Anonymous wrote:My dear OP.

Please. Believe in yourself. Wear what makes you HAPPY and CONFIDENT, because this, above all else, is what attracts people.

Would you like to dress in the same style as when you last dated? I promise you that you will look great. Would you like something else? Look at websites and their lookbooks. Peruse a Vogue catalogue to see what the outrageous looks like now (and how you can reduce it to approximately normal streetwear).

I'm the same age and the same size. I wear mini skirts, I wear short shorts (nothing hangs out), I wear long boho dresses, I wear clothes that highlight my smallish waist, I wear baggy trousers, I have a range of fun tops with interesting prints, or interesting structure - my favorite is the corset-style one. I want to have fun with clothes in this decade of my life.
Also, I'm happily married. I would wear these clothes regardless of my marital/dating status. They make me HAPPY.

You only have one life.

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Anonymous wrote:If you are a size 0/2 I honestly think so much will work and I don’t think most men are going to care about whether you are on trend or wearing a high end brand. I mean if you can afford All Saints go for it, but I think a nice pair of jeans and fitted tee from wherever is going to be fine for a casual date, maybe a slightly sexier neckline fabric for a slightly fancier date, a skirt for a slightly dressier date.

I’m sure this is a stressful life change but I don’t think you should feel like you need a whole new wardrobe to date, just a few cute pieces. A lot of guys won’t care at all. I hope he’s not on the market 😀 but my DS does not notice clothes much at all. He likes the athleisure look and has never cared a bit about clothes I choose in 20 years.

DH I meant obviously

Anonymous wrote:If you are a size 0/2 I honestly think so much will work and I don’t think most men are going to care about whether you are on trend or wearing a high end brand. I mean if you can afford All Saints go for it, but I think a nice pair of jeans and fitted tee from wherever is going to be fine for a casual date, maybe a slightly sexier neckline fabric for a slightly fancier date, a skirt for a slightly dressier date.

I’m sure this is a stressful life change but I don’t think you should feel like you need a whole new wardrobe to date, just a few cute pieces. A lot of guys won’t care at all. I hope he’s not on the market 😀 but my DS does not notice clothes much at all. He likes the athleisure look and has never cared a bit about clothes I choose in 20 years.

Anonymous wrote:I would go to the nearest allsaints. some skews a little young, but there’s enough stuff that would work on a fit 40 yr old.

https://www.allsaints.com/women/clothing

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Anonymous wrote:I'd go to a Tuckernuck store and ask one of the sales people to style you. They have great clothes for women in their 40s in a range of prices. Being styled in person is really the best way to find what you are looking for.

OP here. I actually have some stuff from Tuckernuck, but I don't think it reads as date attire. Like a lot of the dresses lean either "society wife at a pool party" (and don't get me wrong, I love a caftan, I have several) or kind of preppy short dresses that feel too buttoned up and preppy to wear on a date.

I am definitely open to working with a stylist, but don't think Tuckernuck is hitting the right note. I want the more grownup, 2024 version of well-fitting jeans and a "going out top" like what I wore on dates back I the 00s. What is that?

I agree OP and I will be following this thread. I'm about your size and think I'm cute (late) 40s so I'm interested in what people say. I'm married but I'm coming out of my lululemon covid fog uniform. I've found a few boutique pieces and totally random places that I love, but I dont have a go-to shop. Tuckernuck is too boxy to give our petite slim awesome frames that we work so hard for justice. I want to show mine off - everything else is looking like I'm in my 40s, my body/health is an asset - just being honest here because we're anonymous.

More suggestions please!!

Anonymous wrote:I would do a straight leg jean, pretty blouse, and flats, wedge, or low heel.

Jeans:
https://www.neimanmarcus.com/p/mother-the-tomcat-ankle-straight-leg-jeans-prod256100453?childItemId=NMT45Y3_&msid=4428382&navpath=cat000000_cat000730_cat63350748&page=0&position=2

Blouse:
https://www.sezane.com/us/product/flamine-blouse/ecru#size-2

https://www.sezane.com/us/product/emma-blouse/ecru-embroidery-black#size-4


Shoe:
https://www.zappos.com/p/cole-haan-josie-wedge-sandals-black-leather/product/9932461/color/72?utm_source=google&utm_medium=pla_g&utm_campaign=19809366959&utm_term=_o_58264793&utm_content=_g_143774770701_w_pla-1966379019746_l_EAIaIQobChMIgZbAtqfhhQMVdVxHAR0TmA39EAQYBCABEgIQ1_D_BwE&gbraid=0AAAAADnIwa9oamnwcIEzseNKIKKm-uy4m&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgZbAtqfhhQMVdVxHAR0TmA39EAQYBCABEgIQ1_D_BwE

https://www.stuartweitzman.com/products/mirela-ii-espadrille-wedge/SE626-BK%2FNT.html?ogmap=PLA%7CACQ%7CGOOG%7CSTND%7Cm%7CSITEWIDE%7CMain%7CSW_RTL_Google_PLA_Signal_NA_Brand_National_PMax_NA_BAU%7CSW_RTL_Google_PLA_Signal_NA_Brand_National_PMax_NA_BAU%7C%7C21143715832%7C%7CUS&utm_campaign=SW_RTL_Google_PLA_Signal_NA_Brand_National_PMax_Sandals_BAU&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgZbAtqfhhQMVdVxHAR0TmA39EAQYCSABEgKR6PD_BwE

https://www.zappos.com/p/gentle-souls-by-kenneth-cole-charli-x-band-buckle-ice/product/9675634/color/419

https://www.everlane.com/products/womens-leather-day-heel2-red-currant-suede

Anonymous wrote:Some brands to check out: Sezane (good job PP), Rag and Bone, Aritzia,

don't know about denim skirts-- I know they are on trend but don't feel like me. What about a satin slip skirt in a neutral color? Or like a black ribbed midi? Is this stuff too dated?

Anonymous wrote:How about Reiss or Karen Millen?