Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 18:22     Subject: Re:How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Aaaand, there's also the "Snap Map," which allows your child to see EXACTLY where their friends are, making it crystal clear when they're being excluded.


Ohh boo hoo

That’s ridiculous to be that kind of parent


I think it's ridiculous not to understand how that could make your kid feel. We didn't have that growing up and I am glad.

Thanks to the person who posted about SnapChat not being such a big deal and TikTok being more toxic in their experience. I don't need to have a battle about which one is actually worse, but it's good to know that some things, even if they have the potential to be bad, don't necessarily have that effect.


If everyone's bike was at someone's house, you weren't invited
If people talked about a party on Monday, you were invited

It's literally no different than posting pics on social media

Snap Maps is not that big of a deal.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 18:10     Subject: Re:How bad is Snapchat and why?
In high school buying burner phones is more common than you think. Who knew.

My kids knows several who have them to get around parents.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 18:01     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.


Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.


How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.


Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about


This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?


One of the main things we have in place is that we have to approve every app that gets downloaded, so this couldn't happen for us. We don't say no to most of the requests, but it helps stop apps like Snapchat.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 14:03     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.


Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.


How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.


Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about


This is the one I've heard of. If an older sibling has it and you have a family plan, it's available for them to download whenever they want.

I'd love to hear from the pp the steps to check the messages?
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 12:51     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.


Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.


How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.


Things kids do that I have heard about first hand and they are far more clever than my middle-age self so I'm sure this is the tip of the iceburg:

delete and download the app daily
access snapchat from browser on school device
Use friend's device to set up account and access
buy burner phones you don't know about
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 12:34     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
We took the approach of letting them have it, but sitting with them randomly and opening messages when we were together. This could happen at any time (and in theory still could happen, if we felt like we needed to).

I understand the desire to limit this stuff, but I wanted my kids to experience social media while they are still at home and while their dad and I have direct say/limits over how it is used. Similar to my desire to have them learn to use a car while living at home and while we can provide direct supervision and limits as needed.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 11:54     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.


Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.


How’d you figure out he had it? I’m wondering if my 13 year old has done the same thing. He pestered me repeatedly when he got his phone 2 years ago, I said no and he hasn’t asked since then.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 11:42     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.


Many of them are doing this and other hacks. My kids tell me they all have snapchat and their parents just don't know. Just FYI.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 11:21     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Ooo, did not know we could see text messages online. But we have to know the kid’s login info, right?!
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 10:59     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree


My kid figured out some way to hide the app so it looked like he didn’t have it although he actually did. I checked his phone randomly and never saw it but he had it the entire time.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 10:18     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
The epitome of creating FOMO.
Anonymous
Post 01/31/2024 00:49     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:It’s mainly just a time waster. Stupid streaks that have to be done daily. Lots of “snapping” random teenagers who go to other schools and building up fake transient relationships that way (from those who use snap a lot) that end up meaningless. I find teens who snap a lot get really addicted to that validation but I also think that it’s their personality and they’d be seeking that out wherever on some other platform.

Kids who aren’t addicted to that kind of dopamine hit of constant communication will be able to use snap just fine.

they can find drug dealers on there but if it’s not there it’s insta or telegram or a friend using all these same apps for them.


+1. I hate those damn snap streaks, lol.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2024 23:25     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
It’s mainly just a time waster. Stupid streaks that have to be done daily. Lots of “snapping” random teenagers who go to other schools and building up fake transient relationships that way (from those who use snap a lot) that end up meaningless. I find teens who snap a lot get really addicted to that validation but I also think that it’s their personality and they’d be seeking that out wherever on some other platform.

Kids who aren’t addicted to that kind of dopamine hit of constant communication will be able to use snap just fine.

they can find drug dealers on there but if it’s not there it’s insta or telegram or a friend using all these same apps for them.
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2024 23:03     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:Allowing your child to have SnapChat is horribly negligent parenting on your part.


+1. Reading this thread I tend to agree
Anonymous
Post 01/30/2024 22:12     Subject: How bad is Snapchat and why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Girls used it to bully 1 girl. The nasty messages popped up to antagonize her and then they disappear. It was hard to prove bullying in this manner.


Don't screenshots work?


I think it tells the other party when something was screenshot so people avoid doing it but kids still need to know that someone on another phone can take a photo of the screen.