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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this update. I remember this thread well. It sounds like she thought this through very responsibly and I wish her all the best. I remember thinking when I was her age some of the same things said in this thread, that it would ruin my life to have a baby, derail all my important plans, etc. I even remember kind of understanding when a college couple made the news by throwing away their newborn; after all, it was going to ruin their lives, right? With the benefit of much hindsight I can see that life is long, with many opportunities to start fresh.

OP here. Yep. She talked to her advisor at college and it looks like she’ll be able to return in the fall and graduate on time with her class. This isn’t what any parent plans for their child, but I think the plan we have sets her on a good path going forward.

Asking because my DD is 14, so we have not hit this phase of life yet. Not to be snarky. In fact, hugs to you and your DD. And I’m sure someone is about to say something snarky about Math being hard. But I don’t know your DD’s school calendar. Is she stopping soon because she is literally going to give birth before the end of the next grading period? Or because she is uncomfortable at school in her third trimester? I was wondering how tolerant college kids were about pregnant peers in 2018?

Also, did she tell the dad? How did he react?

Again, hugs and good thoughts to your family.

Please have a therapist in place post birth.

Good for her. What a hard decision. You sound like a really supportive mom. Sending good thoughts your way

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for this update. I remember this thread well. It sounds like she thought this through very responsibly and I wish her all the best. I remember thinking when I was her age some of the same things said in this thread, that it would ruin my life to have a baby, derail all my important plans, etc. I even remember kind of understanding when a college couple made the news by throwing away their newborn; after all, it was going to ruin their lives, right? With the benefit of much hindsight I can see that life is long, with many opportunities to start fresh.

OP here. Yep. She talked to her advisor at college and it looks like she’ll be able to return in the fall and graduate on time with her class. This isn’t what any parent plans for their child, but I think the plan we have sets her on a good path going forward.

Thank you for this update. I remember this thread well. It sounds like she thought this through very responsibly and I wish her all the best. I remember thinking when I was her age some of the same things said in this thread, that it would ruin my life to have a baby, derail all my important plans, etc. I even remember kind of understanding when a college couple made the news by throwing away their newborn; after all, it was going to ruin their lives, right? With the benefit of much hindsight I can see that life is long, with many opportunities to start fresh.

Anonymous wrote:Update: she’s finishing up the semester and taking next semester off. She is giving the baby up for adoption to a couple who was unable to conceive.

thanks for update *hugs*

Update: she’s finishing up the semester and taking next semester off. She is giving the baby up for adoption to a couple who was unable to conceive.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp

Racist? I don't know what world you live in but civilized people do not have children whilst in college.

Really? My (married for two years) mom had me while in college in 1970 and I guarantee she was civilized.

Um....yes, she was. Sorry to break that news to you but I'm glad you turned out fine-ish.

That was 1970. Come on.

My childhood best friend and two other friends had abortions in college. All were relieved and moved on with life. My best friend would feel sad around the due date for a few years after, but not regret. That's probably common, but she's just the person I was close enough with to know.

Another friend had the baby, married the dad and had another kid, then got divorced and eventually remarried and had two more kids. It seems like everything turned out fine in the end, but the first husband was a real deadbeat and aside from the second child, I'm sure she regrets the decision.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp

Racist? I don't know what world you live in but civilized people do not have children whilst in college.

Really? My (married for two years) mom had me while in college in 1970 and I guarantee she was civilized.

Um....yes, she was. Sorry to break that news to you but I'm glad you turned out fine-ish.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp

Racist? I don't know what world you live in but civilized people do not have children whilst in college.

Really? My (married for two years) mom had me while in college in 1970 and I guarantee she was civilized.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp

Racist? I don't know what world you live in but civilized people do not have children whilst in college.

Yes, civilized people kill their children in the womb instead.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp

Racist? I don't know what world you live in but civilized people do not have children whilst in college.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She will not abort. Right now she wants to do the fall semester and then reevaluate...I do worry about the idea she’ll take time off and then never go back...adoption is still on the table too though.

The father goes to a different school 1200 miles away (they met at an internship) and they were never together.

Good that your daughter won't abort the baby. That can be the worst trauma for women.

*I'll say •one• of the worst traumas...

No, adoption is, especially if you get the wrong adoptive family.

Especially if they deform you or something like that. Do you personally know of some horrific child abuse situation?

Yes, my child’s sibling and the family was terribly shady on how they did it and the courts allowed it and their lies.

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Anonymous wrote:My SIL did. She took a few weeks off and MIL and FIL took care of baby until she graduated.

That's a seriously hillbilly/ghetto move.

You sound like a racist. Shame on you. -Dp