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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, dating for 6-8 weeks is not "seriously dating."

Um...yeah it is. I can only imagine, from a man's perspective, dating a girl I really like for 6-8 weeks, spending maybe $1000 or more on the dates, having her hint at LTR potential, then walk into a bar to see her flirting drunkenly with a "jock" type. it would be like a kick in the gut. She admitted to fucking him but he didn't need to hear it - he guessed it already. He spent $1000 on a woman he really liked, while she was getting fucked senseless by a man she has no feelings for. No man with an ounce of self-respect would date that woman again. And it's incredibly cold-hearted to spew "she can date whoever she wants" without understanding the feelings involved. OP must understand this is over and learn from her mistake. If I were guy #1 I might go for the bang, but I think I'd just cut off contact.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, dating for 6-8 weeks is not "seriously dating."

Um...yeah it is. I can only imagine, from a man's perspective, dating a girl I really like for 6-8 weeks, spending maybe $1000 or more on the dates, having her hint at LTR potential, then walk into a bar to see her flirting drunkenly with a "jock" type. it would be like a kick in the gut. She admitted to fucking him but he didn't need to hear it - he guessed it already. He spent $1000 on a woman he really liked, while she was getting fucked senseless by a man she has no feelings for. No man with an ounce of self-respect would date that woman again. And it's incredibly cold-hearted to spew "she can date whoever she wants" without understanding the feelings involved. OP must understand this is over and learn from her mistake. If I were guy #1 I might go for the bang, but I think I'd just cut off contact.

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Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

You sound like an awful person. Adults do not become "trash" because they enjoy casual, consensual sex. OP's mistake was not being clear with Guy 1 whether they were exclusive or not.

She wasn't clear because she wanted him to think they were exclusive and to see her as a marriage prospect - while she was getting fucked every which way by a guy she had no feelings for. She wanted her cake and eating it too. Luckily guy #1 found out what kind of girl she really is. A woman who fucks men she just met and has no feelings for is, by definition, not a LTR prospect.

Interesting. Where does this definition come from? Are the men who have casual sex also by definition not LTR prospects?

Men =/= women. We have our own rules to live up to, actually many more than women do. Women don't have to do much other than stay in shape, be friendly, and not fuck everyone in town.

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Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

You sound like an awful person. Adults do not become "trash" because they enjoy casual, consensual sex. OP's mistake was not being clear with Guy 1 whether they were exclusive or not.

She wasn't clear because she wanted him to think they were exclusive and to see her as a marriage prospect - while she was getting fucked every which way by a guy she had no feelings for. She wanted her cake and eating it too. Luckily guy #1 found out what kind of girl she really is. A woman who fucks men she just met and has no feelings for is, by definition, not a LTR prospect.

Interesting. Where does this definition come from? Are the men who have casual sex also by definition not LTR prospects?

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, dating for 6-8 weeks is not "seriously dating."

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, dating for 6-8 weeks is not "seriously dating."

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Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

You sound like an awful person. Adults do not become "trash" because they enjoy casual, consensual sex. OP's mistake was not being clear with Guy 1 whether they were exclusive or not.

She wasn't clear because she wanted him to think they were exclusive and to see her as a marriage prospect - while she was getting fucked every which way by a guy she had no feelings for. She wanted her cake and eating it too. Luckily guy #1 found out what kind of girl she really is. A woman who fucks men she just met and has no feelings for is, by definition, not a LTR prospect.

Interesting. Where does this definition come from? Are the men who have casual sex also by definition not LTR prospects?

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Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

You sound like an awful person. Adults do not become "trash" because they enjoy casual, consensual sex. OP's mistake was not being clear with Guy 1 whether they were exclusive or not.

She wasn't clear because she wanted him to think they were exclusive and to see her as a marriage prospect - while she was getting fucked every which way by a guy she had no feelings for. She wanted her cake and eating it too. Luckily guy #1 found out what kind of girl she really is. A woman who fucks men she just met and has no feelings for is, by definition, not a LTR prospect.

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Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

You sound like an awful person. Adults do not become "trash" because they enjoy casual, consensual sex. OP's mistake was not being clear with Guy 1 whether they were exclusive or not.

Anonymous wrote:If you "really liked" #1, and saw long-term potential, why did you allow yourself to get fucked, repeatedly, by a guy you don't like much and recently met? have you heard of herpes? AIDS?

#1 hopefully fucked you and then chucked you. You've shown (by spreading your legs for two guys who are not your boyfriends) that you're trash and not LTR worthy.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if op is a troll, this situation is the norm. Once society crossed the line and said sex before marriage was fine, all bets are off. Everyone now just judges everyone else. They slut shame people or freak out if people come on too strong and want a serious relationship. If OP had ditched guy 2 and 3 right away then guy 1 would have gotten the vibe that OP wanted a serious relationship too fast. Dating is such a game to people and everyone judges. But the stakes are high because you are looking for a lifetime partner someone you will have children and grandchildren with. Who cares who she dates. No one wins until they find the person they will stick with.

+1 ... and the choices that women make in their love/sex lives are held up to much closer scruitiny and judgement than the choices of men.

Yes, but for good reason. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and the mothers of the next generation. Women literally decide what our future population is.

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Anonymous wrote:This girl is the epitome of everything that keeps getting discussed over and over. Wants to take things slowly with guy 1, but immediately has sex with guy 2 and guy 3.

Same scenario, different woman, over and over and over. If guy 1 has brains, he will run.

You know, I'm not sure why he'd run. Maybe if his ego was bruised. But he could also take this opportunity to be clearer about what it is he wants here, instead of assuming that this woman in her 20s is home knitting on Friday nights that they don't have plans together.

There's nothing wrong with having sex. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex. There's nothing wrong with also wanting a relationship. And to hell with the slut-shaming around here from a bunch of prim pearl-clutchers.

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Anonymous wrote:Even if op is a troll, this situation is the norm. Once society crossed the line and said sex before marriage was fine, all bets are off. Everyone now just judges everyone else. They slut shame people or freak out if people come on too strong and want a serious relationship. If OP had ditched guy 2 and 3 right away then guy 1 would have gotten the vibe that OP wanted a serious relationship too fast. Dating is such a game to people and everyone judges. But the stakes are high because you are looking for a lifetime partner someone you will have children and grandchildren with. Who cares who she dates. No one wins until they find the person they will stick with.

+1 ... and the choices that women make in their love/sex lives are held up to much closer scruitiny and judgement than the choices of men.