... who can only be "friends" with people who really need them - do you know anyone like that? I mean, it starts out o.k. and you start getting to know each other and you realize "hey, i am not a needy person, ya know?" but this other person only likes people who really NEED help. Not that there's anything wrong with that! But I'm fairly well adjusted and self sufficient and pay my bills and don't have BIG INSURMOUNTABLE PROBLEMS so i guess i realize that excludes me from relationships with people who just have to be helping all the time. Giving Advice, articles, introductions to experts, e-forwards, etc. I don't need that! I only need you know, friends!

Who can't look into my eyes and give me a smile.

I can't be friends with people who have so many rules about who they can be friends with. I'll give almost anyone a chance.

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Anonymous wrote:who don't read. I can't stand people who are not curious about the world. When I think about my true friends, they are all really big readers. They are interested in life and current events and stuff in general. People who don't read the newspaper or read anything (except a trashy novel once in a while) or say they hate reading bug me!

ITA. The way to be a lifelong learner is to read voraciously from a variety of sources. And just because you've read every Stephen King novel doesn't mean you are "well read."

I agree with this. But I also hate movie and literary snobs. I want to say to them, "I work my ass off all day and am completely exhausted. If I come home and want to read a British chick lit novel, don't look at me like I should reading Tolstoy and judge me."

At least you're reading! What I'm talking about is people who read mass market drivel but think they're literary.

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Anonymous wrote:who don't read. I can't stand people who are not curious about the world. When I think about my true friends, they are all really big readers. They are interested in life and current events and stuff in general. People who don't read the newspaper or read anything (except a trashy novel once in a while) or say they hate reading bug me!

ITA. The way to be a lifelong learner is to read voraciously from a variety of sources. And just because you've read every Stephen King novel doesn't mean you are "well read."

I agree with this. But I also hate movie and literary snobs. I want to say to them, "I work my ass off all day and am completely exhausted. If I come home and want to read a British chick lit novel, don't look at me like I should reading Tolstoy and judge me."

Anonymous wrote:who don't read. I can't stand people who are not curious about the world. When I think about my true friends, they are all really big readers. They are interested in life and current events and stuff in general. People who don't read the newspaper or read anything (except a trashy novel once in a while) or say they hate reading bug me!

ITA. The way to be a lifelong learner is to read voraciously from a variety of sources. And just because you've read every Stephen King novel doesn't mean you are "well read."

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. Non-drinker here. So you guys wouldn't be my friends? I'm surprised - but I guess I should have figured that people are thinking that behind my back.

Just to let you know. I wish I could drink.

Why can't you? FWIW I would not care if you did not drink and were my friend. I would only have an issue if you were smug or condescending about my drinking

Do people who drink think that non-drinkers are judging them? I don't drink because I don't enjoy it, but for some reason it really throws people off. I'm not loosing any sleep about what other people are or are not drinking. Why does anyone care what I am or am not drinking?

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Anonymous wrote:breast-feed their kids until they are 3 or older

eeew! this! even 2 is gross

Shut up, dummies.

who don't read. I can't stand people who are not curious about the world. When I think about my true friends, they are all really big readers. They are interested in life and current events and stuff in general. People who don't read the newspaper or read anything (except a trashy novel once in a while) or say they hate reading bug me!

I can't be friends with others who regurgitate others thoughts. Have your own views or keep it to yourself. DH and I also could not care less about your politics. Go home and rant to your husband about it. Oh that's right, he's tired of you and you can't stand to be around each other. Match made in heaven.

live their lives through their kids

Anonymous wrote:-... a mother who left her kids with some teenaged babysitter, or someone she hired off craigslist, to get wasted with her drinking buddies, and trash talk the man she married.

-... a mother who left her kids with some teenaged babysitter, or someone she hired off craigslist, to get wasted with her drinking buddies, and trash talk the man she married.

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Anonymous wrote:1. don't drink
2. don't complain about their husbands
3. don't hire babysitters

Luckily, these three things often go hand-in-hand so it doesn't elimitate too many people.
What are yours?

You seem like an idiot. This whole thread is idiotic--you can't be friends with people who don't feel/do exactly the same as you do, in other words. How narrow and limiting.

+1 OP can't be friends with sober people? Maybe AA would be a good suggestion.

-smokers

-people who principally don't vaccinate

-people who abuse their kids physically or verbally

-people who talk bad about others behind their back but are super friendly in their face