Anonymous
12/01/2024 13:03
Subject: When you are the only married with kids sibling
Anonymous wrote:You’ll never be the single sibling with no kids who is always expected to agree to all the plans made around the siblings’ kids because you’re so flexible and have no responsibilities. So there’s that.
Yes this is how my holidays go. I get told where to go and when.
Anonymous
12/01/2024 00:33
Subject: When you are the only married with kids sibling
Anonymous wrote:You’ll never be the single sibling with no kids who is always expected to agree to all the plans made around the siblings’ kids because you’re so flexible and have no responsibilities. So there’s that.
Hahaha, that's not how it works. Younger single sibling rules the roost. Spoiled brat who has the parents wrapped around her little finger.
Anonymous
11/15/2024 10:48
Subject: When you are the only married with kids sibling
I was in this position for 5-6 years until my SIL got married.
I think it depends on what makes sense for you and what your mother / MIL prefer. My parents generation continued to host for a few years when we had tiny babies, then we had a time when it made sense to host because our toddlers / preschoolers did better at home where they could nap and we had a kid-proofed house. Now our kids are older elementary and can easily travel and be flexible - while my SILs have babies and toddlers.
In our family, the sibling who is pregnant or has youngest children calls the shots on what works best for them for holdiays and vacations. As grandparents get older, their mobility and needs will factor in. We try to work around the people who most need accommodations, whether that’s location, time of the meal, dietary restrictions, or something else.
I think it depends on what makes sense for you and what your mother / MIL prefer. My parents generation continued to host for a few years when we had tiny babies, then we had a time when it made sense to host because our toddlers / preschoolers did better at home where they could nap and we had a kid-proofed house. Now our kids are older elementary and can easily travel and be flexible - while my SILs have babies and toddlers.
In our family, the sibling who is pregnant or has youngest children calls the shots on what works best for them for holdiays and vacations. As grandparents get older, their mobility and needs will factor in. We try to work around the people who most need accommodations, whether that’s location, time of the meal, dietary restrictions, or something else.