Do not join a women’s organization (for example women in engineering) and announce to every woman you meet that you joined to meet women to date, not to help them advance their careers.

So cringe.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.

I met every woman I ever dated in public, including my now wife. Just walk up and apologize for interrupting, and tell them that you thought they were cute and had to shoot your shot. Then make normal conversation about what they / you are up to, and ask for the number / offer to take her out to drinks sometime soon. If you can handle that with confidence, you look decent, and come across as normal and put together you will have as many dates as you want.

Sorry, you're out of touch. Nobody does this anymore and it's a waste of time. Men who could in theory successfully do this can clean up on apps x 100 by just tapping on their phone. Why would you drive somewhere and do an activity or push a cart around a grocery store hoping to serendipitously run into a one single woman you find attractive when you can swipe hundreds of women on your phone? You also have to hope the woman you approach is single and not wearing headphones or on her phone. It's a lost cause. Plus men in their 30s with their crap together are going to have friends, family, and friends' spouses and girlfriends trying to set them up constantly.

Dog parks!

- a single mid-30s woman.

If a guy came up and complimented me on my @ss, I’d run away from that creep.
If a guy came up to me and complimented on what a cute, friendly, well-behaved dog I have, now we’re having a conversation. It’s the easiest icebreaker.

Anonymous wrote:If no kids (which many do have) - yoga, dog parks, wine tastings, classes

Approach anywhere but a bar please!

There have been threads on this and the consensus was never approach a woman anywhere. Remember the coffee shop lady?

Anonymous wrote:If no kids (which many do have) - yoga, dog parks, wine tastings, classes

Approach anywhere but a bar please!

Wait - isn’t this literally the opposite of what women in 2024 say?

If no kids (which many do have) - yoga, dog parks, wine tastings, classes

Approach anywhere but a bar please!

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Anonymous wrote:At home watching Netflix while scrolling instagram.

This is the answer most of the time. Brunch is like 2 hours once a month or so. The rest of the time is engaging in solitary hobbies, unless they live a charmed life in NYC or some other fabulous world class city.

+1
The gym is a few hours a week, shopping and wine bars, random.
You can't just find these ladies. I know, I was one. I was home most of the time!
Maybe start a handyman service. bum chicka bowwow

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.

I met every woman I ever dated in public, including my now wife. Just walk up and apologize for interrupting, and tell them that you thought they were cute and had to shoot your shot. Then make normal conversation about what they / you are up to, and ask for the number / offer to take her out to drinks sometime soon. If you can handle that with confidence, you look decent, and come across as normal and put together you will have as many dates as you want.

99% of men today cannot do that. First many of them suffer from anxiety..And second this could be.controversial and whether fair or not men are not encouraged to approach women in public
And if they do they have to follow a very strict protocol and as result come across either too uptight or a lost kid looking for his way back to mommy.

It’s an American issue mostly - and even then, I think the northeast and pack of northwest are the worse places for taking your shot

People abroad (well I dunno about Asia) and other parts of the country it’s way more ok to shoot your shot

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.

I met every woman I ever dated in public, including my now wife. Just walk up and apologize for interrupting, and tell them that you thought they were cute and had to shoot your shot. Then make normal conversation about what they / you are up to, and ask for the number / offer to take her out to drinks sometime soon. If you can handle that with confidence, you look decent, and come across as normal and put together you will have as many dates as you want.

This works but not in the city I live in - I’ve never seen anyone shoot their shot - it’s the most non-shooter city ever

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.

I met every woman I ever dated in public, including my now wife. Just walk up and apologize for interrupting, and tell them that you thought they were cute and had to shoot your shot. Then make normal conversation about what they / you are up to, and ask for the number / offer to take her out to drinks sometime soon. If you can handle that with confidence, you look decent, and come across as normal and put together you will have as many dates as you want.

99% of men today cannot do that. First many of them suffer from anxiety..And second this could be.controversial and whether fair or not men are not encouraged to approach women in public
And if they do they have to follow a very strict protocol and as result come across either too uptight or a lost kid looking for his way back to mommy.

Anonymous wrote:Grocery shopping at 7pm on a Saturday night. Not kidding -- go check it out.

I think this was a plot line in the Tales of the City series.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.

I met every woman I ever dated in public, including my now wife. Just walk up and apologize for interrupting, and tell them that you thought they were cute and had to shoot your shot. Then make normal conversation about what they / you are up to, and ask for the number / offer to take her out to drinks sometime soon. If you can handle that with confidence, you look decent, and come across as normal and put together you will have as many dates as you want.

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Anonymous wrote:Upscale wine bars. This is where my girlfriends and I hung out in our early 30s.

Hmmm

Maybe I should go to more tapas/wine places because high end hotel bars and hotel restaurants I go to are guys in their 40s/50s with some 30s guys (me) and women in their mid/late twenties

The women in their 30s at these places are there with partners

Are you IDing them or something? You might luck out and one of those assumed 28yos is actually a 32yo.

Anonymous wrote:At home watching Netflix while scrolling instagram.

This is the answer most of the time. Brunch is like 2 hours once a month or so. The rest of the time is engaging in solitary hobbies, unless they live a charmed life in NYC or some other fabulous world class city.

Anonymous wrote:I’m not in dc but a similar city

Not at run club
Not at classy hotel bars
Not at gallery openings / art museums


I see them at work or in packs of 5+ at restaurants

Early mid 20s women are out and about doing shit it seems but early mid 30s women…where are you?!?!?!?

All due respect, it's very rare to meet another single in public anymore. People use apps and are set up via friends.