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Anonymous wrote:I won’t be friends with moms who don’t use babysitters. The ones who only use family. It’s not the babysitting thing per se - but it’s akways so indicative of the kind of mom I can’t stand.


I’m curious about the mom who hates the wine in sippy cup jokes. I don’t make those jokes and I definitely don’t wear a Rose All Day t-shirt (!!) but why does that bother you?

What other qualities do you associate with people who only use family to babysit? Just curious? Wine jokes bother me because they normalize alcohol as a coping mechanism and that can be disastrous for people vulnerable to addiction. If you have seen an alcoholic destroy themselves and their family you would not think it’s funny every time someone says “but first, wine”. Coffee jokes are ok with me though. Bring ALL the coffee jokes.

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Oh ok that makes sense. Hadn’t thought of that.
People who won’t use babysitters are always terribly annoying helicopter parents. Usually they like to bring their kids everywhere, even where no one wants them, and they hover and meddle and micromanage.
Sometimes people just don’t prioritize adult time - like when another mom says “I can’t have dinner next Thursday when everyone else can - DH has to work.” Get a sitter!! But people who don’t prioritize adult time aren’t evil or something - they are just not my type of people. So I don’t want to waste my time on them because I don’t have that much free time. I prefer people who do but some priority on adult relationships and friendships. Luckily there are enough of us around so we can just leave those other people at home.

Some of us are too broke for sitters in a whim. I’m ok with you not being ok with that. Truly.

Yes this! All of my mom friends are like this. They won't leave the house without their children even though the father lives there too! It's ridiculous. I workout almost every evening while my dh takes over. What kind of men did they marry? I once invited my friend to a free Brazilian steakhouse dinner and she wanted to bring her 2 year old. I told her children are not allowed. She took it literally and called the restaurant! Women who do not see the value in relationships outside their children annoy me. It's very hard to find moms who are not like this! Most of my friends are childless and in theirs 20s. I am 31.

Yes this. Why can't the fathers take care of the children? Women always have lame excuses.

Some of us are single or long term solo parenting. Also just as an aside, not everyone lives in a mom/dad/kid(s) family unit, get your head out of your bum and get current.