Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

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Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as having a "good friend" of the opposite sex. If you're in a relationship of any sort, that person should be your best friend. If they are not then you're not 100% into the relationship.

Any no, men cannot be friends with women they don't want to bang. That's just fact. There might be a .0000001% chance but it's a one off. Always assume if a guy and girl are friends, the guy wants the girl.

There is absolutely such a thing. I have a very good friend at work. We chat during the work day, then go home to our spouses. It just so happens that I'm male and she's female but our relationship wouldn't be any different if we were the same gender.

Anonymous wrote:man here....I have been good friends with an ugly girl but NEVER with one I find attractive so then tend to fantasize This is just nature...never going to change.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

When one of you confesses catching feelings and the other admits to feeling the same.

Anonymous wrote:"do you hide this relationship from your spouse? If your spouse saw your interactions, would he/she be okay with it? If not, it’s an EA."

This. If you can't be completely open about it with your partner, or would change the way you interact with the other party if your partner were watching, it's an EA.

If it's already long hugs and touch, you're moving into actual physical affair territory. If you couldn't do it in front of your partner, or tell your partner the unedited truth about all of it, it's cheating.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

When one of you confesses catching feelings and the other admits to feeling the same.

I don’t even think that’s the point where it flips to an emotional affair, it’s the emotional intimacy that comes after.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

When one of you confesses catching feelings and the other admits to feeling the same.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

spoken like someone who has not ever experienced it. I hope you never have to because it is absolute torment.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.

NP, but so curious what is the line that both people must cross to distinguish between a crush and an EA. Sometimes I suspect the constant posts here about EAs are really just crushes - the “EA partner” is friendly, always willing to lend an ear and probably enjoys the attention, but really doesn’t have genuine feelings for the married person that’s falling for them.

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Anonymous wrote:I once had an EA with a client though I’m sure it wasn’t reciprocal. I was single, he was married and I was an emotional mess and he was a great listener so I could tell him things that I couldn’t tell others. Maybe it was more a a patient/psychiatrist type relationship. If given the chance I would have slept with him but he never gave any indication he wanted more. It ended when I met my now husband who took over that role. The guy and I are still friends but just friends.

That’s not an “EA,” that’s an unreciprocated crush. EAs are reciprocal, otherwise it is an obsessive crush. It’s kind of depressing that your resolution was jumping into another relationship but I get it.