Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 15:30     Subject: Re:Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:I cannot tell you how liberating it was to sell our second home two years ago. I cannot overemphasize how much work/stress it was to maintain another home in a different area. Our visits were not enjoyable for me. It would take half a day to pack and load up the car myself and the kids. We arrive, spend another hour unpacking. Then, you either have to pack groceries or make a grocery run as soon as you get there. We’d spend a lot of time meeting with AC guys, dealing with the broken dishwasher, figuring out what else needed to be done. Then, when it was time to go, we’d spend the day cleaning out the refrigerator, taking out the trash, and either arranging for cleaners or cleaning ourselves. We spent an inordinate amount of our disposable income on things like a new roof or new AC unit for the second home. Also, we found ourselves almost never going due to kids sports, social obligations, etc.

I will never own a second home again unless I’m wealthy enough to buy a place with a second cottage and have full-time caregiver to take care of the house.


Yeah that’s why literally every rich family we know has more than one home. Because it’s such a chore. Much better to waste money and get scammed on Airbnb — and hope some creep owner didn’t install cameras all around the areas you and your kids undress. No thanks.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 12:52     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
I’m sitting beside the pool in my second home about 90 minutes NW of DC and it’s awesome. And no it doesn’t weigh us down. It’s a great place and the entire family loves it and uses it. We “vacation” elsewhere though.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 12:49     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Much cheaper and no work to just rent an Airbnb for a couple weeks at a different destination each summer
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 12:26     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With seemingly everyone who has one gone from their main residence right now, anyone else feel this way? Be honest.

Because honestly, this week I can't stop feeling "poor" (not literally, relatively) because we don't have a place to escape to. Relying on random invites to friends' and family vacation homes at this point in our life just feels so low and desperate. I don't care how much or how little financial sense it makes, we need a second home. I'm so over being trapped at home all year, fishing for invitations, or even renting for a week at a time. Perhaps this is the precise feeling that motivates so many to buy a second home?


Fishing for invites got real old once we hit our mid 30s. Makes you feel second class, like a leech. Especially once you have a kid or two. And renting is just flushing money down the drain. When you rent you're just lowly transients. The vibe is totally different when you own, when you know the neighbors, when your kids can grow up with neighbor kids. Being able to go away on a whim, there's nothing like it.


I own my house, but don't have any desire for a vacation home. I go away on a whim all the time. Just book a plane ticket and hotel when things are not busy at work. Lots of domestic and international destinations. Love not being tied to one place for my vacations.



Why would you be tied to 1 place for vacations? We use our 2nd home (beach) for weekend getaways and now stay a lot longer because can remote work. We go other places for our vacations. Mostly overseas.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 09:43     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
the original post is 3 years old. everyone calm down.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 08:26     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
If it makes you feel better OP we never use our vacation home and our HOA prohibits renting it out so it's basically a waste.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 08:24     Subject: Re:Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
I cannot tell you how liberating it was to sell our second home two years ago. I cannot overemphasize how much work/stress it was to maintain another home in a different area. Our visits were not enjoyable for me. It would take half a day to pack and load up the car myself and the kids. We arrive, spend another hour unpacking. Then, you either have to pack groceries or make a grocery run as soon as you get there. We’d spend a lot of time meeting with AC guys, dealing with the broken dishwasher, figuring out what else needed to be done. Then, when it was time to go, we’d spend the day cleaning out the refrigerator, taking out the trash, and either arranging for cleaners or cleaning ourselves. We spent an inordinate amount of our disposable income on things like a new roof or new AC unit for the second home. Also, we found ourselves almost never going due to kids sports, social obligations, etc.

I will never own a second home again unless I’m wealthy enough to buy a place with a second cottage and have full-time caregiver to take care of the house.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 08:13     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Airbnb
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 08:08     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
One home with maintenance, bills, and taxes is good enough. I love our home.
Anonymous
Post 05/27/2023 08:06     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:With seemingly everyone who has one gone from their main residence right now, anyone else feel this way? Be honest.

Because honestly, this week I can't stop feeling "poor" (not literally, relatively) because we don't have a place to escape to. Relying on random invites to friends' and family vacation homes at this point in our life just feels so low and desperate. I don't care how much or how little financial sense it makes, we need a second home. I'm so over being trapped at home all year, fishing for invitations, or even renting for a week at a time. Perhaps this is the precise feeling that motivates so many to buy a second home?


Fishing for invites got real old once we hit our mid 30s. Makes you feel second class, like a leech. Especially once you have a kid or two. And renting is just flushing money down the drain. When you rent you're just lowly transients. The vibe is totally different when you own, when you know the neighbors, when your kids can grow up with neighbor kids. Being able to go away on a whim, there's nothing like it.


I own my house, but don't have any desire for a vacation home. I go away on a whim all the time. Just book a plane ticket and hotel when things are not busy at work. Lots of domestic and international destinations. Love not being tied to one place for my vacations.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 22:54     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? I can't get 1 house there is no inventory and tons of people with cash I'm still renting a crappy apartment
Your post is rediculous op.


Change your preferences.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 22:00     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
My beach house is rented almost full time now because when the value skyrocketed so did the property taxes and insurance.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 21:53     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? I can't get 1 house there is no inventory and tons of people with cash I'm still renting a crappy apartment
Your post is rediculous op.


Rediculous or ridiculous?
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 21:53     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
You’ve got to get a grip.
Anonymous
Post 05/26/2023 21:51     Subject: Not having a second / vacation home makes me feel poor & depressed. Anyone else?
Are you serious? I can't get 1 house there is no inventory and tons of people with cash I'm still renting a crappy apartment
Your post is rediculous op.