What do you think is going to happen?

Sounds like the beginning of a Teen Mom Episode.

No way. I’d offer to drive my teen to visit them at beach for a day, but that’s it.

Anonymous wrote:There's something creepy about the family even thinking this is okay, IMHO. Yes, parents of our daugther's 14 year old friends, do let them come away with us and a bunch of teenaged boys a few years older! It's cool! Come on, be cool!

Yeah it's a no from me dog.

That’s their son and his friends that they know really well. So to them it’s not creepy. I’m sure the daughter regularly hangs out at the friends house when these same kids are over. If anything a beach trip will be even less interaction in my experience as they will be off doing their own thing.

I feel like a lot of these responses are from parents where the 14 yo girl is the oldest. When it’s your youngest you usually have a more loose perspective because that older boy is your son….lol

It’s okay to not allow it, that’s why you get a choice ?

Yes- I would probably aplow this.

How old is this brother and his friends?
I don’t see 16/17 yo being super interested in some 8th graders.

I have kids with this same age differential and there isn’t a lot of cross interest between them when with their friends. Only when my older one is without her friends does she even deign to engage with her little sister and sisters friends.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, a parent willing to take all those people to the beach is not planning to supervise much if at all. You can tell by the number of kids the parent is allowing to go. I'd frankly be more worried about riptides and drownings.

Drownings?!?

They are teens. Do you supervise them at all times?!?!

sounds like a recipe for disaster honestly, if it was one or two friends maybe but not four each sibling and mixed.

Yes of course I would and as a mom I invited 3 friends each for both of my teens and they never hung out lol

You are all so paranoid and overthinking

Absolutely not and I wouldn't care if she's upset.

Nope

The kind of parent who would plan this is probably not a parent with very good judgment

Lots of potential risks. Would be a hard no from me.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
Like I said, we are normally very comfortable with this family/older son. We just aren't clear on the friends, who they are and what the typical day/sleeping arrangements look like and who the cousins are (if they are even going or how old they are). DD and her friend are typically good 14yr olds-- minimal drama, into boys but not advanced for their age, follow rules and directions etc. I don't know the other girls but DD says they're part of the 'friend group' so I would assume they're similar.

Go with your gut and do what makes you comfortable. I’ve said no and yes to my kids staying with certain families. It completely depends on the kids. Sometimes the older sibling has been more on the wild side and I was worried trouble could happen. I’m not taking any chances.

In our house, my older teen boy is a big introvert who loves his computer and isn’t into to partying at all. When he has friends over, they play computer games, eat or talk about cars. They do not pay any attention to his younger sister or her friends if they are here. The only exception is if they girls are loud and they ask one of us to tell them to be quieter. If the older kids are like this, sure, let them go. Most likely they aren’t and do what makes you comfortable.

Anonymous wrote:As a parent, I can't imagine any scenario where I would want to be responsible for feeding and entertaining that many teens, much less take on the responsibility of a mixed gender group, unless I was trying to be the cool parent, like a PP mentioned. It would definitely give me pause too and I would want to talk with the parents first.

Just be aware though talking to the parents can be misleading or at a minimum, is not really enough information about how people actually behave. The type that doesn't supervise doesn't say this. Yes, we'll be there the whole time supervising the kids. We will make sure they don't drink (how exactly?) and are home by 10pm every night.

Meanwhile, they are drunk or partying themselves and not paying any attention.

Been there.

Anonymous wrote:If I knew the parents really well I would (I can picture 3-4 families where this is the case). But with this many kids invited, it could be a friend that isn't quite as close and I wouldn't feel comfortable if I was only on acquaintance-basis with the parents.

+1. It could be a lot of fun, but also can see how it could get out of hand easily.

As a parent, I can't imagine any scenario where I would want to be responsible for feeding and entertaining that many teens, much less take on the responsibility of a mixed gender group, unless I was trying to be the cool parent, like a PP mentioned. It would definitely give me pause too and I would want to talk with the parents first.

I would say yes if it was just going to be your kid, but honestly I would doubt the judgement of the parents for thinking this is OK and that alone would make this a hard pass. Try to come up with another fun thing for your kid to do to make up for it. Maybe take her and a friend to an amusement park for a day or something like that.