You sound like you need an attitude adjustment. If you can’t or don’t want to go, just say no and offer to get together when you are available. Why hate on people who are extending you an invitation to spend time together?

don't worry, OP, just keep on saying no without offering another idea and they'll stop inviting you soon.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM parent and can’t make weeknight drinks work! I’m driving kids to activities all a afternoon and evening.

Everyday? Where’s your partner?

I am a single working parent and my kids have multiple activities every evening of the week. No time for drinks.

I love weeknight drinks! And weekend night drinks. And the occasional day drinks,but that's hard because I usually have house/yard chores during the day.

I have Tuesday nights off from my kid so occasionally I'll go out that night just because I can. But usually I just go home and enjoy not having to be responsible.

What about if they are new friends? Is that acceptable?

Anonymous wrote:i love it!

its an excuse to get out of the house. DH can watch DS and they can have a boys night.

I much prefer grabbing dinner or a drink with friends during the week instead of a weekend too. If I’m going to go out on a weekend night I prefer it to be with DH. Otherwise weekends are based on what the kids have going on. I would rather get home late one night and DH can handle kid stuff and dinner solo . I do the same for him if he meets friends on a weeknight.

They are saving their weekends for their fun friends.

Anonymous wrote:I’m a SAHM parent and can’t make weeknight drinks work! I’m driving kids to activities all a afternoon and evening.

Everyday? Where’s your partner?

I hear ya. Just be glad you’re invited.

Anonymous wrote:i love it!

its an excuse to get out of the house. DH can watch DS and they can have a boys night.

This. I’ll prob have one drink and maybe split a second. Or not. I just want to see you. My life is busy too. I prefer weekday pm or Sunday evenings to meet up. The early coffee idea is cool too.

I’ve got four kids eleven and under. Weekday night? Dream on!

i love it!

its an excuse to get out of the house. DH can watch DS and they can have a boys night.

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Anonymous wrote:We actually prefer to do drinks or dinner with a friend at 8pm (or later) once the kids are in bed. We can actually make that work.

All our friends without kids want to do dinner at 630pm! No bueno.

Do you go to work the next day?

Yes, but I’m not an alcoholic. I can handle 1-2 drinks on a weeknight with some food and still be up by 630am to begin the morning routine.

The alcoholics will drink you under the table and be at work the next day like nothing happened. The rare drinker is going to have a raging hangover after 2 drinks on a weeknight.

I get it, OP. I work longer hours than most of my friends. I’m at work by 6am and have to be ready for an 10-11 hour day. I can’t go out on weeknights.

I’m grateful they keep asking me, though. I’m sure they are aware I’ll always say no, but I feel included because they think of inviting me. It’s nice.

Anonymous wrote:I’m the opposite. I wish more people would be willing to do things during the week so weekends could be family time.

Same!