Anonymous
Post 11/16/2020 13:19     Subject: Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My sister’s DIL contacted her recently to request that she take down just one of the three pictures she’d posted on FB of the baby’s first bday. Why? He was crying in the picture (did not want anything to do with his smash cake). My sister complied but we both thought her reasoning was frighteningly controlling- Baby is usually happy! We don’t want to put those kind of pictures on social media because he’s not really like that. It made me terrified of the way she’s curating her kid’s life. Basically- he’s not allowed to cry? Because it reflects badly (she thinks) on her. What should my sister have done in this situation? She replied, well, I’ve never had anyone ask to censor my posts before, but ooookaaay. (More nicely than this but this was the gist)



This is weird. Would you post a photo of yourself crying? Why not? Why are you censoring yourself and trying to be so controlling about your image? It sounds a little off.


Not quite sure what you mean- it was the baby crying, adorably, at the idea of the cake. Is that really something that would be offensive or off limits for the parents on here who want to tell grandparents what to post and what not to? Srsly asking.


Would you post a picture of an adult in a scary, upsetting or surprising situation? What if they were crying or screaming? I don’t post many pics of my kids, but when I do I post flattering, happy pictures they wanted to pose for. Why not extend the same respect to children we do to other adults. That baby can’t consent. Maybe if he sees the picture later and finds it funny, he can post it himself.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2020 12:49     Subject: Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?
It is not their child. It is your child. You get to decide where pictures of your child appear. Tell them upfront that you'll send pictures, but you don't want them to be posted on social media. If you ever see one on social media, stop sending them. If they ask, say "the last one ended up on BoomerBook and we asked that you not, so we won't be sending anymore."

Grandparents on this board - IT IS NOT YOUR CHILD.
Anonymous
Post 11/16/2020 12:42     Subject: Implementing no photo sharing rule for in laws?
Anonymous wrote:I really don't think it's selfish to ask someone to not send photos of my child to strangers, to randos at their weird church, and to 3rd cousins who don't know us.

I think its pretty common to not do social media for a child? No?


No, it is not common at all for people who are on social media. Are you planning on putting burlap sacks over their heads when you leave the house, too? I just don't get it. Now, I think it is full on crazy when people post bath pictures or rant about their potty training struggles on social media, but my kids' school pictures or a snap of them smiling at the pumpkin patch? I don't get why that has to be top secret.