Broke up thanksgiving, DD was devastated and depressed, did poorly on exams in Dec.

Both my boys dated long distance 4 and 2 years respectively and got dumped hard.

Both dated a lot the next 2 years, heavy rebound dating.

One is dating seriously, the other is playing the field.

Still make an effort to see each other -- train/bus.

I picked my college to be close to the BF from junior and senior year of HS. We broke up by graduation, saw casually got together over the summer but then never spoke or saw each other again once we went away to college.

We went to different colleges but kept dating and saw each other on breaks & some weekends. Went to different grad schools farther apart. Eventfully got married after grad school & now married almost 20 years with 2 kids.

Apparently only 2% of high school sweethearts end up marrying each other while 28% of college sweethearts eventually marry each other.

Anonymous wrote:my DD's dumba$$ boyfriend broke up with her the day before graduation. they really never broke off though. they did go to the same school, but not because of each other (that i know of). he then broke up with her again in september or so. for many years after he would text hr when she had a new boyfriend, asking if you like him better than you liked me!!! this happened up until and after each one was dating their current spouses! sorry, macy, you are second best, he still wants my larla!

i think he finally unfriended her on insta when she got engaged, so the door was closed for him, but he would still communicate with her friends about her. good riddance loser!

Creepy mom

my DD's dumba$$ boyfriend broke up with her the day before graduation. they really never broke off though. they did go to the same school, but not because of each other (that i know of). he then broke up with her again in september or so. for many years after he would text hr when she had a new boyfriend, asking if you like him better than you liked me!!! this happened up until and after each one was dating their current spouses! sorry, macy, you are second best, he still wants my larla!

i think he finally unfriended her on insta when she got engaged, so the door was closed for him, but he would still communicate with her friends about her. good riddance loser!

Graduated in May 2023. Kids are not going to college. Both working good jobs and moving in together sometime this summer.

Not everyone goes to college. Not everyone needs to.

I am curious about this too. DS has been with gf for 18m. They only applied to one school in common so I don't think they will be going to school together, but DS says they have discussed it and they don't intend to break up before going to school.

I started dating DH in HS. We went to college together, worked at several of the same jobs during/immediately after college, bought a house, and got married (a few yrs later at 27). We've been together for 17 yrs now.

Sophomore year of college. still dating. It is not always easy but they make it work.


I've asked my DD if she would prefer to not have that additional responsibility during college but their relationship is important enough to both of them that they make it work.


They visit each other a few times a semester and see one another on breaks. talk on the phone every single day.

They dated all of senior year of HS, went to college on opposite sides of the country and are still together more than a year later. I really wish it would end but it appears they still want to hold on to each other. A side issue for us is she was known to lie to us and her friends and I believe her BF as well, so although I give no advice because it isn't asked for, this relationship started with lies from the beginning so from a parent's perspective I'd like it to end as soon as possible to allow her to grow up and not latch on to her past.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here and I think they'll probably stay together but by senior year who knows. DD says she'll probably visit often and he's probably going to the localish college so that might make it easier. I'm concerned about the cheating though.

It's silly to concern yourself now, with an 11th grader, about potential cheating in college. That's for them to figure out.

-Mother with a DD in a similar situation.

A few of DD friends tried to continue dating. They would travel on weekends to each others campus. Both ended up breaking up by Christmas. During that time of dating and leaving campus they missed the opportunity to engage and fully connect with their own schools. They then struggled with connecting with new friends after the breakup. One dropped out and went back to community college close to home.

They agreed to break up either after hs graduation or at the end of summer.