Have children whenever you want, but it's VERY HARMFUL to women to advance a narrative that it's always possible to get (or stay) pregnant naturally at this age.

Geriatric pregnancies are linked to all kinds of complications unless you buy a younger woman's egg and frequently (if not always) require medical intervention.

Be honest and open with the fertility narrative. It will help women make smart and informed choices with their bodies and their life plans.

I had my last at 44. My mom had her last 40. My Grandma had her last at 45. I love that I was financially stable and well established in my career. It made it soooo much easier and with much less worry.

I don't think I was any more tired than a younger mom. Now DC is 15, I am 59. I manage his travel sports team as well as do things for my other two kids.

If I had to do it again, I'd do it exactly the same.

I'm 49 with 10 year old. I am so tired and truly wish my daughter was at least 5 years older. I just hate coming from work and take care of the family when I'm already exhausted from stressful job.

I'm in my early 50s and would like to have a baby w donor eggs. I have two children and would love a third. I'm healthy, and yes, I worked the whole time. I just love being a mom to children, and have finally found someone who loves being a dad. The earlier was trash at it. I have family that would step in if something were to happen to me.

I’m 47, if I didn’t have kids and wanted them, at this age I’d adopt older kids. It takes a long time but it would be so worth it. I have friends in their early 50s who adopted twins who were 12, 5-6 years ago. The tweens are currently looking at colleges and the family is thriving and so happy they found each other.

Around here, I wouldn't be surprised at all. In my Southern small town, being a new mom at 43 (especially a first-time mom) would be highly unusual and a bit laughable. Many women are grandmas by that age.

Anonymous wrote:Both of my grandmothers had babies in their 40s, as did many of their contemporaries. This was not uncommon in the pre-birth control era. Women in their 40s having babies is not unusual.

Sure when you've already had babies. Having a first at that age, not so much.

Anonymous wrote:Rather spork my own eyes out

May you never know infertility.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of my grandmothers had babies in their 40s, as did many of their contemporaries. This was not uncommon in the pre-birth control era. Women in their 40s having babies is not unusual.

Wanting them in your 40s is selfish

Ridiculous

Anonymous wrote:Rather spork my own eyes out

LOL me too, but you know what? I have two friends who are in their early 40s and child-free and don't really want to be. So if they decide to and are lucky enough to have a baby at 43, 44, or 45, I will be there to cheer them on.

43 and trying for 3rd. Suffering with secondary infertility. Not ideal timeline, but one that I'm not too scared of. And people often think I'm younger.

Anonymous wrote:I had an unplanned natural pg at 44. It’s been great! We laugh that he keeps us young. I’m 62 now with a high school senior and people honestly think I’m much younger. Given the choice I would have done it again in a heartbeat.

PP I’m 62 with a high school junior. Agree that it’s the best thing ever and he keeps us young, but don’t kid yourself. People don’t really think you’re younger than you are. They’re just being nice.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 46 and I’d totally go for #3. I’m fine energy wise, I would just stop traveling internationally and really focus on the last baby. Alas, DH never wanted a third and I am happy with what I have. It has been an incredible life so far. If only the next 46 years could be so good…

Wow did I post this? I could write every word of this!

I’m 46 and I’d totally go for #3. I’m fine energy wise, I would just stop traveling internationally and really focus on the last baby. Alas, DH never wanted a third and I am happy with what I have. It has been an incredible life so far. If only the next 46 years could be so good…

Rather spork my own eyes out