He’s gaslighting you and he’s getting defensive.
If it was an honest mistake, not his photo, someone sent it to him, etc. he should be able to provide you proof or at a minimum not be an ass about how you’re feeling

It's bad enough that he had the pics and is now trying to turn the tables on you, but for me, sleeping out the house is too big of an FU for me to continue to agonize over him. Sleep in the guest room, on the couch, in the basement, but not coming home is enough to help me start to get the emotional distance I need to respond with my head rather than my heart.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Op here. He came home yesterday after being out drinking with his friends the night before. He said he actually slept at his friends place and went out with him. He denies sexting and chatting with anyone. He is outraged I’d accuse him of cheating and says if he found nudes on my phone his first thought wouldn’t be to accuse me of cheating. He says this feels like an interrogation and he isn’t cool with it.

So I’m not getting any answers.

Sorry OP. This doesn’t sound good.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Op here. He came home yesterday after being out drinking with his friends the night before. He said he actually slept at his friends place and went out with him. He denies sexting and chatting with anyone. He is outraged I’d accuse him of cheating and says if he found nudes on my phone his first thought wouldn’t be to accuse me of cheating. He says this feels like an interrogation and he isn’t cool with it.

So I’m not getting any answers.

OP, his original story was that he was going to his parent's house for the night, correct? Now that changed to drinking with friends and sleeping at a friends house? This after telling you there was no picture when you know you saw one with your own eyes. Whatever is going on he is willing to lie to you and doesn't seem to place a high priority on your feelings. If he's not cheating I would hope he'd still be able to recognize that his wife is hurting and that he'd care about that. If his feelings matter (how dare you accuse me) then your feelings matter just as much. Marriage is a two way street. Do you have the funds to talk this through with someone--either a therapist or a lawyer? You might get some helpful insight from either one. I wish you well.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Op here. He came home yesterday after being out drinking with his friends the night before. He said he actually slept at his friends place and went out with him. He denies sexting and chatting with anyone. He is outraged I’d accuse him of cheating and says if he found nudes on my phone his first thought wouldn’t be to accuse me of cheating. He says this feels like an interrogation and he isn’t cool with it.

So I’m not getting any answers.

You know what you saw OP. So what does his behavior tell you now? How does it make you feel?

How old are your children?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Op here. He came home yesterday after being out drinking with his friends the night before. He said he actually slept at his friends place and went out with him. He denies sexting and chatting with anyone. He is outraged I’d accuse him of cheating and says if he found nudes on my phone his first thought wouldn’t be to accuse me of cheating. He says this feels like an interrogation and he isn’t cool with it.

So I’m not getting any answers.

Wait...what?
I thought the consensus was that he's a piece of shit and you should divorce him.
All the experts in here have pointed out that he's a liar, he's a cheater, he's childish, he's unapologetic, he's playing the victim etc. etc. etc.
You got all the answers you need - dump him and move on.

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Op here. He came home yesterday after being out drinking with his friends the night before. He said he actually slept at his friends place and went out with him. He denies sexting and chatting with anyone. He is outraged I’d accuse him of cheating and says if he found nudes on my phone his first thought wouldn’t be to accuse me of cheating. He says this feels like an interrogation and he isn’t cool with it.

So I’m not getting any answers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH here. ladies.

men will send other men (their freinds) pics of women. sometimes men will save pics on their phone of these women. because Damn. some women are very appealing to look at.

It doesn't mean that we don't find our wives attractive or desirable. Its just a a different woman to look at.

It's like going to a restaurant. Just because we like to look at the desert menu doesn't mean we will ever order food from it.

And the women who sent these photos, presumably privately to an intimate partner? Violating their privacy is okay? Gross.

Ladies, take note.

Exactly why I don’t allow photos of me to be taken!

Anonymous wrote:If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

If the thread hadn’t been hijacked by the “hot or not” crowd (plus the one criminal snapping pics at the gym), you would know that she did. First he said the photos didn't exist, then that he had accidentally downloaded porn, then came the angry denials and going to sleep at his parents house. Not looking good for OP, but I can’t blame her for never coming back to this thread given the idiots upthread.

If it were me, I would just ask my husband.

Immediately.

Please get back to us w/what he tells you.

Anonymous wrote:I can’t possibly make it through 17 pages but it’s a lot better that the pictures are of a naked middle age woman than 13 year olds.

Truth. Small things, right?

I can’t possibly make it through 17 pages but it’s a lot better that the pictures are of a naked middle age woman than 13 year olds.

OP, any response or update?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait op first he said no photo now there's a photo? He needs to find the site and show you.

And besides, whoever described a pork star as middle aged? Ding, ding, ding - something’s not right.

Pork star is correct

Pork star made my day. This thread took such annoying turns but that one saved it for me. I think I scared people in the office, I laughed so hard.