Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 19:56     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:I was invited to my ex-husband's nephew's wedding. I had no plans to attend, but I sent $200 since I had known him since he was a toddler.


That was a really classy thing to do.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 19:56     Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

We give between $500 and $2,000. Depends on whether it's just me and DH or us plus the kids, depends if it's the first marriage, if they're in their 20's or 40's, etc.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 19:52     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

I was invited to my ex-husband's nephew's wedding. I had no plans to attend, but I sent $200 since I had known him since he was a toddler.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 18:42     Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

$50-100
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 18:28     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

I usually do $500 cash for friends/family and $200 for acquaintances.

If I have to travel and get a hotel/flight I lower it a bit.

If it's a holiday weekend and you're making me buy an expensive holiday travel flight/weekend and using my vacation days you're lucky if you get a gift (shoutout memorial day/july 4th/thanksgiving weddings)
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 18:07     Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

last month I went to a cousin's wedding. I barely know her (literally have maybe seen her 4 or 5 times total-we've always lived in different parts of the county.)
I went alone (Dh couldn't go) and gave $250 cash. Also was invited to her shower but didn't go and sent a gift from her registry worth about $60.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:53     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!

- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town

I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate


$50 for friend
$100 for family
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:53     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!

- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town

I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate


This sentiment is tacky no matter what your “cultural context.”

I don’t understand this thread—you have no question. You just want to shout onto the internet what you gift at weddings?


I am the OP - the question is literally in the first sentence. Fine, il add "can you" & "share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024". Thanks for not answering the question.


How does me answering the question help anyone? There must be almost countless threads on this already, some of them very recent, threads that I’m pretty sure include what I give—but you think adding “2024” makes this somehow new and relevant? New enough for you to post blah blah blah declaring yourself?


lol NP but just move along already, dude. I’m interested in the topic, and clearly others are too.

We do $150 each, more or less


Of course you are.


Whoa end thread. That was a good one!
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:52     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!

- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town

I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate


This sentiment is tacky no matter what your “cultural context.”

I don’t understand this thread—you have no question. You just want to shout onto the internet what you gift at weddings?


I am the OP - the question is literally in the first sentence. Fine, il add "can you" & "share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024". Thanks for not answering the question.


How does me answering the question help anyone? There must be almost countless threads on this already, some of them very recent, threads that I’m pretty sure include what I give—but you think adding “2024” makes this somehow new and relevant? New enough for you to post blah blah blah declaring yourself?


NP
Your “friends” hate you. I know this for a fact.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:48     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:I give $18 for essentially every gift.


Cheapskate. $360 is the minimum requirement.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:42     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Assuming you are giving a cash gift, share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024. No, I’m not asking what you gave ten years ago!

- For a standard wedding OR a wedding that was really expensive to travel to, I give $100-150
- For a very nice black tie wedding, I give $200-$250
- ALWAYS x2 for plus one
- All in, thats probably $200-500
- If I am invited but can’t make it, I do a flat $100 from both of us
- i routinely turn down invites if I dont feel “close” because most weddings I am invited to are out of town

I am of a cultural context of “cover your plate” but am well aware for a nice wedding, $200 might not be enough to cover your plate


This sentiment is tacky no matter what your “cultural context.”

I don’t understand this thread—you have no question. You just want to shout onto the internet what you gift at weddings?


I am the OP - the question is literally in the first sentence. Fine, il add "can you" & "share how much you plan to give and any context for 2024". Thanks for not answering the question.


How does me answering the question help anyone? There must be almost countless threads on this already, some of them very recent, threads that I’m pretty sure include what I give—but you think adding “2024” makes this somehow new and relevant? New enough for you to post blah blah blah declaring yourself?


lol NP but just move along already, dude. I’m interested in the topic, and clearly others are too.

We do $150 each, more or less


Of course you are.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:38     Subject: Re:Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

$250 for a friend or extended family member. $500 for a niece or nephew. That assumes we're going to the wedding. If we don't attend I would say more like a $50 item off the registry.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:37     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

I give $18 for essentially every gift.
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:33     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

3,000 to my niece
Anonymous
Post 05/13/2024 17:29     Subject: Wedding season 2024- going gift amount?

Anonymous wrote:We are pretty wealthy. We usually give as much as we feel that we can give without being garish.


So how much are you giving these days or plan to give in 2024?