Anonymous
11/26/2016 17:09
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:1. DH and I were each others firsts and only at 19. Now 44.
Very happily married with healthy frequent sex for the last 25 years.
Very sweet! The rest of these stories sound like a writer of penthouse forums.
Some of these are probably true and others made up.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 17:07
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):
For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.
So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.
Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.
I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.
My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.
Make sense?
Great job explaining, you very succinctly posted exactly what I felt years ago without ever being able to put my finger on.
Nice work chief!
+2. I don't think women with high numbers understand just how hard an average guy has to work to get those kind of numbers. It's like white privilege only for attractive women. Privilege means you can be blissfully unaware and/or victim blame.
+3 Any woman in college can literally have sex with dozens of men just by breathing. But this guy hit the nail on the head. It is all about confidence plus hopefully with the MBA he started earning a good living.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 15:56
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
6. I am 52, and got with husband at 31. Before him I had a long-term FWB (8 years) so that helped keep my number low. 
Anonymous
11/26/2016 11:27
Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
I think somewhere between 6-12? I met my husband when I was 31.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 11:22
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):
For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.
So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.
Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.
I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.
My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.
Make sense?
Great job explaining, you very succinctly posted exactly what I felt years ago without ever being able to put my finger on.
Nice work chief!
+2. I don't think women with high numbers understand just how hard an average guy has to work to get those kind of numbers. It's like white privilege only for attractive women. Privilege means you can be blissfully unaware and/or victim blame.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 09:58
Subject: Re:How many men have you slept with?
3. Met my husband at 24 and haven't slept with anyone else since. Other 2 are serious college boyfriend, who I was with until I was 22, and one friend with benefits in between.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 09:56
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Because some men value the quality in women of being picky. Then when we pick them and nobody else will do, it means something. I'm the PP whose # was 3 btw. One of my good buddies in college had a number in the 100s at that time - so I am well familiar with the spectrum on this topic - but I am what I am - picky as hell, and can't go against my own nature. Like the Goddess and her temple up thread, I do think a guy needs to bring something more to the table than his appetite and presence, but I don't care about $ - I'm interested in personal qualities and what kind of company he will be.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 09:42
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
That's untrue. I've been with none yet and I am upfront with guys about it because I don't want someone who is that big of a ho when I'm not. Some claim to have been with hundreds or can't remember their number. I stop pursuing them if that's the case.
Agree. I definitely was not interested in a guy who couldn't see any difference between the last one, this one, and the next one, other than 'some is good and more is better.'
Anonymous
11/26/2016 08:27
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):
For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.
So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.
Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.
I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.
My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.
Make sense?
Great job explaining, you very succinctly posted exactly what I felt years ago without ever being able to put my finger on.
Nice work chief!
Anonymous
11/26/2016 08:04
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.
Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.
I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.
That's why women stay losing.
Yes I can pay my own bills but if I am fucking a man I am not paying for shit. My money is for saving. Keep being a cheap girl if you want. My time is valuable as is access to my temple.
Keep settling for being a sex object who pays for everything but don't tell other women that is empowering because its not. A man better be offering more than d*** because that's not too valuable in this marketplace.
Yeah, maybe you have me confused with some PP because no one is doing all that. But when you enjoy sex and that's where your interest lies with a particular man, the main value he brings is in that skill. The rest is secondary.
I'm on 2017 and beyond. Goddess status.
We are not sitting around talking about sex is his value because that is letting him off way too easy. Every man has a hard member and is ready to swing it. Thats nothing to him to learn to work it.
Tithes and offerings are required to enter my temple. I like sex. I also like vacations, properties, mutual funds, not flying coach (I'm not Russian by the way). Men want to "lead" and control all this....NO control your money so you can control these bills. Ladies stop letting these suckers off so easily. My temple heals and gives life. It generates strong vibrations. If a man can't swing an extra mortgage payment then sex should be the last thing on his mind.
$2,000 minimum spent before even breathing in the scent of my essence. And that's being nice since I know the economy is rough for those men who aren't on top of their game. Weak men keep it moving.
I can pay my own bills but if a man can't pay my bills then what is his purpose other than taking up space and putting me at risk of BV?
You're freaking weird.
It is weird for a woman to require a man bring something to her space other than a sense of entitlement, a willing wang, and pH imbalances. That's why women stay losing. And that WILL change.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 07:40
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.
Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.
I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.
That's why women stay losing.
Yes I can pay my own bills but if I am fucking a man I am not paying for shit. My money is for saving. Keep being a cheap girl if you want. My time is valuable as is access to my temple.
Keep settling for being a sex object who pays for everything but don't tell other women that is empowering because its not. A man better be offering more than d*** because that's not too valuable in this marketplace.
Yeah, maybe you have me confused with some PP because no one is doing all that. But when you enjoy sex and that's where your interest lies with a particular man, the main value he brings is in that skill. The rest is secondary.
I'm on 2017 and beyond. Goddess status.
We are not sitting around talking about sex is his value because that is letting him off way too easy. Every man has a hard member and is ready to swing it. Thats nothing to him to learn to work it.
Tithes and offerings are required to enter my temple. I like sex. I also like vacations, properties, mutual funds, not flying coach (I'm not Russian by the way). Men want to "lead" and control all this....NO control your money so you can control these bills. Ladies stop letting these suckers off so easily. My temple heals and gives life. It generates strong vibrations. If a man can't swing an extra mortgage payment then sex should be the last thing on his mind.
$2,000 minimum spent before even breathing in the scent of my essence. And that's being nice since I know the economy is rough for those men who aren't on top of their game. Weak men keep it moving.
I can pay my own bills but if a man can't pay my bills then what is his purpose other than taking up space and putting me at risk of BV?
You're freaking weird.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 07:38
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.
Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.
I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.
That's why women stay losing.
Yes I can pay my own bills but if I am fucking a man I am not paying for shit. My money is for saving. Keep being a cheap girl if you want. My time is valuable as is access to my temple.
Keep settling for being a sex object who pays for everything but don't tell other women that is empowering because its not. A man better be offering more than d*** because that's not too valuable in this marketplace.
Yeah, maybe you have me confused with some PP because no one is doing all that. But when you enjoy sex and that's where your interest lies with a particular man, the main value he brings is in that skill. The rest is secondary.
I'm on 2017 and beyond. Goddess status.
We are not sitting around talking about sex is his value because that is letting him off way too easy. Every man has a hard member and is ready to swing it. Thats nothing to him to learn to work it.
Tithes and offerings are required to enter my temple. I like sex. I also like vacations, properties, mutual funds, not flying coach (I'm not Russian by the way). Men want to "lead" and control all this....NO control your money so you can control these bills. Ladies stop letting these suckers off so easily. My temple heals and gives life. It generates strong vibrations. If a man can't swing an extra mortgage payment then sex should be the last thing on his mind.
$2,000 minimum spent before even breathing in the scent of my essence. And that's being nice since I know the economy is rough for those men who aren't on top of their game. Weak men keep it moving.
I can pay my own bills but if a man can't pay my bills then what is his purpose other than taking up space and putting me at risk of BV?
Eh. I've done the whole "buy me nice things for sex" and it's way overrated. Yea, I had some fun vacations, but things fizzle out pretty quickly and you're left with someone who you don't have much in common with and everyone just ends up resenting each other.
Maybe it's because I don't have the vibrating vagina. And mine has given life, but that just makes men want it even less.
I'd rather be left with assets and amazing experiences than to be left with wet sheets and a limp noodle.
Having one qualification does not mean all other qualifications go out the window. I can like someone, enjoy their company, and still require tithes and offerings before entering my temple. Confidence goes a long way. If you don't have it, these men will get away with murder.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 07:37
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Your DH is a hypocrite. But here is why some men freak out or become incensed by women with high numbers (as viewed by a man who once felt this way when I was young and insecure):
For your average man, sex isn't that easy to come by. Lots of asking women out, lots of approaching women in bars, coffee shops, and lots of rejection. When you find the right woman, and she actually returns your interest, for the average guy, it takes time to then build the connection, to be thoughtful and creative and win her over. Then, when the connection is established, it leads (hopefully) to sex.
So when average guy finds out he is number 37. He assumes most of guys 1-36 were the hot jocks, bad boy, wall st. trader cocky guys who did nothing other than be hot, confident and talk a good game and sealed the deal with minimal effort. Average guy feels duped, like he had to jump through a million hoops and while the sex is special to him, it isn't to her, or so it seems.
Or look at it this way. How a woman would feel if she had to push her boyfriend to take her out on a date, any date, only to find out he had taken 35 other women on lavish European vacations.
I was the nice guy in high school and college, the honest, fun, nice guy (not the brooding entitled nice guy). A bit chubby, kind of funny, lots of friends. I had sex with the occasional long term girlfriend, but again, lots of effort to find someone interested in me. And it did sting to find out she slept with the football players, the frat guys, etc. Then, after I got my MBA, lost weight, hit the mid-20s DC scene, got some confidence - women were suddenly everywhere.
My numbers are in the 40s. I met my DW, hers are in the teens. I wouldn't have cared if hers were higher because I played in the same pond, I had the fun of pre-marital sex, with lots of fun and not so fun nights. If I missed that, I could see being resentful.
Make sense?
Anonymous
11/26/2016 07:20
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:How come men care about a woman's previous sex life but unless the guy was a porn star, women couldn't care less about a man's previous history? Seriously, I have never heard of a woman saying a man had too many sex partners.
I'd love to hear someone explain this. DH freaked out over my number (30), but his number is 60-70. He thought 3 would have been a more acceptable number for me.
Anonymous
11/26/2016 07:15
Subject: How many men have you slept with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Stop having sex with men who haven't spent at least $2,000 on you and that's being generous. These men are getting off too easy. Don't be shamed into making them step up and give something besides dirty sheets.
Sex whoever you want as long as they are healthy, clean, and paying your bills. Keep your money. Spend his.
I can pay my own bills, I can't fuck myself.
That's why women stay losing.
Yes I can pay my own bills but if I am fucking a man I am not paying for shit. My money is for saving. Keep being a cheap girl if you want. My time is valuable as is access to my temple.
Keep settling for being a sex object who pays for everything but don't tell other women that is empowering because its not. A man better be offering more than d*** because that's not too valuable in this marketplace.
Yeah, maybe you have me confused with some PP because no one is doing all that. But when you enjoy sex and that's where your interest lies with a particular man, the main value he brings is in that skill. The rest is secondary.
I'm on 2017 and beyond. Goddess status.
We are not sitting around talking about sex is his value because that is letting him off way too easy. Every man has a hard member and is ready to swing it. Thats nothing to him to learn to work it.
Tithes and offerings are required to enter my temple. I like sex. I also like vacations, properties, mutual funds, not flying coach (I'm not Russian by the way). Men want to "lead" and control all this....NO control your money so you can control these bills. Ladies stop letting these suckers off so easily. My temple heals and gives life. It generates strong vibrations. If a man can't swing an extra mortgage payment then sex should be the last thing on his mind.
$2,000 minimum spent before even breathing in the scent of my essence. And that's being nice since I know the economy is rough for those men who aren't on top of their game. Weak men keep it moving.
I can pay my own bills but if a man can't pay my bills then what is his purpose other than taking up space and putting me at risk of BV?
Eh. I've done the whole "buy me nice things for sex" and it's way overrated. Yea, I had some fun vacations, but things fizzle out pretty quickly and you're left with someone who you don't have much in common with and everyone just ends up resenting each other.
Maybe it's because I don't have the vibrating vagina. And mine has given life, but that just makes men want it even less.