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Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

Who says I have kids that go to STA? I’ve never commented on what does or doesn’t happen at STA. It was a comment on her assumption that because her kid didn’t get in that decisions couldn’t have been based on merit. And my point was simply that she’s going to be whining in 6 years when she discovers college admissions works the same way.

If you don’t have a kid who attends makes your hot-headed comments even more bizarre. To be that unhinged and that invested when you don’t know or have a relationship with the school. You have no credibility and it doesn’t concern you.

well, I suppose PP doesn't have a relationship with the school now, either, does she? So she has no credibility either.

and I didn't say whether I did or did not have kids that go to STA. Whether I do or not isn't relevant to the point I was making.

PP did attempt to get in the school so they know that process. You are reactive and your posts are dramatic and low level with your snarky insults. On top of that, you reduced merit to a joke.
You could never get in that school with your behavior and you admitted that you do not have children who attend in is not in line with your bizarre reactions.

Also, private schools practice holistic admissions meaning they try to build a class. They don’t want all robotics kids nor do they want all lacrosse players (too simplistic but you get what I mean). Kids they know help them with that bc they have a good sense if they will matriculate or not.

(If you really want your kid to attend St Albans, I would absolutely let them know you are all in. Write that first choice letter if it is your kid’s first choice.)

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Anonymous wrote:There is definitely a "look". I don't think my husband and I share it but my son has it.
Most parents do although less in the upper school. By then everyone is either haggard or has the alien/plastic surgery look.

My kid is clean cut and denied. He’s already at a boys school. I don’t know what else they want but it must be necessary to have a connection or be a minority.

I posted earlier that they wanted a certain " look". That does not mean "clean cut". It means an air of unstriving affluence. So it does have to do with the parents + students. It is like summing up horses for a race. Your breeding is being summed up.

I think St Albans prioritizes boys from private elementary schools - I think STA is looking for boys who will stay through graduation and families who are committed to private school early demonstrate they value paying all that money for the private school experience. Further, STA knows the curriculum, teachers and culture of these places. Wouldn’t you listen to the opinion of someone you know first-hand than someone you don’t know? Same with coming from Beauvoir. They really know those kids because they came from the Close.

But don’t take that to mean that these boys are not deserving. They often are great students who achieve a lot of success at STA. Another poster mentioned that they like certain public schools more than others and this is in the same vein. They have seen students succeed and add to the community from these schools so they too seem like a known quantities.

Bottom line, there are many more qualified boys than slots. There are deserving boys who are not offered admission, certainly. I am glad there are so many private schools in the area and hopefully one of those other phenomenal choices worked out for your kid.

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Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

Who says I have kids that go to STA? I’ve never commented on what does or doesn’t happen at STA. It was a comment on her assumption that because her kid didn’t get in that decisions couldn’t have been based on merit. And my point was simply that she’s going to be whining in 6 years when she discovers college admissions works the same way.

If you don’t have a kid who attends makes your hot-headed comments even more bizarre. To be that unhinged and that invested when you don’t know or have a relationship with the school. You have no credibility and it doesn’t concern you.

well, I suppose PP doesn't have a relationship with the school now, either, does she? So she has no credibility either.

and I didn't say whether I did or did not have kids that go to STA. Whether I do or not isn't relevant to the point I was making.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

thank you for the feedback. Would it be better to use "STA rejected your son", to make clear that STA was the one who, in fact, rejected her son? "Your son didn't get into STA" sounds a bit passive.

For the purposes of providing the full picture, would it have also made more sense to say: "STA rejected your son instead of putting him on the wait list"? Is that too much information?

Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

+1. Unfortunately, this rings true. I’m my experience with school regarding this matter, I have frequently seen students get passed for lower performing students and sometimes not really a good fit get in simply based on connection.

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Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

Who says I have kids that go to STA? I’ve never commented on what does or doesn’t happen at STA. It was a comment on her assumption that because her kid didn’t get in that decisions couldn’t have been based on merit. And my point was simply that she’s going to be whining in 6 years when she discovers college admissions works the same way.

If you don’t have a kid who attends makes your hot-headed comments even more bizarre. To be that unhinged and that invested when you don’t know or have a relationship with the school. You have no credibility and it doesn’t concern you.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

“Your son” is best option here. It provides the most information in the most succinct manner. Always strive for clarity and brevity in your writing.

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Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

Who says I have kids that go to STA? I’ve never commented on what does or doesn’t happen at STA. It was a comment on her assumption that because her kid didn’t get in that decisions couldn’t have been based on merit. And my point was simply that she’s going to be whining in 6 years when she discovers college admissions works the same way.

Then you are embarrassing only yourself as is the PP.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

Yes my mistake. He didn’t get into STA. Or better to phrase “your son didn’t get into STA” or maybe “your child didn’t get into STA”. Would it be better sounding to say “STA rejected your son”?

Anonymous wrote:She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.

Who says I have kids that go to STA? I’ve never commented on what does or doesn’t happen at STA. It was a comment on her assumption that because her kid didn’t get in that decisions couldn’t have been based on merit. And my point was simply that she’s going to be whining in 6 years when she discovers college admissions works the same way.

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

It’s “he didn’t get into STA,” not “they.”

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Anonymous wrote:I must say that it's nice that you're getting to practice your 'where is the merit' whining now, so you can repeat it 4-6 years from now when your kids are rejected from college.

You dismiss merit? It will be nice when you whine about how your kid can’t handle college and you’ll have to bail him out. Or when he has low job performance and he’ll be moving back in with you.

No more like you whine about how the only explanation for your kid not getting in is to claim it’s not about merit. Maybe you should face the fact that he just wasn’t good enough. Your kid getting rejected is not evidence of anything.

And if my kids end up the way you describe? guess what, they’ll own that result. And so will I. I won’t whine about how it must be because my perfect kid was somehow cheated.

Not good enough, you winch? Straight A’s. You want him to perform brain surgery? Your kid gets you to do everything for him. The only thing you have is a connection and you are offended that you know your kid couldn’t get in without that.
You’re gonna whine when you don’t get your way, Karen. I bet when you don’t get what you want, you say “I’m going to get you fired.”

Am I the one whining now? I don’t think so. Are we supposed to be impressed with straight As in 6th grade? Seriously?

Look your kid didn’t get in. If the only way you can sleep at night is to tell yourself it’s not about merit then go ahead. I’m sure whenever your kid loses at sports you just blame the refs. That’s all this is.

Your kid couldn’t score in a game without you doing it for him. But you would want him to be picked. I bet you tell the refs “do you know who I am?”

Lashing out at me doesn’t get your kid any closer to getting in. Nor does it impact me or my kids in anyway. But it’s surely a sign of how deranged you’ve gotten over your kid being rejected. I mean not even a courtesy WL, just outright rejected. That’s gotta sting.

Have you had a diagnosis of bipolar disorder yet?

Where’s your kid going to go to school next year since they didn’t get into STA?

She has a point.

Most boys admitted to STA are hooked. Unhooked boys have to be better to overcome the hooks most other boys have. That’s the way it works and everyone, including you, knows it.

So some of the boys in your “everyone” got in on merit but most did not. How that worked for the PP’s son? I don’t know.

I make no apologies for that PP but you and by extension STA aren’t coming off very well in this little spat.