Anonymous wrote:

That's exactly the impression I got. That the teacher is overworked and over scheduled and she doesn't have any mental energy to deal with my DD's issues

OP, the teacher may be doing more than you know.
It would be unprofessional for her to agree with you that the child is a bully.

I wanted her to be there and monitor and correct. She told my DD to come tell her when there is a problem at recess and then did not show up.

Anonymous wrote:My guess is that your increasingly unsavory description of the other girl and her behavior toward your DD is your way to capture sympathy for yourself and your DD. And to distract from the unreasonable wish list you have for your daughter's individualized school year.

Why is it unreasonable to expect for children to work on their individual needs?

I sent DD to school and purposely wasn't involved because I don't want to helicopter parent. But she started telling me more about school and I started to pay attention I've become very disappointed.

I'm not looking for your sympathy. I'm just venting.

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Anonymous wrote:

Why don't you help your daughter develop the social skills to deal with these situations? You can't shelter her from everything in this world. There are mean kids everywhere.

How do I do that?

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/childrens-health/in-depth/bullying/art-20044918?pg=2

That's exactly the impression I got. That the teacher is overworked and over scheduled and she doesn't have any mental energy to deal with my DD's issues

OP, the teacher may be doing more than you know.
It would be unprofessional for her to agree with you that the child is a bully.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Why don't you help your daughter develop the social skills to deal with these situations? You can't shelter her from everything in this world. There are mean kids everywhere.

How do I do that?

Oh. My. God.

You just identified the entire root of this problem.

Please, talk to a counselor who can help you develop the parenting skills to help your child. I told you upthread EXACTLY how I do this and you came back with a smartass, dismissive comment suggesting that I was saying you should call your daughter a liar. I can't help you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You haven't taken her out of the school yet because you're trying to figure out a strategy to deal with the world not being fair?

Because you are right and I do want her to learn to be resilient. That's why she went there again today.

However, it's unacceptable that my DD is m being prevented to play the way she wants and make new friends. I don't want her to be in a tandem with a bully who overpowers her. DD is shy and gets scared when someone pushes her hard. I try to role play at home with her but she hasn't been able to stand up to her yet.

But knowing the girl's parent, no one is able to stand up to him either. Most just walk away and leave. And it seems to be the only best bet.

Listen, OP, NO ONE on this thread is telling you to send your 5 yr old off to be bullied by a classmate. Of course, you should talk to the teacher and, if you have to, take it to the principal and counselor.

My guess is that your increasingly unsavory description of the other girl and her behavior toward your DD is your way to capture sympathy for yourself and your DD. And to distract from the unreasonable wish list you have for your daughter's individualized school year.

If your child is being bullied, deal with that. But my guess is that your story and your attitude will keep flip-flopping as the thread goes on.

Yes, OP sure wants attention. And I can't. look. away. It's like a train wreck!

Anonymous wrote:

Why don't you help your daughter develop the social skills to deal with these situations? You can't shelter her from everything in this world. There are mean kids everywhere.

How do I do that?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teachers have busy, stressful jobs, and they don't have time to deal with every petty, histrionic thing parents bring to their attention.

That's exactly the impression I got. That the teacher is overworked and over scheduled and she doesn't have any mental energy to deal with my DD's issues.

So basically the kids get zero individual attention because the teacher is trying to rush through multiple worksheets and constantly multitasking. Again, how is this a good education?

And again, you know all of this based on one volunteer hour in the classroom? Okay, drama llama.

My point was the teacher doesn't have the time to deal with YOUR issues. Probably because your histrionics are not worth the effort.

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I want longer recess.

Don't we all! Seriously, how long is your child's recess? For all day K, I think they need it twice a day. Mostly, though, this is regulated these days.

once a day for 20 minutes

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You haven't taken her out of the school yet because you're trying to figure out a strategy to deal with the world not being fair?

Because you are right and I do want her to learn to be resilient. That's why she went there again today.

However, it's unacceptable that my DD is m being prevented to play the way she wants and make new friends. I don't want her to be in a tandem with a bully who overpowers her. DD is shy and gets scared when someone pushes her hard. I try to role play at home with her but she hasn't been able to stand up to her yet.

But knowing the girl's parent, no one is able to stand up to him either. Most just walk away and leave. And it seems to be the only best bet.

Listen, OP, NO ONE on this thread is telling you to send your 5 yr old off to be bullied by a classmate. Of course, you should talk to the teacher and, if you have to, take it to the principal and counselor.

My guess is that your increasingly unsavory description of the other girl and her behavior toward your DD is your way to capture sympathy for yourself and your DD. And to distract from the unreasonable wish list you have for your daughter's individualized school year.

If your child is being bullied, deal with that. But my guess is that your story and your attitude will keep flip-flopping as the thread goes on.

Anonymous wrote:Teachers have busy, stressful jobs, and they don't have time to deal with every petty, histrionic thing parents bring to their attention.

That's exactly the impression I got. That the teacher is overworked and over scheduled and she doesn't have any mental energy to deal with my DD's issues.

So basically the kids get zero individual attention because the teacher is trying to rush through multiple worksheets and constantly multitasking. Again, how is this a good education?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

You haven't taken her out of the school yet because you're trying to figure out a strategy to deal with the world not being fair?

Because you are right and I do want her to learn to be resilient. That's why she went there again today.

However, it's unacceptable that my DD is m being prevented to play the way she wants and make new friends. I don't want her to be in a tandem with a bully who overpowers her. DD is shy and gets scared when someone pushes her hard. I try to role play at home with her but she hasn't been able to stand up to her yet.

But knowing the girl's parent, no one is able to stand up to him either. Most just walk away and leave. And it seems to be the only best bet.

Why don't you help your daughter develop the social skills to deal with these situations? You can't shelter her from everything in this world. There are mean kids everywhere.

I want longer recess.

Don't we all! Seriously, how long is your child's recess? For all day K, I think they need it twice a day. Mostly, though, this is regulated these days.

I wanted them to do more hands on tasks and games instead of mostly CC worksheets.

Agree. As a former K teacher, I tried to keep worksheets to a minimum. However, this is school and some are necessary and have value. All day? NO.

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Anonymous wrote:

Wow! You think cooperation is only learned by working in teams? Really? I taught K, the kids do things together constantly.

not in our class. They are not doing things together. They just work individually on worksheets.

How do you know this? Have you asked the teacher about the daily schedule/activities? I posted at 10:08 and the reason I know is that I talk to my child's teacher. You keep saying your child's teacher is dismissive - part of that may be in how you are coming across. If your attitude with him/her is anything like what you've expressed here, I'd probably blow you off too. Teachers have busy, stressful jobs, and they don't have time to deal with every petty, histrionic thing parents bring to their attention.

If you want to be constructive, ask for a meeting with the principal and try to be rational in addressing your concerns.