Anonymous
03/12/2015 11:10
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Isn't there another thread for this ongoing stay at home vs working mom?
Why is it going on and on and on here?
Because there's one militant stay at home mommy on here who needs to
You must be the troll who keeps insulting SAHMs, trying your hardest to get a rise out of them. Don't you have work to do?
Anonymous
03/12/2015 10:07
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Ditto. My husband shares parenting duties and if he is the parent around, then DC runs to him when hurt. I feel sorry for the husbands and children of sahm that hold the reins so tightly that dad never forms a close bond with their kids.
I feel sorry for yours that their dad is more capable of healing them then you are. Or maybe somehow they think that you won't be there or that you'll rush away somewhere so they need to get the nearest person they see?
New poster here - you really need help. You get some kind of perverse satisfaction from being THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN COMFORT your kids. Don't you WANT them to have a close relationship with their father? Or because you contribute nothing else to your household, you convince them that only mommy will do? When they go to school, will you let the teachers comfort them? Or will you throw yourself off a bridge because your life has no meaning?
And how deeply sad for all of you that you see your husband as a paycheck, not a father.
How is it more sad than seeing your marriage as a cohabitation of two paychecks, not a relationship?
Not the PP who said SAHMs see their husbands as paychecks (I'm sure that's not the case), but seriously -- you think a woman earning a paycheck means she is just cohabiting with her husband? Lol you are so incredibly ridiculous and clearly want to keep all us other women submissive and in the kitchen full time. Sorry, but times have changed and women can accomplish a lot of incredible things including being doctors and lawyers. And what do you think of your children's teachers? A lot of them are female and have children. Do you think they don't love their own children and are selfish for teaching your children?
And my marriage is a relationship. It is one built on equal partnership whether we earn 50/50 (our situation right now), one of us earns more, one of us stays home, etc. We are a team and I don't see a need to manipulate my children into loving me more for the sake of my own self esteem. I have value as a mom and a woman who is a capable attorney.
^^ okay fixed the quotes now!
what ON EARTH are you talking about? that poster was commenting on the pp saying her husband wouldn't ever have the ability to comfort his kids. it's basically the literal opposite of what you're arguing.
Anonymous
03/12/2015 10:01
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Isn't there another thread for this ongoing stay at home vs working mom?
Why is it going on and on and on here?
Because there's one militant stay at home mommy on here who needs to
Anonymous
03/12/2015 09:16
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Isn't there another thread for this ongoing stay at home vs working mom?
Why is it going on and on and on here?
Why is it going on and on and on here?
Anonymous
03/12/2015 09:12
Subject: Tell an opinion you have that is in the strong minority
Anonymous wrote:Ditto. My husband shares parenting duties and if he is the parent around, then DC runs to him when hurt. I feel sorry for the husbands and children of sahm that hold the reins so tightly that dad never forms a close bond with their kids.
I feel sorry for yours that their dad is more capable of healing them then you are. Or maybe somehow they think that you won't be there or that you'll rush away somewhere so they need to get the nearest person they see?
New poster here - you really need help. You get some kind of perverse satisfaction from being THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN COMFORT your kids. Don't you WANT them to have a close relationship with their father? Or because you contribute nothing else to your household, you convince them that only mommy will do? When they go to school, will you let the teachers comfort them? Or will you throw yourself off a bridge because your life has no meaning?
And how deeply sad for all of you that you see your husband as a paycheck, not a father.
How is it more sad than seeing your marriage as a cohabitation of two paychecks, not a relationship?
Not the PP who said SAHMs see their husbands as paychecks (I'm sure that's not the case), but seriously -- you think a woman earning a paycheck means she is just cohabiting with her husband? Lol you are so incredibly ridiculous and clearly want to keep all us other women submissive and in the kitchen full time. Sorry, but times have changed and women can accomplish a lot of incredible things including being doctors and lawyers. And what do you think of your children's teachers? A lot of them are female and have children. Do you think they don't love their own children and are selfish for teaching your children?
And my marriage is a relationship. It is one built on equal partnership whether we earn 50/50 (our situation right now), one of us earns more, one of us stays home, etc. We are a team and I don't see a need to manipulate my children into loving me more for the sake of my own self esteem. I have value as a mom and a woman who is a capable attorney.
PP, I'm a SAHM and I agree with you; but it seems there are plenty of WOHMs here who can't fathom the idea of a SAHM being an equal partner with her husband. My husband has always considered us a team, as do the husbands of all the other SAHMs I know. I find it incredibly pathetic that there are women who can't (or won't) believe this and feel the need to tear down SAHMs at every turn. Women who SAH are there because they want to be, not because they have to be. We all have value, as moms, partners, and women.
