Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 22:28     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.


WTF? When in the history of ever has a child asked their mother to buy her a vibrator!??!


WTF? How is it the majority of moms in my peer/friends group have bought their daughter one? I thought most progressive moms were doing this! How is this strange??
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 21:49     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Better in your own house than in a car or public place etc. That's my thinking, better to be in a safe place.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 14:01     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Omg honestly I never thought about getting my teen daughter a vibrator but now I am.

So she can lay off wanting to be with any one pump chumps that don’t try and make her feel good anyway.

Very powerful
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 13:37     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.


WTF? When in the history of ever has a child asked their mother to buy her a vibrator!??!


Mine asked me for one. . .and I only feel grateful that she and I have developed the kind of relationship where she feels comfortable asking for something like that. I don't know details, or pry - allow her privacy - but she definitely knows that I will answer anything and be available to help her with anything.
Anonymous
Post 04/28/2024 03:05     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.


WTF? When in the history of ever has a child asked their mother to buy her a vibrator!??!
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 23:35     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.


This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.


I honestly do not understand this point of view. What's wrong with safe, consensual sex? Why not let your teen have sex at home in their bed with the door closed? Better that than in a car, or some other dirty unsafe place.


This has to be a teen posting. There's many dangers: emotional fallout when the relationship sours, improper use of b.c. leading to pregnancy or sti, becoming subject of gossip at school which leads to bullying, etc. It seems many of the teen suicides that make the news have some element of romance gone bad or sexual embarrassment.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 23:30     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
There's always a few kids in HS whose parents are never around, so that house is the hookup house. There's also:

place of employment
school facilities after hours
after school activity facility
secluded park/woods
driving to motel (seriously)
cousin's best friend's cousin's house
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 19:36     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
No, she isn't to my knowledge, but she did ask me if I could buy her a vibrator. I did, so of course I know she has one.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 19:31     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.


This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.


I honestly do not understand this point of view. What's wrong with safe, consensual sex? Why not let your teen have sex at home in their bed with the door closed? Better that than in a car, or some other dirty unsafe place.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 19:22     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:Realized DS was having son was having $ex in his car (found the condom wrapper.) His girlfriend isn't allowed to be at our house if we aren't here....and her parents don't want him there if they aren't home....

I have a feeling once he gets to college...


He’s gonna do what every college student does?
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 10:26     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Realized DS was having son was having $ex in his car (found the condom wrapper.) His girlfriend isn't allowed to be at our house if we aren't here....and her parents don't want him there if they aren't home....

I have a feeling once he gets to college...
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 08:19     Subject: Re:If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My house and her house when parents aren't around, or discreetly if they are I guess. They're about to graduate from high school, have been together for 9 months, and I'm not going to shame them for it. As long as they're not making it super obvious, it's fine by me.



Yeah, I'm so not into shaming here. I'm pretty sex positive, and both kids are total straight-edge cautious types. It's not the fact that someday my kid will have sex that bothers me. I just can't figure out how (or if), practically, to leave them some space. We're very close, so if I'm away from the house, chances are good the kid has tagged along with me. If they're home, I'm probably home.


Why not ask your child how or if they need some space?
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 08:14     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
You are incredibly naive OP. They are definitely having sex.
Anonymous
Post 04/27/2024 08:09     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:OP, they are having sex already. Teens always figure it out.


Not necessarily. If they are 17, highly likely. But if they are 13-16 it is definitely possible they have been dating a year and not had sex
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2024 23:05     Subject: If your teen is sexually active...
Anonymous wrote:Teens will find a way. That’s one of the more exciting parts.


This. You don't have to make it easy for them. I'm fact, you shouldn't.