Our b/g teens routinely share a bed on vacation.

They annoy each other less now than when they were younger.

What’s the issue exactly?

Anonymous wrote:I shared a room with my 40 year old brother last time we travelled to a funeral without our families.

Same. My middle aged brother and I had to share a room a few years ago. It is not a big deal. I really don’t understand the problem.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone, seems like there’s a clear agreement on this. I really should have said something but she was very insistent that it was inappropriate and yet another poor choice by her ex.

Unfortunately the kids didn’t go on the trip, though there were other reasons as well.

Maybe you shouldn't. There may be other issues with her ex which are making her upset. Maybe just be a place for her to vent.

My kids (b and g) usually share a room. Getting 3 rooms seems really ridiculous for 4 people.

Recently I went with the kids and without DH. I just got us one room with 2 beds and DD and I slept in the same bed and DS had his own.

This question made me laugh because my entire family (6) would share one hotel room growing up

My brother and I shared rooms on family vacations. We even traveled together a couple of times in our early twenties. I consider my brother to be one of my best friends.

Maybe part of your friends anger has to do with their circumstances and isn’t really about her kids?

Ours share a bed. They are presented with the options to either:

Share the bed the full trip. They can even sleep on opposite ends; we just don’t unmake the bed and ask instead for extra blankets.

Split the bed. On and off, one will sleep on the floor, the other in the bed.

Share bed with same-sex parent.

I always shared a room with my opposite sex sibling on vacation - in fact I considered myself lucky when my entire family wasn't crammed into one motel room. The only time this would make me nervous would be step siblings who did not grow up together if I was not comfortable with the step brother. (I'd say the same for a step father)

Thanks everyone, seems like there’s a clear agreement on this. I really should have said something but she was very insistent that it was inappropriate and yet another poor choice by her ex.

Unfortunately the kids didn’t go on the trip, though there were other reasons as well.

My teen son and daughter would LOVE to share a room (not a bed, of course). They would love to share a room because we’ve only gotten two rooms once or twice. The norm is a suite with a rollout couch. The times we splurged for two rooms, I’m pretty sure we had a ton of hotel points that allowed for this. If we’re paying out of pocket, it’s always one room.

We stay at midrange hotels- usually Hampton, Doubletree, Hilton and our favorite- Embassy Suites. Embassy isn’t necessarily the nicest, but the rooms are huge and they serve a real breakfast. Bonus, they also have a complimentary happy hour with free drinks. I guess if we downgraded to Comfort Inn or Quality Inn, then we could consider two rooms?

Anonymous wrote: Yes, friend is overreacting. I'm assuming the bedroom has two beds. They can change in the bathroom.

Plus 1

Overreaction and privilege.

A room—absolutely and without hesitation. I try to avoid bed sharing at this point because they complain so much about it but I don’t think it is beyond the pale. Daughter is 16 and son is 13.

One hotel room shared with our teen. I change in the bathroom.

We shared beds as opposite sex siblings until college. In hotel rooms where my parents where present.

All normal, well adjusted adults now.