Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 19:40     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?


I would text her and just say. I’m xxx’s mom, I hear he’s been hanging out with your DD, yyy. I thought I’d give you my number so we can be in touch as needed. Or mention specific plans you are aware of. . .
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 19:23     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:"Get to know them?" only enough to know there aren't obvious problems. Know how to reach them? Yes, absolutely.


If your 14 yr old daughter was going to hang out at a boy’s house you wouldn’t care to know if his parents are home?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 19:09     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
"Get to know them?" only enough to know there aren't obvious problems. Know how to reach them? Yes, absolutely.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 19:08     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.


This. No sex.


Why not?


NP. Because they are rising freshman…so that makes them 14. Too young for sex.
Sure it may happen, and you should teach safety around that, but I would also say they shouldn’t be having sex at this age and it can come with a lot of emotional complications bc while their bodies may want to, their brains aren’t ready yet.


Way more freshman than you think are having sex. So you have to be prepared. My issues is the amount of oral sex a guy thinks he deserves the first time he hooks up with a girl. I don't remember that being a thing but it def is. D and T pics and videos are also very much happening on Snap, even in middle school.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 19:07     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait. Are you guys seriously suggesting that parents of teens who are dating reach out to each other due to their kids relationships? Please land your helicopters. Teens have been hooking up since the beginning of time. Do not do this. You will create a hostile environment, where your kids won't tell you what they are doing and who they are doing it with, and they'll just do it.



Ew yes.
Wait….
You don’t know any of the families your kid hangs out with? Sus.


I have never understood the need to mommies to have to know other teen mommies. I am so happy to be done with playdates and let my kids be friends with whomever in high school and no way would I be trying to get to know them. It's so helicopterish.

Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 14:10     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.


This. No sex.


Why not?


NP. Because they are rising freshman…so that makes them 14. Too young for sex.
Sure it may happen, and you should teach safety around that, but I would also say they shouldn’t be having sex at this age and it can come with a lot of emotional complications bc while their bodies may want to, their brains aren’t ready yet.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 14:06     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Thanks. Should I be connecting with the mom to make sure she knows he is being invited over?


How is he getting to her house?

But yes, you need to connect and be on the same page confirming an adult is home (and somewhat keeping an eye) when they are at each other’s houses
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:38     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.


This. No sex.


Why not?


Because he’s not even in high school yet?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:32     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Wait. Are you guys seriously suggesting that parents of teens who are dating reach out to each other due to their kids relationships? Please land your helicopters. Teens have been hooking up since the beginning of time. Do not do this. You will create a hostile environment, where your kids won't tell you what they are doing and who they are doing it with, and they'll just do it.



Ew yes.
Wait….
You don’t know any of the families your kid hangs out with? Sus.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:23     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Condims condoms condoms
Respect
Birth control
Sex ed
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:22     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows about birth control and other sex ed stuff like consent, not being selfish, etc.


CONDOMS.

OP is a boy-mom and she’s speaking to other boy-moms. Please don’t sugar coat this issue; say the word: CONDOMS. People: buy your sons some condoms. Don’t just buy a lame 3-pack; that is used up in one night. Buy a dozen and make sure he knows about them.


This
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:22     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows about birth control and other sex ed stuff like consent, not being selfish, etc.


This
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 13:18     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just for him to be polite, personable. Manners, say please and thank you and make eye contact, say hello and goodbye. Clean up after yourself. Usual stuff.


This. No sex.


Why not?
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 09:57     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Make sure he knows about birth control and other sex ed stuff like consent, not being selfish, etc.


CONDOMS.

OP is a boy-mom and she’s speaking to other boy-moms. Please don’t sugar coat this issue; say the word: CONDOMS. People: buy your sons some condoms. Don’t just buy a lame 3-pack; that is used up in one night. Buy a dozen and make sure he knows about them.
Anonymous
Post 08/11/2024 07:21     Subject: Son starting to go over a girl’s house….
Anonymous wrote:Wait. Are you guys seriously suggesting that parents of teens who are dating reach out to each other due to their kids relationships? Please land your helicopters. Teens have been hooking up since the beginning of time. Do not do this. You will create a hostile environment, where your kids won't tell you what they are doing and who they are doing it with, and they'll just do it.



Dp. There is a difference between 13/14 and 16/17
Girls especially need to learn that they don't need a boy to make themselves 'complete'. It usn't being a helicopter. It is being a parent.