I say way to stick it to the patriarchy...by keeping the name you got from your father. That will show everyone!

I think the divorce will be easier

Only a loser with low self esteem and outdated ideas about masculinity would even care that his wife chose to keep her "maiden" name. Even that term, "maiden name" is outdated and stupid.

Anonymous wrote:It matters more than most men will admit. The logic of “keeping my father’s last name is more important to me than taking my husband’s last name” is flawed. It might be “common” amongst the 10,000 wealthy entitled anti-men DWs on this site — but is still rare in most of the US and most of the world.

Anonymous wrote:When men do admit it is important to us, women swoop in to tell us how insecure and pathetic we are..

My concern is women don't realize how important it is until they end up in a situation where it causes problems and resentment with a man who otherwise is a great match

Maybe men will decide that if we don't get the traditional privileges of marriage, we won't give our wives the traditional benefits they expect either

Please specify the "traditional benefits" of which you speak.

When men do admit it is important to us, women swoop in to tell us how insecure and pathetic we are..

My concern is women don't realize how important it is until they end up in a situation where it causes problems and resentment with a man who otherwise is a great match

Maybe men will decide that if we don't get the traditional privileges of marriage, we won't give our wives the traditional benefits they expect either

It matters more than most men will admit. The logic of “keeping my father’s last name is more important to me than taking my husband’s last name” is flawed. It might be “common” amongst the 10,000 wealthy entitled anti-men DWs on this site — but is still rare in most of the US and most of the world.

I'm getting married in 3 weeks and being in my late 30's, I won't be changing my last name. Future DH doesn't care and specially said "Who would want to do all of that anyway".

Deal breaker for me. If my wife wouldn’t do it I wouldn’t have gotten married. It’s one of the feet I have I’m traditional about.

I changed my name because my maiden is hard to pronounce and spell. Married name is easy! I do miss the originality of my maiden name while at the same time appreciate the ananomoty of my very common married name. Impossible to google me now.

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Most men take the guy for a cuck if wife keeps name. Sorry, I just don't respect these men.

Man here who disagrees. The cuck is the one who takes his wife’s name or agrees to them both changing their names to something made up. The guy whose wife keeps her name, outside of professional reasons to do so, is just whipped.

Lotta masculine anxiety on this thread, or maybe the snow just has the incel neckbeards posting more frequently.

Anonymous wrote:My first impression is -- awesome, that makes sense! Great to see another couple going this route.

We have different last names and are in the same professional field and it's been super convenient for it not to be obvious theat we are married (ie with recruiters). Who knew it would be so convenient.

Happily married. OTOH, my best friend changed her name and got divorced, major pain and she regrets changing.

I support every woman doing whatever she wants but this argument always struck me as bizarre. Divorce is a terrible messy painful experience for all involved. It involves boatloads of paperwork and heartbreak. How is the name issue what people take away from it?

My first impression is -- awesome, that makes sense! Great to see another couple going this route.

We have different last names and are in the same professional field and it's been super convenient for it not to be obvious theat we are married (ie with recruiters). Who knew it would be so convenient.

Happily married. OTOH, my best friend changed her name and got divorced, major pain and she regrets changing.

I had licenses so I kept my name, but I regret it.

i changed my name and i'm educated (phd from ivy league institution). that said that decision is an anomoly among my peers. either folks keep their names, make up new names combining the original names or the male takes the wife's name.

i didn't want my kids and i to have a different name. plus my relationship with my dad is not the best, so it was a way of distancing myself to an extent. i say to an extent because i added my husband's name rather than replaced by maiden name (not hypenated just added after the maiden name)