Anonymous
Post 02/14/2024 23:47     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I'm his number 4 and regret it every day.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2024 23:38     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
The bigger question is if I'd ever marry again, period. No. The downside outweighs the upside. Dating, sure.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2024 23:12     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I'd probably date but definitely wouldn't marry.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2024 23:11     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
The odds of a fourth marriages working is pretty much zero statistically so your basically guaranteed a divorce a few years down the line.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2024 23:08     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
After three it must be me.
Words to live by!!!
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 20:31     Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:New poster and not going to read this many pages.

Just came to say: The man your friend is seeing may not be fully disclosing all his relationships--or even all his marriages. I know someone who is on marriage 5 but whose wife only knows about three of the marriages before her. One of the exes still does very occasional contract work for the DH and he doesn't want wife 5 to know that he and contractor were married for a couple of years a few decades back. BTW, I am sure there's nothing going on between him and the ex--he's crazy about 5 and the ex has moved on too. He just doesn't think the long-ago marriage of maybe six years, and the ongoing occasional contact, are worth telling 5 about, especially years into the marriage with 5. Yes, 5 has met this ex several times so knows she exists but doesn't know he was married to her.

Would that scenario bother your friend and break her trust, OP, or could she live with that kind of thing if she found out later he hadn't listed his full history?


Pp here. I think the number of marriages, divorces and kids have to be disclosed. Not the number of sex partners or significant others. I would consider that a huge breach of trust.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 20:29     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My dad is on his third wife, and he's my stepmom's fifth husband. Her first husband died, but then she got divorced three times. Despite the incredible level of trashiness of this, she's a really great person. I think that she made some terrible mistakes in the past with men, but she and my dad seem really happy after 10 years together. One night (after a few glasses of wine) I told them that they'd better never split up because they're really too old to get married yet again. Hopefully they stick together. I really think that she's the best thing that ever happened to my dad.


This sounded so familiar when I was reading it and realized that it was my response from nine (!!!) years ago! My dad and stepmom are still married, but she's dying of terminal cancer now. Very sad for both of them, as they've been together for nearly 20 years.


That is really awesome! Thanks for sharing that random update!
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 20:18     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
No way.... Ex wife is in her 3rd marriage
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 17:33     Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
My ex DW’s late father was on number 7 when he passed. The whole family was super loaded several generations back and getting divorced from time to time was de rigueur, for lack of a better term. The old man had this quote: “I like being married, just not to the same person for too long.”

Now I’m happily remarried to someone who actually takes the institution of marriage (although flawed) as a serious commitment.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 14:32     Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I'm not dating the guy, but my GF is. All three are divorces.


what does she see in the guy? doe he have $$$$? a big unit?
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 14:23     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:My dad is on his third wife, and he's my stepmom's fifth husband. Her first husband died, but then she got divorced three times. Despite the incredible level of trashiness of this, she's a really great person. I think that she made some terrible mistakes in the past with men, but she and my dad seem really happy after 10 years together. One night (after a few glasses of wine) I told them that they'd better never split up because they're really too old to get married yet again. Hopefully they stick together. I really think that she's the best thing that ever happened to my dad.


This sounded so familiar when I was reading it and realized that it was my response from nine (!!!) years ago! My dad and stepmom are still married, but she's dying of terminal cancer now. Very sad for both of them, as they've been together for nearly 20 years.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 12:01     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:" Would you invest in someone who has gone bankrupt three times? "

I might. Look at Thomas Alva Edison. He went bankrupt multiple times. His motto: you learn more from your failures than from your successes.

George Washington's military resume also comes to mind.

Yeah that’s who I’d compare the flaming jackass in the White House to, all right.
Washington and Edison. Yep, sounds about right.


Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 11:23     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
" Would you invest in someone who has gone bankrupt three times? "

I might. Look at Thomas Alva Edison. He went bankrupt multiple times. His motto: you learn more from your failures than from your successes.

George Washington's military resume also comes to mind.
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 11:12     Subject: Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
I'm my husband's third marriage. He lied to me about only being married once before or I never would have married him in the first place. I didn't find out about his first one until we were already married. Once we divorce he'll probably lie to her as well. He's a horrible husband. Good luck to #4!
Anonymous
Post 01/27/2020 08:12     Subject: Re:Would you marry someone who's been divorced 3 times already???
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Would you invest in someone who has gone bankrupt three times? Of course not! But then we elected him president!


Not that it matters but the President has not declared personal bankruptcy even one time. However, he did bankrupt a few of his businesses.


Distinction without a difference.