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Anonymous wrote:I think it's *awesome* to see an attractive man with a not-so-attractive woman who has give him kids. This tells me that the man really loves his wife for who she is, and not just for what she looks like; that he won't abandon her because she has some issues. I would hope my DH is the same if this kind of thing should ever happen to me, though DH is not hot attractive

Unfortunately, many of these men who stick with the not-so-attractive wife seek sex elsewhere.

The question is: Do they find it? Most attractive single women have enough common sense not to engage married men. Most married women are frumpy to this or that degree. What would be the point?

I work with several Asian women. Not sure about the parentage, but me thinks the Philippines and Thailand. Ugly as sin. No matter how well they age, they are ugly as sin.

There are many beautiful Thai and Filipinas. I see a lot of them in SoCal married to white men. I've worked with a lot of "ugly as sin" white women.

Point is: there are beautiful women of all ethnicities. But generally, non-white women's skin tend to age better.

Unless a woman wears sunscreen. I'm white and age much better than all my non-white counterparts of roughly the same age. With the exception of very very dark-skinned ones when... well, you really can't tell, to be frank. None of them are pretty to begin with. I also find that many Asian women have apple-shaped bodies and don't carry weight well at all. Yes, they absolutely get fat just like the rest of us.

I guess we all have our biases

Daily gym goer here who is always looking at bodies. This is the truth!

Obese is obese. If they are apples shape, it means that they are obese. White women don't carry that much weight well, either. Does it matter what fruit shape they have? More white women are overweight than more Asian women. This is the truth, too.

I'm going to go with small penis on the guy, especially if the woman looks bored or unappreciative of him in addition to being frumpy.

Not a whole lot of guys with options that would go with this.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

It's the lack of sleep for years after giving birth, running a household and often, having a full time career on top of all that, that adds stress, cortisol and weight gain.

That'll do it.

Hmmm. No, it won't. Extra calories will do it. I have weight to lose so I get it but, stop with the excuses. Weight gain/loss is a simple concept.

I'm the PP who made the 50 pound baby remark; but now I have to go the other way. Weight gain and loss isn't necessarily all that simple. People burn and store calories at different rates and, to make matters worse, people's bodies react differently to a reduction in calories. I'm relatively skinny and can eat health food, junk food, lots of food, not much food-- doesn't matter, my weight remains stable within about 3 or 4 pounds. Meanwhile, my wife exercises relentlessly and watches what she eats closely, and the pounds are remarkably stubborn. So, there are more variables at work than just caloric input.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

It's the lack of sleep for years after giving birth, running a household and often, having a full time career on top of all that, that adds stress, cortisol and weight gain.

That'll do it.

Hmmm. No, it won't. Extra calories will do it. I have weight to lose so I get it but, stop with the excuses. Weight gain/loss is a simple concept.

Ripping my ab muscles open shoveling while pregnant with DC2 did it for me. Still pissed about that and need surgery. Little 1 yo is cute as a button though!
Hope she fits my former size 4 designer wardrobe in 20 years!

Anonymous wrote:Jesus OP. I mean it's one thing to think this. That's bad enough. But to post it shows that really have no sense at all of how totally awful it is.

OP is some juvenile single woman in her 20s with nothing real to do. Far from having 1,2 or 3 kids herself.
Not sure what pool she is talking about either, all the outdoor rooftop and community pools in DC area open next month.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH is attractive and I was attractive up until I had my second last year. I now have a solid pooch and I'm frequently disheveled. It's just been a tough year.

There is a dad at our bus stop that stares at my pooch and my feet (my pedicure last month is fading fast!) and makes me feel so uncomfortable. It's creepy. So now he's creepy bus stop guy.

Don't be creepy bus stop guy.

Chipped nail polish? If so, that looks so bad. It takes less than 5 minutes to repaint your toes. Or just take the polish off all the way. Anything is better than the chipped polish look.

A different PP: people sometimes have bad weeks, a hard or bad year or two. Other people are not you.
Don't be creepy bus stop guy.

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Anonymous wrote:well this thread got weird and racial quickly

please, white women, tell us more of your thoughts on "asians", they are so well thought out and valuable, please bestow your insights on us

White women are just as sick of your stereotypes. Doesn't feel good, does it?

The truth hurts. Seriously, how can you argue that white women don't age faster? It's weird that you are in denial. Who do you think supports the anti-wrinkle, anti-aging skincare market?

Anonymous wrote:My DH is attractive and I was attractive up until I had my second last year. I now have a solid pooch and I'm frequently disheveled. It's just been a tough year.

There is a dad at our bus stop that stares at my pooch and my feet (my pedicure last month is fading fast!) and makes me feel so uncomfortable. It's creepy. So now he's creepy bus stop guy.

Don't be creepy bus stop guy.

Chipped nail polish? If so, that looks so bad. It takes less than 5 minutes to repaint your toes. Or just take the polish off all the way. Anything is better than the chipped polish look.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

It's the lack of sleep for years after giving birth, running a household and often, having a full time career on top of all that, that adds stress, cortisol and weight gain.

That'll do it.

Hmmm. No, it won't. Extra calories will do it. I have weight to lose so I get it but, stop with the excuses. Weight gain/loss is a simple concept.

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As a man, I look forward to the day when I just have no more fucks to give and start wearing dress socks with my shorts while mowing the lawn.

As a woman, I'd like to inquire what would be proper attire for mowing the lawn?

Usually - shorts, t-shirt, white socks, tennis shoes.

Pants!! Otherwise your legs will get shredded by flying debris.

Capris!!

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As a man, I look forward to the day when I just have no more fucks to give and start wearing dress socks with my shorts while mowing the lawn.

As a woman, I'd like to inquire what would be proper attire for mowing the lawn?

Usually - shorts, t-shirt, white socks, tennis shoes.

Pants!! Otherwise your legs will get shredded by flying debris.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

It's the lack of sleep for years after giving birth, running a household and often, having a full time career on top of all that, that adds stress, cortisol and weight gain.

That'll do it.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

It's the lack of sleep for years after giving birth, running a household and often, having a full time career on top of all that, that adds stress, cortisol and weight gain.

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Anonymous wrote:You do sound mean OP. I used to be hot and now I'm 50 pounds overweight. My DH is still hot...he didn't have a baby! Don't judge too harshly...it may be you someday.

Oh, I want to be understanding. Aging, pregnancy, metabolism, and life generally have a way of taking a toll on our bodies. But, come on, you didn't have a 50 pound baby!

Seriously?

Yeah. There are all kinds of reasons people gain weight and having a baby is one of them. But, beyond a certain point, the baby is just an excuse.

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As a man, I look forward to the day when I just have no more fucks to give and start wearing dress socks with my shorts while mowing the lawn.

As a woman, I'd like to inquire what would be proper attire for mowing the lawn?

Usually - shorts, t-shirt, white socks, tennis shoes.