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Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?

I responded to this same thing earlier - It was a very, very long time ago. She had been neglecting the kids and it was said right after he found out. I think it is probably the most insulting thing I have ever heard anyone say. I do "feel good" about being married to him because I understand why he said it. Imagine how you would feel if you found out someone had been harming your children. They were very little at the time - 4 and 6. Remember, he was awarded legal and physical custody. Judges very rarely award sole custody and it's even rarer for it to be given to a father. Think a little bit about what that means.....

I do feel badly that she was hurt by it. Despite the fact that it's true, it must have been a horrible thing to hear.

I have no idea what the others are onto, but I would be EXTREMELY proud of your husband. Not only did he gain custody of his kids, he married a woman who became a mother to them and he recognized how wonderful you are. Personally, I don't care how their mother felt about hearing the truth; I think he was right to say it. Why? Because the children were being hurt and her feelings don't matter in this situation. You married a good man. A damn good man. And vice-versa. Thank you for being a mom, and not a step-mom.

Thank you! The kids were 4 and 6 when we got custody. They are 18 and 21 now! And they are just amazing kids! I am the lucky one

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Anonymous wrote:"Of course they let you in to <insert name of highly competitive engineering-focused college>. You're a girl. You could be a total idiot, and as long as you wore a skirt to the interview, you're in."
Spoken by a fellow (male) student, among others.
Riiiight. Having near-perfect math SAT, ACT and GPA, not to mention a national engineering award, had nothing to do with it. They accepted me - and gave me a merit scholarship - cause I wore a skirt (which I didn't, btw). Good to know I'm so highly valued as an engineer and as a person.

I laughed it off the first time, but it got pretty tiresome after hearing it about 20 times from different guys (including students, TAs, administrators, alumni, parents of high school friends, and anyone else you can think of).

20 times? there must be some truth to it then. No?

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Muslim woman who looks very Muslimish (colored skin, headscarf, big beautiful eyes lol!!) and I've had pretty much all the cliche insults thrown at me...you learn to let it roll off your back after the 20th time some loser drives by and calls you a terrorist or tells you to go back to your country, but I think the most insulting thing said to me by a stranger has to be the little old Chinese lady telling me to go back to go my own country (in a heavy Chinese accent lol). It was comical but saddening that she felt like she belonged here more than I do even though I was born and raised here :-/ I thought we minorities had each other's back, so that was a rude awakening.
Btw she freaked out because she thought I took her parking spot (Christmas season, ugh) but there were two cars pulling out at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:From my mother: "Having you was the worst mistake I ever made. You ruined my life."

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Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?

I responded to this same thing earlier - It was a very, very long time ago. She had been neglecting the kids and it was said right after he found out. I think it is probably the most insulting thing I have ever heard anyone say. I do "feel good" about being married to him because I understand why he said it. Imagine how you would feel if you found out someone had been harming your children. They were very little at the time - 4 and 6. Remember, he was awarded legal and physical custody. Judges very rarely award sole custody and it's even rarer for it to be given to a father. Think a little bit about what that means.....

I do feel badly that she was hurt by it. Despite the fact that it's true, it must have been a horrible thing to hear.

I have no idea what the others are onto, but I would be EXTREMELY proud of your husband. Not only did he gain custody of his kids, he married a woman who became a mother to them and he recognized how wonderful you are. Personally, I don't care how their mother felt about hearing the truth; I think he was right to say it. Why? Because the children were being hurt and her feelings don't matter in this situation. You married a good man. A damn good man. And vice-versa. Thank you for being a mom, and not a step-mom.

Thank you! The kids were 4 and 6 when we got custody. They are 18 and 21 now! And they are just amazing kids! I am the lucky one

Anonymous wrote:My MIL - of English descent, hair is a mess. has a mole on her face with a hair. 30 lbs overweight, big boned. Always frowning. Needs her teeth cleaned.

Me - Eastern European, slight build. Great teeth.

Mom: Men always marry women who look like their MILs

Me: My husband didn't.

Mom: Yes he did.

Anonymous wrote:"Wow, your bottom doesn't look like a rhinocerous like the last time I saw you!"

Said by my grandmother when I was home from college for a visit. I guess that was a compliment though? It was such a ridiculous statement (I was maybe down 5 pounds, but had never been seriously overweight) and so typical of my grandmother that even at the time I could laugh about it, though I remember it to this day!

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Anonymous wrote:My DH told his ex-wife that a cat was a better mother and beyond an egg and a uterus, her contribution to their children was unremarkable. He also told her that she should be thanking me for being willing to step up and become the mother the kids had always deserved.

All this about a week after we got custody of my stepkids. She really is a terrible mother. She sees the kids an average of one time a year for two or three days. The kids were 4 and 6 when we gained custody. They are 21 and 18 now and have almost no relationship with their biological mother. Still, those words haunt me because I know they had to devastate her.

and you feel good about being married to someone who would say this?

I responded to this same thing earlier - It was a very, very long time ago. She had been neglecting the kids and it was said right after he found out. I think it is probably the most insulting thing I have ever heard anyone say. I do "feel good" about being married to him because I understand why he said it. Imagine how you would feel if you found out someone had been harming your children. They were very little at the time - 4 and 6. Remember, he was awarded legal and physical custody. Judges very rarely award sole custody and it's even rarer for it to be given to a father. Think a little bit about what that means.....

I do feel badly that she was hurt by it. Despite the fact that it's true, it must have been a horrible thing to hear.

I have no idea what the others are onto, but I would be EXTREMELY proud of your husband. Not only did he gain custody of his kids, he married a woman who became a mother to them and he recognized how wonderful you are. Personally, I don't care how their mother felt about hearing the truth; I think he was right to say it. Why? Because the children were being hurt and her feelings don't matter in this situation. You married a good man. A damn good man. And vice-versa. Thank you for being a mom, and not a step-mom.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a Muslim woman who looks very Muslimish (colored skin, headscarf, big beautiful eyes lol!!) and I've had pretty much all the cliche insults thrown at me...you learn to let it roll off your back after the 20th time some loser drives by and calls you a terrorist or tells you to go back to your country, but I think the most insulting thing said to me by a stranger has to be the little old Chinese lady telling me to go back to go my own country (in a heavy Chinese accent lol). It was comical but saddening that she felt like she belonged here more than I do even though I was born and raised here :-/ I thought we minorities had each other's back, so that was a rude awakening.
Btw she freaked out because she thought I took her parking spot (Christmas season, ugh) but there were two cars pulling out at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:While at a football game, a guy said to his friend "tell that <n-word> beer man to get up here". Then, they turn to me and said "hey buddy, want a beer?"

I am a black man.