Anonymous wrote:Unless the parents have done something evil, every child should visit their parents and provide visits with grandchildren.

I don’t agree with this. No one owes anyone a relationship. It’s ok to not one bc for whatever reasons, it isn’t good for you.

We visit my in-laws on the other side of the globe 1x/year sometimes every other year. We usually stay for about a month. Downside is we burn a lot of vacation and negotiating a 16hr flight plus a 10+ hr time difference with a toddler is no joke, probably takes a week alone to adjust. But ultimately I don't ever regret making the trip and our kid gets exposure to different culture, plus meet tons of relatives.

Unfortunately grandparents are elderly so visits to us are no longer an option; otherwise we'd fly them out here as a much preferable alternative.

Anonymous wrote:Unless the parents have done something evil, every child should visit their parents and provide visits with grandchildren.

OP here. If we visited my parents several times a year, the plane tickets alone would’ve be at least $12k per year. Let’s face it, of that could send us to a nice beach resort we’d all enjoy.

Unless the parents have done something evil, every child should visit their parents and provide visits with grandchildren.

My parents hijack our spring break (we go to them) and one week of our summer (they come to us) every year. We are trying to break the cycle by doing a long weekend in the fall and a long weekend in the spring so that we can have our spring break to take a long vacation finally (because DH's family hijacks our Christmas).