent them to pick up something are there. They are willing to cheat though....

Ha! I’m wondering if DH posted the pp. I send him there all the time, he hates it..maybe that is a ruse and he a loves it. I’ll have to ask.

"Hobbies" is theoretically a good idea, except women hate most male hobbies.

You ready to take up hunting, fishing, shooting? Warhammer 40k?

Weightlifting is certainly achievable and the gym bros would love it if you approached them. Just don't expect them to approach you because too many women have said "never approach me at the gym!"

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve said this before on here and I will say this again. Go to the Whole Foods hot foods bar on a weekday evening and start chatting up the single men who just got off work or the gym - you will eventually meet someone.

Single men are not at Whole Foods. Only married men whose wives sent them to pick up something are there. They are willing to cheat though....

I'm picturing someone just standing by the hot bar talking to strangers and it's just such a hilarious visual.

Whole Foods cashiers:

There's Laura again. Working that Lasagna. What is this, the third time this week?

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Anonymous wrote:Gym or studio workouts that tend to be at least 50% men (like solid core, CrossFit), through a common interest group (running club, art classes, language classes), Church/ place of worship

+1. And you will get a fit guy as well or at least a guy on his way to become fit. I am 50. Of my group of 10 close friends I hang out with only 3 of us exercise regularly. The rest are severely out of shape and have no desire to change it. They keep making promise to us day after day to join us.

I don't know if women are similarly out of shape but it's crazy to me how people let themselves deteriorate physically as they age.

Uggg. So true. I am working desperately NOT to get out of shape - menopause is kicking my butt!! Injuries! weight gain in my middle! It is a slog, but when I'm not in a wheelchair at 80 - provided I get that old - I'll thank myself!!

Anonymous wrote:Gym or studio workouts that tend to be at least 50% men (like solid core, CrossFit), through a common interest group (running club, art classes, language classes), Church/ place of worship

+1. And you will get a fit guy as well or at least a guy on his way to become fit. I am 50. Of my group of 10 close friends I hang out with only 3 of us exercise regularly. The rest are severely out of shape and have no desire to change it. They keep making promise to us day after day to join us.

I don't know if women are similarly out of shape but it's crazy to me how people let themselves deteriorate physically as they age.

Anonymous wrote:Probably at work. Maybe you have different hobbies than my friends and I, but no one I knew met their significant other during their hobby time. They met in college or at work, or a related internship. I met my husband during an internship in college. We worked in the same research lab.

No! Don't sh*t where you eat!

I have friends who met their partners doing music-related hobbies. Or were set up by friends. But mostly by online dating if they didn't meet in college.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve said this before on here and I will say this again. Go to the Whole Foods hot foods bar on a weekday evening and start chatting up the single men who just got off work or the gym - you will eventually meet someone.

Single men are not at Whole Foods. Only married men whose wives sent them to pick up something are there. They are willing to cheat though....

Married people don't get the hot bar, they get the family packs

Gym or studio workouts that tend to be at least 50% men (like solid core, CrossFit), through a common interest group (running club, art classes, language classes), Church/ place of worship